What Would Love Do?

Men Love Women Who Surprisingly Do THIS Should midlife men be expected to pay for everything? It’s one thing to talk about courting a woman and paying for the dates but once that period is over and you decide to commit to one another, is this still expected of men? We’re talking finances in this episode and the expectations that midlife men and women have about money. Once upon a time...

THIS Is Why Men Make Weak Leaders In A Relationship Men (and women) of a certain age are very set in their ways. Seldom do they want to veer from what’s comfortable and they fall into the trap of “my way is the only way.” Staying in that comfort zone, however, prohibits growth and will limit their chances of having a meaningful relationship. I don’t know too many women who...

He Just Went Silent, How Should I React? Men go silent for numerous reasons – fear, uncertainty, doubt – and when they go silent, they’re either avoiding or processing their feelings. You have every right to react when you receive the silent treatment but it’s the HOW you react that can make or break a relationship. Let’s have a DEEPER conversation about being true to...

What Men Consider AMAZING Sex | The Truth We’re going to have a spicier conversation today about sex and the emotional connection we have with our body. A lot of men who approach sex from an ego perspective think they want hot and kinky sex but the reality is, many men simply don’t know what they want – or how to communicate that. Let’s have a DEEPER conversation about appr...

Strong Signs He’s Serious About You And Is Committed To You Commitment looks different when you’re in your midlife years and it’s very different from your 2os and 30s when most people are looking for a spouse and to raise a family. By the time you reach your 40s, 50s and beyond, you have a fully curated life and you’re looking for someone with equal values whose life can na...

Why You Should NEVER Date a Dismissive-Avoidant (Unless This One Thing Is True) We’re talking about love attachment styles today to unpack why it’s tough to have a relationship with a dismissive avoidant and how an anxious person is different from a dismissive avoidant person. If you’re new to love attachment styles, listen in to the book recommendations I make. It’s truly...

Never Date A Man Without This GREEN FLAG So often we focus on the RED FLAGS to avoid when dating but I feel like then we’re always focusing on the negative. And when you always look for negative energy or behaviors, all of a sudden that’s ALL that you can see, which isn’t healthy for a new relationship. Instead, today we’re focusing on green flags – the behaviors that...

Why Men Shut Down After Loss and Love Feels Impossible For Them Dating seems like an endless merry-go-round where we connect with someone for a short time and then it ends. Then we’re back on the apps before we really dissect what happened and how can we learn from this experience. Ending a relationship is difficult and emotional. It may even feel like you’re grieving its loss, which i...

Men Fall In Love and Bond When… (#1 SECRET) Falling in love is so much deeper than having great chemistry and hormone rushes. When you let lust or limerence set the tone of a relationship, very often you’ll forget to have the deeper conversations to determine if you’re truly aligned with this person. Lets use my favorite show as an example. Nobody Wants This focuses on a new coup...

Mid-life Love Drought: Why Men & Women Over 45 Are Like, “Single Is Better Than A Bad Relationship” You’ve heard me say the dating world is a mess and even though there’s not a single cause, let’s focus on why we’re so quick to blame the other person for a date or relationship not working out. Blaming others seems to be the norm these days. You see it from l...

A Man Who Cares About You Will Always DO THIS Take a moment and think about your closest friend in the world. The friend that you can tell anything and know they will have your back. You can share your deepest desires and know they won’t judge you. These are signs of genuine friendship. Now think of the guys you’ve been dating. Have you reached any level of friendship before getting ph...

Ask Men THESE Hard Questions Before Sleeping With Them Guest @LaurelHouse Laurel House is the premier relationship coach at eHarmony and we’re diving into why it’s so important to be upfront with a new guy from the first date. In these midlife years, who wants to waste time getting to know someone only to find out 7+ dates in that they have one (or more) red flags that are non-negotiab...

He Gave Me The ICK | Should I KEEP TRYING With Him? When you’re exploring a new relationship, it’s natural to talk about the similarities you have. A big part of my teaching is about making sure you’re aligned in many parts of your lives so you can blend lifestyles easily. But when are the differences between you too much to overcome? Let’s have a DEEPER conversation about...

How To Communicate Your Needs To A Man Without Him Feeling Attacked I’m thrilled to have my friend, Sabrina Rising, as my guest so we can dig into how to communicate with our partners effectively. Communication is so nuanced and can quickly turn into arguments when emotions get the better of us. Sabrina says communication is difficult because it’s not something we’re taught. Sure...

9 Reasons Why Men Push Good Women Away Wouldn’t it be wonderful if relationships developed like they do in the movies, following a predictable formula with a happily ever after ending? In reality, partnership-based relationships are complex and require trust, which can take time to develop. Let’s have a DEEPER conversation about how complex emotions can lead to mixed messages. Let&#821...

Men Will Do All of THESE Things If They Really Like You Today’s hookup culture has us trained to think that sex is the predominant way a man shows that he likes you. But I disagree and we’ll talk about other non-physical ways a man will show that “he’s really into you”. I also share a story about how one of my clients is dating someone and they haven’t been phys...

The Longer a Man Is Without A Relationship, The More He’s THIS Being single allows you to figure out what you want in terms of life goals and you also have the independence to schedule your daily life exactly as you want it. You can set up a daily routine or you can be spontaneous. YOU get to claim your sovereignty. However, after long periods of being single, welcoming a relationship can be...

A Man’s Silence Means THIS | Don’t Chase, Do THIS Think back to when you were younger, like in your 20s or 30s. Did you find dating easier back then? That’s usually the case because younger people generally don’t have the same type of complicated lives that midlife people have. And playing dating games and chasing their desired partner is a sort of entertainment. Let’...

Can My Casual Relationship Become Serious? Many men don’t know how to process their feelings when a treasured relationship ends. As a result, they might be reluctant to “go all in” and they prefer casual relationships because they’ve been hurt before. Let’s have a DEEPER conversation about the 3 levels of commitment and why conversations about what each partner wants...

5 Feminine Skills That Turn a Man on Instantly Socialization, religion, and cultural upbringing all play a part in how we each bond with others. We DO carry those beliefs with us into adulthood – and sometimes the trauma associated with those beliefs – which impacts our relationships. But when we’re intentional and honest about what we want in a relationship, we become more disce...

3 Non Sex Moves That Turn A Man On | Men Crave THIS Creating intimacy with your partner does not always involve sex. A healthy sex life is certainly important in long term relationships but not everything has to revolve around sex. Emotional connection is where you build trust with each other. This connection also leads to more in-depth conversations about feelings and big life dreams. Let’s...

How Long Should You Wait Until He’s Ready For Commitment? As we search for a partner in midlife, we risk wasting a lot of time if we’re not intentional about asking the right questions. Midlife is very different from our 20s, when it felt like we could take out time and play the field before settling down. Not to be dramatic, but in midlife we need to condense this ‘getting to kn...

Men Over 40 Fall In Love Through THESE 5 Stages Falling in love takes time, hence the need for dating where we get to know people and figure out if our lives, hopes, and dreams are aligned. But once that threshold is crossed, falling in love ultimately means that your feelings for your partner are just as important as your feelings for yourself. You’re not going anywhere, you’re not lo...

Men Seek Women With THESE Green Flags There ARE good men out in the dating world! And many men often feel the same way, wondering where the good women are. Dating is tricky because by the time we hit midlife, we have many years’ worth of trauma and difficult experiences that skew our outlook on love and relationships. We often carry with us limiting beliefs and other lessons we’ve lear...

How To Tell If He’s Ready To Commit | Look For THIS! Today I’m having a conversation with fellow relationship coach, Evan Marc Katz about what has changed in the dating world since he began his coaching business 22 years ago. We both agree that dating apps tend to devalue people who rely on swiping vs really communicating with others. We also discuss whether men are commitment-phobic a...