What Would Love Do?

The BIG Lie About Dating Men That’s Ruining Your Love Life How frequently do you hear friends or others online complain about there being no good men in the dating pool? Like anything, if you hear the same statements over and over again, soon you begin to believe the statement is true. However, I believe there truly is someone out there for everyone and your mindset plays a BIG part in attra...

I’m In My 60s…He’s Not Sure He Wants Marriage… Am I Wasting My Time? We’re getting into this discussion because I constantly see my feed filled with women celebrating their divorces and swearing off men. All of that leads to the question of what benefit does marriage provide a couple in midlife or later? Let’s explore the DEEPER reasons some midlifers do not wan...

I’m In My 60s…Should I Consider Moving In With Him? So many of us have grown up having certain ideas of what life should look like as adults. I call this programming because in large part, we learn this from our parents and other adult figures. But when do we question if our “programming” is what we REALLY want out of life? Let’s explore the DEEPER ways to understand...

THIS Will Instantly Change How You View Dating What keeps men and women emotionally connected? Believe it or not, it’s NOT sex or chemistry! It’s really quite simple and we’re diving into that topic today. Let’s explore the DEEPER ways to connect with our partners that involves curiosity instead of superficial conversations. Let’s talk about…THIS Will Instantly...

THIS Communication Skill Gets Men To Open Up I’m happy to welcome life coach and sex therapist Monica Tanner today. We’re discussing how people have both a communication problem AND a conversation problem. Even if you feel like you’re with a great communicator, how do you feel about the type of conversations you’re having? Let’s explore the DEEPER ways to expand our c...

Why Pulling Away From Men Attracts Deeper Love We’re talking about a self-love practice called de-centering men. This is NOT a rant about how awful men are but rather a practice that involves making YOURSELF the center of your world. No one is able to control your happiness, only you. No one should “complete you” contrary to that famous line in the movie Jerry Maguire. Living you...

Make Dating Fun Again I’ve said in the past that today’s dating world is a sh*t show. Countless women tell me that guys are just jerks, they only want sex, and it’s depressing trying to find a life partner. So, let’s put a fun spin on dating. Paula thinks it’s a matter of mindset and if you’re expecting to meet jerks, then the jerks will find you! Let’s ex...

It’s Not Your Looks Men Fall In Love With, It’s THIS Let’s be real…looks absolutely play a part in being attracted to someone. Who catches your eye in person or while scrolling apps? The attractive guy. But looks only open the door to getting to know a person better. After that initial first meeting, getting to know that person’s values and inner workings is what beco...

Men Who Fear Commitment Rarely Reveal THIS I’m joined today by my friend Bob Grant from Relationship Headquarters , who also has 20 years in the relationship sphere under his belt and we’re talking about why the most obnoxious men make such a lasting impact on women. One note: not ALL men are obnoxious; there really are good guys out there whose values and dreams align with yours. Yet...

The BIG Lie About Sex Men Don’t Want You To Know When it comes to discussing sex, men and women are often at opposite corners. Men often look at sex as a way to connect whereas women often need a connection BEFORE having sex. So, how do we meet in the middle, especially if we’re looking for a meaningful relationship and not a one-night stand? Let’s explore the DEEPER ways to enco...

A Man Who Shares Your Values Still Might Not Do THIS If you want to attract a man with the same values, it’s imperative that YOU know and understand your own value system. Otherwise, how will you recognize a guy who’s on the same page as you? Also, just because WE think we’re good at something – such as communication – doesn’t mean our partner will agree, especi...

When A Man Does THESE 4 Things, You’re In A Healthy Relationship This week Paula & I are sharing some of our own experiences and feelings about healthy relationships. As you listen, reflect on your own relationship and if your guy does these 4 things that we reveal. Let’s explore the DEEPER ways couples can be attentive and present in relationships. Let’s talk about…Whe...

THIS Activity Will Instantly Bond A Man To You We all have ideas of what being in love will feel like but how do we really KNOW until we’re in love? These fantasies get stuck in our heads but when the real thing comes along, oh how wonderful it is! Let’s explore the DEEPER ways to connect and feel deeper emotions with your partner. Let’s talk about…THIS Activity Will Instan...

Why Do Some Men Expect To Split The Bill On A First Date? If you’re going out with someone for the first time, why do we call this a date? Seems to me like this is a meeting to decide if you both want to put in the time to date. And why do we still have the expectation that whoever asks for the date should be the one paying? Let’s explore the DEEPER reasons why women expect men to pay...

Say THESE Things and A Man Will Quickly Bond With You We say communication is the basis of a healthy relationship, but what does that really mean? Communication – or discourse – is more than just asking how was your day. We’re talking about getting deeper and having a curiosity about our beliefs and how our belief system came to be. Being curious about how the other person thinks...

Men Don’t Care About The Perfect Looking Woman… They Want THIS All of us have some level of insecurity about our looks. Sometimes that follows us from childhood or we develop insecurities from previous adult relationships. But are perfect looks as important in midlife? Sure, we want to be attracted to our partner but looks is only the first level of attraction. Getting to know someone...

Will THIS Cause Men To Step Up Emotionally? Is being with your partner sweeter than your solitude? That’s a question that everyone should ask themselves throughout the dating process. Instead, so many people are super-focused on finding love and having chemistry with their partners. But what happens when you think about your partner in a neutral light? Is being with this person better than b...

Why Mature Love With Men Is Rare and What You Can Do About It One of the cornerstones of a solid relationship is communication and the first step toward great communication is active listening. Have you heard that term before? Active listening is the act of intentionally engaging with communication. The goal of active listening is to avoid misunderstandings and to examine thoughts and perceptions...

Avoid Texting A Man Who’s A Time Waster | Do THIS There’s a certain safety factor in sticking with the messaging function on the dating apps. While this feature is convenient when first matching with someone, it limits your ability to really learn about a person. I’ve seen people who spend months and YEARS just texting and that to me is NOT a real relationship. Today I’m sh...

Is An Emotional Affair Really Cheating? Communication is everything in a relationship and this includes identifying your definition of cheating. Do you think cheating only involves physical intimacy? Is it cheating to daydream about your Hollywood crush? What about having private text conversations with a coworker? Let’s explore the DEEPER answers about what constitutes cheating and how to m...

I’m Happy Being Single But I Still Want A Boyfriend How many comments have you seen online that men are awful or dating isn’t worth the effort because of men’s bad behavior? It’s fairly commonplace but two things can be true at the same time. Women are learning how to be happy single and not depending on a man for financial support but they can also want that companionship...

There’s No Future With A Man If He Doesn’t Do THIS What’s YOUR definition of a serious relationship? If you don’t have a clear understanding of what you want, then finding the right guy becomes more difficult. We’re talking about my Dating Vows today and dissecting what each one means and how it can benefit your dating life to have these conversations early on before...

Relationships Need THIS To Survive and Thrive… Why is there so much ambiguity in the dating process? Have adults really lost the ability to communicate what they want? If you want a relationship, you need to identify what that means to you. Once you’re clear, then you can ask the men you meet the same question. THEN you’ll have a better idea of which guys are worth getting to kno...

Is He In Love or Just Using You? Some men approach dating with an ‘exit plan’ already set up, saying they’ll commit when they find the right person. But does keeping this limited view allow men to recognize when the right person comes along? Let’s explore the DEEPER differences between those who are searching for a fantasy woman and those who are committed to commitment. Le...

Dating Over 50: What Actually Matters (From a Real Couple) Dating these days is overall very casual. It lacks decision about whether you’re looking for casual fun or a longtime relationship. Commitment, on the other hand, involves conscious decision-making. And this is where open communication comes into play because by middle age, you each (most likely) have some strong opinions about what&...