What Would Love Do?

THIS Activity Will Instantly Bond A Man To You We all have ideas of what being in love will feel like but how do we really KNOW until we’re in love? These fantasies get stuck in our heads but when the real thing comes along, oh how wonderful it is! Let’s explore the DEEPER ways to connect and feel deeper emotions with your partner. Let’s talk about…THIS Activity Will Instan...

Why Do Some Men Expect To Split The Bill On A First Date? If you’re going out with someone for the first time, why do we call this a date? Seems to me like this is a meeting to decide if you both want to put in the time to date. And why do we still have the expectation that whoever asks for the date should be the one paying? Let’s explore the DEEPER reasons why women expect men to pay...

Say THESE Things and A Man Will Quickly Bond With You We say communication is the basis of a healthy relationship, but what does that really mean? Communication – or discourse – is more than just asking how was your day. We’re talking about getting deeper and having a curiosity about our beliefs and how our belief system came to be. Being curious about how the other person thinks...

Men Don’t Care About The Perfect Looking Woman… They Want THIS All of us have some level of insecurity about our looks. Sometimes that follows us from childhood or we develop insecurities from previous adult relationships. But are perfect looks as important in midlife? Sure, we want to be attracted to our partner but looks is only the first level of attraction. Getting to know someone...

Will THIS Cause Men To Step Up Emotionally? Is being with your partner sweeter than your solitude? That’s a question that everyone should ask themselves throughout the dating process. Instead, so many people are super-focused on finding love and having chemistry with their partners. But what happens when you think about your partner in a neutral light? Is being with this person better than b...

Why Mature Love With Men Is Rare and What You Can Do About It One of the cornerstones of a solid relationship is communication and the first step toward great communication is active listening. Have you heard that term before? Active listening is the act of intentionally engaging with communication. The goal of active listening is to avoid misunderstandings and to examine thoughts and perceptions...

Avoid Texting A Man Who’s A Time Waster | Do THIS There’s a certain safety factor in sticking with the messaging function on the dating apps. While this feature is convenient when first matching with someone, it limits your ability to really learn about a person. I’ve seen people who spend months and YEARS just texting and that to me is NOT a real relationship. Today I’m sh...

Is An Emotional Affair Really Cheating? Communication is everything in a relationship and this includes identifying your definition of cheating. Do you think cheating only involves physical intimacy? Is it cheating to daydream about your Hollywood crush? What about having private text conversations with a coworker? Let’s explore the DEEPER answers about what constitutes cheating and how to m...

I’m Happy Being Single But I Still Want A Boyfriend How many comments have you seen online that men are awful or dating isn’t worth the effort because of men’s bad behavior? It’s fairly commonplace but two things can be true at the same time. Women are learning how to be happy single and not depending on a man for financial support but they can also want that companionship...

There’s No Future With A Man If He Doesn’t Do THIS What’s YOUR definition of a serious relationship? If you don’t have a clear understanding of what you want, then finding the right guy becomes more difficult. We’re talking about my Dating Vows today and dissecting what each one means and how it can benefit your dating life to have these conversations early on before...

Relationships Need THIS To Survive and Thrive… Why is there so much ambiguity in the dating process? Have adults really lost the ability to communicate what they want? If you want a relationship, you need to identify what that means to you. Once you’re clear, then you can ask the men you meet the same question. THEN you’ll have a better idea of which guys are worth getting to kno...

Is He In Love or Just Using You? Some men approach dating with an ‘exit plan’ already set up, saying they’ll commit when they find the right person. But does keeping this limited view allow men to recognize when the right person comes along? Let’s explore the DEEPER differences between those who are searching for a fantasy woman and those who are committed to commitment. Le...

Dating Over 50: What Actually Matters (From a Real Couple) Dating these days is overall very casual. It lacks decision about whether you’re looking for casual fun or a longtime relationship. Commitment, on the other hand, involves conscious decision-making. And this is where open communication comes into play because by middle age, you each (most likely) have some strong opinions about what&...

Brutally Honest Relationship Advice For Women Are you stuck in victim mode? Are you quick to blame others for things that go wrong in your life? Playing the blame game is quite common these days and I consider it the ‘easy way out’. When someone else is to blame, then that absolves you of responsibility. Let’s explore the DEEPER ways we can recognize our own shortcomings in findi...

Why Going Slow Gets You Into A Relationship Faster In this episode I’m joined by sweetheart Paula and we’re discussing how we didn’t force a connection but instead felt neutral about each other when we first starting talking. So many people are desperate for a connection that they force it or trick themselves into thinking there’s a connection instead of waiting for it to d...

Men Need THIS Emotion To Fully Commit To You When you hear the term ‘all in’ as it pertains to relationships, what does that mean to you? At this age it doesn’t have to mean that one partner pays for the living expenses of the other. Usually midlife adults are living independently and can take good care of themselves. Let’s explore the DEEPER meaning of being ‘all in&...

THIS Texting Method Will Ruin Your Love Life Texting was NOT designed to build intimacy. It was meant for giving directions and quick answers to questions. And yet many people default to using texting as a way to connect with others. Is this really a desire to connect or is it avoiding the eye contact and authentic conversations of in person meetings? Let’s explore the DEEPER ways texting ca...

The First Kiss Is More Dangerous Than Sex Have you ever watched the movie Pretty Woman? In the movie, Julia Roberts (playing a sex worker) draws a boundary about no kissing because that’s too intimate whereas having sex with her clients was not on the same level. Somehow kissing has been demoted over time from a first step toward physical intimacy to a first date expectation. Kissing is not...

Most Men Are Scared To Face Calm Love So many of us equate chaos with connection. We believe that falling in love equals intensity and chemistry. And it’s easy to mistake adrenaline for intimacy. What would happen if you settled into love? In this case, you’re not “settling” in terms of lowering your standards for a partner. You’re settling calmly into a trusting rela...

How to Spot a Man in Love Many emotionally wounded people seek out (unintentionally) other wounded people and their bond is often mistaken for love. This type of foundation doesn’t usually work out for a multitude of reasons. In this episode I’m sharing some personal stories and sharing – from MY perspective – how love can appear in different, healthier ways. Let’s ex...

5 Ways to Spot a Cheater I’m binge watching the series Mad Men, which is set in the 1960s and the main character is the definition of a player. The amount of workplace infidelity and the casualness of it all was surprising at first but then I realized this is a human problem that still exists today. Let’s explore the DEEPER reasons why wounded men cheat and why they seek out validation...

New Rules For Dating: Verify THIS Before You Trust We’re talking about a very important topic today: Romance Cons. In today’s AI world and with how popular dating apps have become, it’s more important than ever to protect yourself and your bank accounts from unscrupulous con artists who will pretend to love you but only want your assets. Let’s explore the DEEPER workings of...

If He Goes Silent, He Might Really Need THIS Do men chase a fully committed relationship or are they chasing sex? Or are midlife men looking for companionship and connection without a permanent commitment? All of these things are possible in the midlife dating pool but men and women both can get caught up in their own fears. Fear of the unknown, fear of having to sacrifice, not wanting to settle....

Every Man Needs THIS Before Fully Committing To You When was the last time you were in a healthy, heart-centered relationship? You probably only remember those unhealthy relationships, yet so often we repeat the same cycles. Falling in love is often based on lust or limerence and that is certainly a fun experience. But is this TRUE love or love based on physical chemistry? Let’s explore the...

Men Respect Women Who Do THIS First Have you ever been on a date where the other person only talks about themselves? Or they are so focused on giving you the ‘right’ answers to your questions that they don’t ask any questions of you? Being present is a big sign of respect IMO. Showing an equal interest in the conversation and asking your own questions helps drive the conversation...