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Whether you have a large number of assets or are living paycheck to paycheck, breaking up with your partner can cause major financial resentment. So, how can you navigate issues around money as you go your separate ways? During her separation from her partner, Jessie Susannah Karnatz, aka the "Money Witch," struggled with feelings of financial regret and resentment. Then, she received a piece of a...

When you've formed a bond with your affair partner, it can be a grinding experience when that connection abruptly stops. So how can you overcome the pain of being ghosted? Dr. Marie Murphy says you are responsible for your sense of satisfaction, and if you're struggling to heal from the loss of a relationship, you will have to change your thinking. By thinking differently about your ghosting exper...

Do you feel like you're constantly pledging allegiance to your past? If you're stuck in the cycle of recycling and analyzing your past experiences, you may not be sure how to live the way you want to in the present and future. So, how can you engage with the past more effectively in order to create the future that you desire? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the past may seem stable and the future u...

If you aren't clear on how to move forward with your infidelity situation, what can you do to make a change? How can you make the right decisions for you — regardless of what your affair partner does? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you have the choice between making decisions consciously and deliberately and making them haphazardly or based on fear. Many people want safety, comfort, and security i...

How does the way you understand and express boundaries affect your relationships? What does it look like when your needs are in alignment? And, can creating better boundaries with yourself lead to more pleasure in your external relationships and life? According to Melissa Hite, to live an authentic life, it's important to communicate boundaries with yourself and with others. Melissa says you shoul...

When you're unclear on your desires, you may feel stuck or powerless in your situation. If you are trying to cheat and want your sanity to stay intact, how can you deliberately decide what you want from your relationships? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you are accountable to yourself and your choices. To make more deliberate and satisfying relationship decisions, you need to manage your mindset a...

If you're too focused on certain requirements or expectations with a partner, you may miss out on rich connections. So, what can you do to make a change? Is it possible to experience growth in a relationship without sacrificing your needs? As Dr. Marie Murphy says, there is a way to advocate for your preferences while also compromising with your partner. During conflict, many people struggle with...

Do you expect your relationship to be a constant source of happiness and joy? Do you find yourself feeling discontent with your partner — or thinking that you might be happier with someone else? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the key to true relationship satisfaction is recognizing that the only person who can make you happy is yourself. While there may be times when you feel annoyed or upset with...

Do you put your relationships with others above your relationship with yourself? Actively trying to suppress or deny your feelings or your truth can be exhausting, especially during an infidelity situation. So, how can you prioritize being honest with yourself? If you're looking for a better way to gain clarity and certainty with your thoughts, Dr. Marie Murphy suggests that you take ownership and...

Are you faced with an ethical dilemma in your infidelity situation? When you're upset, it can be difficult to slow down and make a conscious decision about your relationship. So where can you turn for guidance?  According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you get to decide how to make the best decisions for you — no one can tell you what to do but you. But, with Dr. Murphy's help, you can navigate difficult id...

Are you struggling with the idea of perfectionism and hustling to show your self-worth in your relationships? Is trying to meet the needs of others holding you back from what you truly desire? If you're too afraid of failure, you will never succeed. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, many people struggle with other people's standards about love, acceptance, and worthiness. But, it's not easy to create...

Do you want to change your thoughts about your past but feel helpless about where to begin? Dwelling on the past won't change the future — but it is possible to reframe your thoughts and regrets in order to identify your desires. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the only things that make an experience regrettable are your thoughts. As she says, you have to decide for yourself what is truly valuable...

Does your sense of self-worth depend upon other people's thoughts and beliefs? Is the desire for perfection holding you back from getting what you truly want from your life and relationships? When you endeavor to conform to societal — or other people's — expectations of what is acceptable and worthy, you open yourself up to feelings of shame and fear, which may be corrupting your standards and hol...

Infidelity often brings forth feelings of guilt and shame, but it shouldn't lead you to believe you're a bad person. You don't have to convince yourself that cheating is good — but it doesn't have to be a bad thing, either. So how can you minimize feelings of guilt and shame and move towards self-acceptance, self-respect, and self-love? In order to shift your relationship with guilt and shame, you...

No matter who your partner is or what kind of relationship you have, breaking up can be terrifying — even when you're the one initiating. So what should you say to gracefully maneuver this difficult conversation? There are ways you can prepare and deliver your message to turn this dreaded conversation into one that can benefit both parties. Remember: breaking up doesn't have to be a bad thing. Wit...

How do you prepare yourself for the difficult emotions of ending your relationship? Deciding to end any relationship can be a tumultuous decision — especially if you have no support. So, where can you turn for help? If you're looking for a way to prepare for a breakup, Dr. Marie Murphy has some steps to help you navigate this process without fear and choose the best course for you. As she says, on...

Do you want relief from your complicated feelings about monogamy? What can you do to get what you really want out of your monogamous relationship? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, there is no simple solution. The first step is to determine what you're looking for from your relationship — but many people struggle to find that clarity. That's where Dr. Murphy comes in. She has the strategies you need...

What do you want other people to believe about you? And, do these opinions stop you from pursuing your true desires? The concept of selfishness may feel inherently bad — but does it need to be? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, in order to achieve what you really want from your relationship, you have to examine the definition of selfishness in your own life. Many people struggle with the idea of seem...

How can you initiate change if you aren't getting what you want out of your infidelity situation? What can you do to create a difference in your pattern of thinking as you approach the New Year?  According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you can make the changes you desire by permitting yourself to take effective action. As she says, you have to be willing to invest in the journey to achieve the results you...

Are you struggling to let go of your old self and transform into who you want to be? In order to change, you must surrender to what you want in your relationship and in your life — and that can often cause a shroud of doubt. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, only death allows for rebirth, and a metaphorical death can help you embrace your new self and reach the outcome you truly desire. While the awa...

Deciding to end your marriage for your affair partner can be complicated. It can leave you with feelings of discomfort and confusion about what you truly want. Fortunately, there are ways to gain more clarity about the best path forward in your infidelity situation. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, if you're able to change your thinking, you can change your circumstances. Deciding to leave your marr...

Are you feeling conflicted and confused about your infidelity situation this holiday season? How do you distinguish between taking action because of your genuine desires and taking action because of your impulses? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, learning to refrain from overthinking and instead sitting still with your discomfort can help you reach the outcome you truly desire. While it's essential...

If you're having an affair and want to change the situation, how can you overcome the fear of finding the right time — especially during the holiday season? Are you just avoiding the uncomfortable feelings about facing your situation? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, feeling uneasy should not prevent you from doing what you want. Purposefully learning how to deal with the emotions that make you unco...

Is your current infidelity situation what do you want this holiday season? How do you find significance and clarity in what you want? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the meanings we assign to the holidays will determine our experience this season. How you think you should feel determines your behavior — and your behavior will impact the results you see in life. When you can master your thoughts and...

Are you feeling pressure and guilt about your infidelity situation with the upcoming holidays? How do you find a sense of relief from the thoughts clouding your mind? According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the key to clearing your mind is understanding the meaning you assign to your circumstances. We are constantly giving meaning to our lives, but it is essential to separate the facts from our stories. Dr...