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Discover how to deal with the idea that there's something wrong with you because you don't feel guilty about cheating. Dr. Marie Murphy is discussing why you always have the option of changing what you think a particular behavior means, and why guilt isn't an effective motivator for doing something about your infidelity situation. She's sharing an exercise to start clarifying your thoughts and fee...

When you're feeling stuck in your infidelity situation, it's easy to think that the situation is out of your hands and change is becoming increasingly more difficult. What you need is a little tough love so you can see that no matter how long it's been going on, you are not stuck and you do have the ability to resolve your infidelity situation.   Discover what to do if you've been stuck in your in...

No matter how your infidelity situation began, when you decide that whatever you've been doing counts as infidelity or cheating, that moment feels like a pretty big deal. You may be totally freaked out, and you may even consider yourself an objectively bad person.    The topic of what to do right away when you realize that you are most definitely engaging in infidelity is of the utmost importance....

Discover the options available to you if your partner has decided you've cheated in your open relationship. Dr. Marie Murphy is discussing both sides of the argument, sharing how to empathize with your partner if their view of your open-relationship agreement is different to yours, and she's laying out how you can move forward together if you decide you want to.   Get full show notes and more info...

When someone in a committed relationship has been cheating on their partner and they feel stuck in deciding what they want to do, they sometimes get the idea that they should tell their committed partner, even though they don't know how they want to move forward. Feeling like you can't make a decision is excruciating. If you've been thinking about disclosing your cheating in the hopes that your pa...

Is sex important to you in a relationship? If you can honestly acknowledge the extent to which good sex (however you define that) is important to you, making relationship-related decisions you actually feel good about becomes simpler and easier.     Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you why you're not doing yourself any favors when you attempt to deny, minimize, or devalue the significance of a great se...

When you decide that it's time to break up with someone you've been cheating on, you'll likely have a lot of questions about how to ensure the person you're breaking up with does not find out about the infidelity.     Dr. Marie Murphy is discussing the benefit of properly preparing for your breakup, why breaking up itself might arouse suspicion of cheating, and some practical strategies for a good...

If you're in the midst of an infidelity situation and you're confused about what to do next, it's generally the case that you may be using your mind in ways that are not actually helpful in cultivating the clarity and certainty you crave.   Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you how to start intentionally creating clarity and certainty, even if it feels impossible right now, so you can make intentional d...

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If you're doing everything you can to make choices you think will make other people happy, this episode is for you. Discomfort and unpleasant emotions are naturally occurring things, and they don't need to be considered problematic. So, tune in this week to discover how to understand your own discomfort, and begin trusting that other people can handle their uncomfortable emotions so you can make d...

If you're scared of making a decision about leaving your marriage, ending your affair, or dealing with any circumstances related to your infidelity because you're afraid it will all end horribly, this episode is for you. People often get hung up in comparing the stability and comfort of their long-term relationship versus the excitement and passion of their affair, but have you considered that you...

Discover how to allow yourself to want things, and that it's safe to allow yourself to enjoy what you want. Even if you and your affair partner are both married with children and you're worried about the consequences if you're honest about your desires, Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you how to open yourself up to the possibility that any situation you're in could be as good as you can stand it.   Ge...

If there is something in your life that you want to address, like an infidelity situation, worry is usually the first thing that comes to mind. Infidelity situations can feel confusing and overwhelming for so many different reasons, and it's so easy to get lost in your unhelpful patterns of thinking. Tune in this week because Dr. Marie Murphy is discussing how you can deal with your brain's tenden...

If you're concerned about how you might explain how your affair relationship began, tune in this week to discover why, even though there will be people in your life who demand answers, you don't owe anyone an explanation. Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing why judgment from others is an inevitability, but why you always have the opportunity to accept the humanness of your actions, and decide how you actu...

Tune in this week to discover why the honesty and intensity of a breakup often reignites a sense of intimacy that seemed otherwise lost. Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing how to recognize whether you've been thrown off by the intimacy of your breakup, whether you've actually reconnected and want to stay together, and what you need to consider to consciously decide how you want to move forward.     Get f...

Jealousy occurs within the context of any relationship. However, when you're shifting from an affair into a non-affair relationship, it's a particularly common issue. In this episode, you'll learn the thoughts that lead people to believe their partner definitely will cheat on them, and why you get to choose how you approach the idea of your partner cheating, whether you want to accept it and enjoy...

Tune in this week to discover what you're trying to avoid by telling yourself you can't transition from an affair into a non-affair or "normal" relationship. Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing how believing that your relationship simply can't work is impacting how you're showing up in that relationship, and how to instead pursue your relationship your way, even if it means uncertainty and vulnerability a...

Tune in this week to start questioning the common beliefs about marriage that make so many infidelity situations so much more difficult to deal with. You'll learn how unexamined beliefs keep you stuck in situations you don't love, while being conscious of how your thoughts and beliefs influence your behavior will bring you the freedom and power to make the choice you really want to make.     Get f...

By allowing yourself to want something or someone, contending with the experience of not getting what you want is inevitable. So, how do you deal with the ache of deeply wanting something and not having it yet? And why could this be the key to getting the result you truly want in your infidelity situation?   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/113