The Sex Addiction Podcast For High-achievers and Entrepreneurs

Are you monitoring the wrong things? Often, I find men are too focused on the behaviors rather than the cause of their sex addiction. Recovery is about change… Not just avoiding unwanted behavior. In this episode, I talk about how you can check in with your recovery group and help them keep you accountable. Finding a tribe of like-minded men to do recovery with is the most important thing you can...

Is it defensiveness? Or, is it a deficit? Understanding this could make a huge difference in improving your communication as a couple when recovering from betrayal trauma and infidelity. We all know that being defensive destroys connection and increases conflict. But first, we need to be sure that the person really is being defensive. Not every reaction comes from a defensive place. Often, people...

Financial success and recovery are two different things. Often, the things that made you money may be some of the same things that caused your sex addiction. This doesn’t mean that you need to stop being successful in your career. It means you need to become aware of when to use each skill set. Many of the skills needed to recover from sex and porn addiction are different from the skills you’ve us...

Coping mechanisms have the potential to ruin your life. But changing them can be difficult if you don’t know WHY you’re doing it. In the addiction space, you will hear professionals talk about the power of discovering your “why.” But, it's a bit more complicated than that. In this podcast episode, I help men understand what coping mechanisms are, how to recognize when they’re being used, and how t...

Candice Christensen is well known for her ability to use Internal Family System (IFS) with both Sex Addicts and Couples to help them navigate the root cause of the sexually compulsive behavior. I personally believe IFS is one of the best forms of treatment for sex and porn addiction. I personally used it in my recovery, and my clients who use it seem to get better results than those who don’t. In...

Are you an addict or a selfish womanizer? Historically, it’s been said that you are either one of the two. But, is it really only limited to these two options? What if you’re neither? What if you are a selfish womanizer? What if you’re both? Is the treatment the same? If not, what’s different? Does your wife need to be worried? If you’re not an addict, should she leave you? Sex Addict or A-hole? I...

The truth is… recovering from sex addiction is hard. And, healing your marriage is even harder. In this episode, we give it to you straight (no sugar coating). Jackie Pack is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist with a no BS approach. She and I have a raw and real discussion about the reality of sex addiction recovery. Mental health is far from black and white. Every human is different. Every relat...

Sex addiction is classified as a “process addiction.” This is important as your treatment strategy may need to change depending on the thought processes that you’re addicted to. In this episode, I discuss:Why the term “sex addiction” may be a distraction. Why the term may make it difficult for your wife to move forward. Why the term may be creating an inaccurate enemy. For more about process addic...

When most guys get into recovery for their sex or porn addiction, they think this will be out of their lives in a few months. While sobriety can be achieved, healing your marriage is a different story. In this episode, Cory Anderson (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) and I discuss what guys need to do to go the distance. As you have probably figured out… this is not a quick process. Sex addiction...

Good life events may be more traumatic than the negative ones. Trauma comes from the conclusion you came to after the life event… Not the event itself. In this episode, I talk about how success, advice, mentorship, winning, and other accomplishments may be more traumatic than some of the negative events that have happened in your life. All life events have the potential to influence your belief sy...

Sex addiction will destroy your marriage. The only way back is to create a new marriage that will likely look much different than the old marriage. Your wife will be with a guy who she knows has the capability of lying to her and cheating on her. You will have to be with a wife who is frequently triggered by trauma and may ask you to modify your lifestyle to keep her safe. On this podcast episode,...

The word “trauma” is often misunderstood. It’s not just abuse… Trauma can be a result of advice, mentorship, or any event for that matter. Parenting is not about being a “good” parent. Oftentimes, it's “good parenting” that results in the most trauma to the child. Kids don’t need someone to tell them who to become, what to believe, and how to live their lives. In fact, overparenting can sometimes...

In this episode, I’m joined by Jennifer Ginsberg, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. While most men have already heard about the “3-second-rule” and the “3 circles of sobriety”… they typically have not revisited these circles since being in early recovery. In this episode, Jennifer and I redefine sobriety so that it can be maintained for decades. Too often, sex addicts set up a recovery plan tha...

Most guys want this to end at some point. The time spent in groups, therapy, couples therapy, couples groups… It's a lot. And, I see why guys feel like their life is being consumed by recovery work. The good news is that you will be able to tone down the number of hours spent each week. However, you will likely always have a few hours each week dedicated to continued growth and maintenance. The gu...

Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith join me on this episode to talk about how to create a thriving marriage after infidelity. There’s a ton of information out there about sex addiction recovery and betrayal trauma. But, what about thriving on the other side? None of us gets into recovery just to have a mediocre relationship filled with triggers, a lack of safety, and arguments.  You want to THRIVE! This...

What is “good recovery,” and how do you know if you’re doing it? It’s a question that most guys often ask themselves. Which is unfortunate, because I feel like this is something that should be very well-defined. Yes, recovery is specific to each person. However, there are well-established practices and treatment strategies that we know work for everyone. I’ve developed this checklist to help you d...

Working with high-achievers and entrepreneurs, there are definite differences between these men and the general population. These differences require a unique approach when it comes to sex addiction recovery. Sex addiction is a process addiction, meaning that guys have become addicted to thought processes. To recover, men need to discover what thought processes they have become addicted to. For su...

The sex addiction field has the crisis phase dialed in. We know exactly what to do to save your marriage and begin the healing process. But… then what? This is where things start to get murky. Guys need to transition from sobriety to recovery. And, the relational healing will also need to evolve. It can be tough for addicts and couples when they head into year 2+. There’s a lot more individuality...

Your Recovery, Her Recovery, Marital Recovery, Healthy Sexuality… How do you heal when this is so complex? Dr. Laney Knowlton is working hard to help couples tackle all of the aspects necessary to thrive after sexual betrayal. This episode is raw and real. Laney and I don’t sugarcoat anything. Recovery is hard… We aren’t here to convince you that it’s not. However, we are here to help provide you...

You’ll see these ads for courses, books, and programs that claim to get guys sober from their sex or porn addiction in “30 days.” “The revolutionary formula to quit porn for good.” I’m sorry… but how can you take these claims seriously? Sex addiction is classified as a process addiction. Meaning that men have become addicted to a thought process.  Each guy has a different thought process that’s un...

Shame halts recovery. But, not all shame is created equal. Successful men are typically in positions of influence. They are either directly in charge of leading others. Or, they are admired and looked up to. In both cases, their actions have significantly higher consequences than those of the general population. Kim Litton, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, shares her personal story of being an a...

With a 64% chance of relapse… it’s clear that most sex addicts are missing something.  Changing the brain… This is probably the biggest void in the sex addiction field. What is actually required to change someone's thought processes? The answer… sales. The brain wants what it wants. You need to sell it on a superior strategy. Otherwise, you will relapse. But what’s required to actually sell the br...

What if everything you know about empathy is wrong? When I met Stevie Hall, I knew that she was onto something big. Stevie has been researching empathy and breaks it down into 3 parts that will make it easier for men to understand. Empathy is extremely important when it comes to healing your marriage after betrayal and infidelity. Historically, it has been difficult for men to put into practice. T...

I’m not that shocked at what these men are doing in their sex addiction… If anything, I’m shocked more men aren’t doing it. Women are raised looking for a partner who will preserve the sexual energy for the relationship. Men are not raised this way… It’s actually quite the opposite. Men are raised to get more money, get better looking, and get the most attractive women they can get. Most men spend...

Does abstinence work? What if we are too zoomed in on the unwanted sexual behavior? The challenge with the word “recovery” is that people assume there is a point where you become “recovered.” But, when it comes to sex addiction, I’m not sure guys are ever completely recovered. Sex is a biological human need, and it cannot be removed. If you want these behaviors to stop, it will be your mind that s...