The Cliteral Truth Podcast

Send us Fan Mail Ever felt like you're coming in fourth place in your own relationship? In this episode, we’re calling out a common dynamic that quietly kills connection: when your partner isn’t your top priority. We dive into why so many people say things like “my kids come first” or “work is just crazy right now” — and how those priorities, while understandable, can leave a partner feeling...

Send us Fan Mail From late-night hookups to long-term partners, relationships come in all shapes, vibes, and complexities. In this episode, we break down the real-life differences between hookups, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, and actual partners. What makes each one work—or not? How do you know when something shifts from casual to committed (or when it really shouldn’t)? We share personal...

Send us Fan Mail On this episode, we discuss why this seemingly innocent first-contact question can derail authentic connection before it even begins. We talk about the pressure to define your entire romantic future over coffee, why answering too specifically can attract chameleons instead of real compatibility, and how to stay grounded in your truth without oversharing. Plus, we share our own exp...

Send us Fan Mail Carrying mental load isn’t just exhausting—it’s arousal’s silent killer. In this episode, we unpack how the never-ending cognitive effort of planning, monitoring, assigning, managing, and emotional caretaking can shut down the body’s ability to feel turned on. When the brain is overloaded with a constant to-know list, there’s no space for desire to thrive. We explore the neurologi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we put The 7 Bridges of a Solid Relationship to the ultimate test—real life. Ryan opens up about the relationship that inspired the entire 7 Bridges framework and walks through a full "bridge inspection" using this past connection. Was there attraction? A bias for communication? Emotional availability? A safe haven? Sexual compatibility? Intimacy? Using...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we explore the widespread belief that a little blue pill can solve everything in the bedroom. It’s not that simple. While Viagra (and similar ED medications like Cialis and Levitra) have helped millions of men with erection issues, we dig deeper into why these drugs miss the mark when it comes to treating the psychological, emotional, and relational roots of sexua...

Send us Fan Mail There’s not a lot of information out there about squirting. Most of what’s online barely scratches the surface. So in this episode, we deliver. We share what we’ve personally learned and achieved through experience, the prerequisites that up your chances of squirting, and why we now believe that the body’s capacity to squirt is unlimited (yep, you read that right). We share why ke...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we cover Bridge 7 of our 7 Bridges framework: Secure Base. Unlike the other bridges, Secure Base isn’t worked on directly—it’s what naturally emerges when the other six bridges are strong: Attraction, Bias for Communication, Emotional Availability, Safe Haven, Sexual Compatibility, and Intimacy. We talk about what a secure base looks and feels like in a relationsh...

Send us Fan Mail Why are we comfortable with violence on screen, but uncomfortable with skin? Why is a shirtless man at the pool considered normal, but a BDSM harness in public suddenly becomes “inappropriate”? In this episode, we unpack the hidden power of context — and how society decides when the human body becomes “sexual.” From nipples and shame to media double standards, oversexualization, k...

Send us Fan Mail Are you stuck in the mindset that every person you date has to be your everything or nothing? Are you in scarcity mode or abundance? Do you have an agenda with dating? Are you hoping everyone is the one ? In this episode, we break down the differences between hookups, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, and partners. Whether you’re wanting to keep it casual or looking for your pe...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating (and oftentimes cringe-worthy) past of self-pleasure, from the days when it was considered a dangerous defect to today’s era of self-empowerment. We now know that masturbation is a normal and healthy part of development, and that the practice lends to better health, confidence, and clit-mind/dick-mind connection, thus leading to b...

Send us Fan Mail Think you know the clitoris? Think again. In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the real history and anatomy of the most misunderstood organ in human existence. Spoiler alert: the full structure of the clit wasn’t even mapped out until 1998. Yeah— nineteen ninety-eight . We’ll break down what makes the clitoris so damn special and why it’s key to better sex for everyone....

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we’re bringing you all the buzz as we thrust into the fascinating history of dildos and vibrators — from ancient brass, wood, and leather tools (yes, really) to the power tools cluttering your nightstand. We explain why sex toys are accessories, not replacements, and why bringing a little battery-powered fun into the bedroom can actually heat things up with your p...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we break down Bridge 6 - Intimacy—and no, we’re not talking about sex. Sex is a physical exchange. Intimacy is an emotional exchange. The two sometimes overlap, but not nearly as often as people think. To help listeners differentiate, we share example of sex devoid of intimacy, intimacy devoid of sex, and intimate sex (when the two overlap).  We explain what intim...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we break down the pros and cons of the most common sex positions—missionary, doggy, cowgirl, and more. What are the advantages and limitations of each? If you’ve been cycling through the same 3 positions since 2017…don’t worry, we got you. About halfway through, we shift gears into ideas for when you're bored—ways to mix it up, get creative, and bring some pl...

Send us Fan Mail What does it mean to be a next-level man? A next-level man doesn't need or want a caregiver or sex worker for a partner. He's emotionally mature, relationally intelligent, and influenced by both his feminine and masculine energy . We’re talking about true partnership: the kind where no one’s carrying more of the load (mental or task), where there's a bias for commun...

Send us Fan Mail Ever powered up into an orgasm—only to trip the breaker on your clit or dick because things got too intense? In this episode, we talk about what happens when the clitoris or penis gets overstimulated to the point that everything has to stop. Honestly, this has become the norm, what's expected, the old one-and-done orgasm. What else is there, right? We break down the concept o...

Send us Fan Mail There's a difference between sexual attraction (step 2 on bridge 1) and sexual compatibility (bridge 5). You may feel a desire to fuck someone, but that doesn't mean you're compatible. On the other hand, you may be sexually compatible with someone but have zero fire between the two of you.  Bridge 5 includes three steps; frequency, activity, and style. In this episo...

Send us Fan Mail Are you prioritizing your partner’s needs at the expense of your own? Do you find yourself agreeing to things in the bedroom—or in your relationship—that you don't actually want to do? In this episode, we’re tackling people-pleasing in sex and relationships—why we do it, how it impacts intimacy, and how it may indicate incompatibility. From faking pleasure to avoiding conflic...

Send us Fan Mail Ever fantasized about being watched while you’re in the act? Or maybe the idea of watching people bang it out turns you on? Exhibitionism and voyeurism are two of the most common kinks out there, but most people don’t talk about them—until now. In this episode, we candidly discuss what it actually means to be an exhibitionist or voyeur. We chat about the sexual thrill of being see...

Send us Fan Mail Online dating can feel like a never-ending scroll of ugh , but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, we break down the dos and don’ts of dating apps, helping you craft a killer dating profile that attracts the right people while filtering out the ones who aren’t your vibe. We cover: 🔥 Dating profile photo tips – What works, what definitely doesn’t, and how to showcase the real...

Send us Fan Mail Master your sexuality. We don't mean master, as in, conquer or overcome, suggesting there comes a point where one has nothing more to learn. We mean master, as in, acting instead of being acted upon, having the upper hand on sex, showing expert skill, ability, or knowledge. Do you want to be a person eminently skilled in sex-a person who directs and controls, who wields their...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like you're walking on eggshells in a relationship? Or maybe you've been with someone who made you feel truly safe—like you could be your full, unfiltered self? That’s the power of a Safe Haven, and in this episode, we’re breaking down exactly why emotional security is everything in a relationship. We talk about what it actually looks like when you have a Safe...

Send us Fan Mail Ever felt that intoxicating rush of a new romance—the butterflies, the obsessive thoughts, the can’t-keep-your-hands-off-each-other phase? That’s New Relationship Energy (NRE), and while it’s exciting, it’s also temporary. In this episode, we break down the difference between getting swept away by NRE versus building a solid relationship that actually lasts. We explore: Why societ...

Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean to be feminine or masculine? And who decided the rules, anyway? In this episode, we break down societal norms around femininity and masculinity—where they come from, how they shape our identities, and why so many of them are total BS. We dive into the biases that keep people stuck in rigid gender roles and challenge the idea that certain traits belong to o...