The Cliteral Truth Podcast

Send us Fan Mail Why do happy couples stop having great sex? Is it low libido, lack of attraction, stress, kids... or is something else happening beneath the surface? In this episode, we unpack why sexual desire fades in long-term relationships, why emotional safety and communication matter more than most couples realize, and how to rebuild intimacy before a relationship turns into a dead bedroom....

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wondered why some people scream during orgasm while others barely make a sound? Is being loud during sex "performative," or is being quiet a sign of sexual shame? In this episode of The Cliteral Truth , we explore one of the internet's most searched questions about sex: Why am I quiet during sex? We challenge the idea that loud equals passionate and qu...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you're told who you're allowed to date before attraction, chemistry, compatibility, and connection ever get a vote? In this episode, we explore how religious and social conformity can short-circuit healthy partner selection. Through the lens of Mormon dating and the 7 Bridges of a Solid Relationship, we discuss why checkboxes, standards, and expectation...

Send us Fan Mail You find a post that makes you laugh, a podcast that changes your perspective, or a book you can't stop thinking about. Who's the first person you want to share it with? In this episode, we explore Content Compatibility. We discuss why some partners become our favorite person to share life with (including our digital life), why others leave us feeling unseen, and what it...

Send us Fan Mail "I don't have sex with just anybody." It's a phrase we hear all the time—but have you ever stopped to ask why ? In this episode, we explore the difference between being genuinely selective and unconsciously following messages rooted in purity culture, slut shaming, fear, and social conditioning. Using the 5 Whys technique, we peel back the layers to uncover wha...

Send us Fan Mail A year ago, we released an episode called The Next-Level Man . In this episode, we're turning our attention to women. We explore the traits, mindset, and relationship skills that separate a Next-Level Woman from the rest.  We discuss confidence, communication, emotional availability, assertiveness, and elf-awareness. We also tackle the behaviors that can quietly sabotage conn...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we dive into a moment that sparked a bigger conversation than we expected: a stranger saying, “Hi Gorgeous,” and the mixed emotions that came with it. Flattering? Maybe. Harmless? Not always. We unpack how compliments can land completely differently depending on your lived experience, your gender, and your sense of safety in the world. Why do some men wish they go...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we break down the three most common dynamics couples fall into: high quantity / low quality, high quality / low quantity, and low quality / low quantity sex. Then we give you a clear, honest diagnosis of what might actually be going on beneath the surface—and how to start shifting it. This isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness, communication, and learning how to...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we dive headfirst into the surprisingly dark and deeply patriarchal origins of modern marriage traditions. From why the “best man” was originally armed, to the real purpose of bridesmaids, to the uncomfortable history behind asking a father for his daughter’s hand in marriage—we unpack the cringey, controlling roots hidden beneath customs many people still celebra...

Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean to develop your sexual identity—and why do so many people skip this step? In this episode, we explore how your sexual identity isn’t something you find … it’s something you build . And you can’t build it without knowing who you are first. We talk about the connection between self-awareness, autonomy, and sexual freedom—why understanding your desires, bound...

Send us Fan Mail What keeps desire alive long-term: endless novelty or true sexual compatibility? In this episode, we unpack the tension between chasing new partners, keeping options open, and building a stable relationship where attraction, chemistry, and connection can deepen over time. We also explore how committed couples can create sexual novelty inside the relationship through play, curiosit...

Send us Fan Mail Is she genuinely into sex… or is it just a means to a different end? In this episode, we dig into the classic sex-for-commitment dynamic (what we call the Relationship/Sex Trope™) and flip the script. If she’s leading with sex, how do you know it’s real desire—and not currency to secure a relationship? And if you’re leading with commitment, are you offering it authentically… or tr...

Send us Fan Mail What does a real glow-up actually look like? In this episode, we break down our physical, emotional, and sexual glow-ups—what changed, what didn’t, and what actually made the difference. From confidence and self-worth to attraction, intimacy, and better sex, we get honest about the work behind the transformation. If you’re on your own glow-up journey and want more confidence, deep...

Send us Fan Mail What if the most important relationship you’ll ever have… is the one you have with yourself? In this episode, we break down The 7 Bridges of a Solid Relationship With Yourself—starting with self-attraction and moving through vulnerability, intimacy, and becoming your own safe haven. If your relationship with yourself isn’t solid, nothing else will be. This is your blueprint for se...

Send us Fan Mail Can men and women (or any two people with compatible orientations) really be just friends… or is there always something under the surface? In this episode, we explore the truth about platonic friendships—how attraction, sexual tension, and subconscious desire can shape who we choose to connect with. We explore why we’re often drawn to friends we find at least somewhat physically a...

Send us Fan Mail What’s the difference between sexual tension and sexual chemistry? In this episode, we break down the distinction. Tension drops once sex happens. Chemistry reveals itself. We talk about how sexual tension thrives in anticipation—the looks, the flirting, the suspense, the “will we or won’t we.” And the moment sex happens, that tension is released. It’s done its job. But if you&apo...

Send us Fan Mail What if the key to sexual compatibility isn’t finding the right partner… but becoming aligned with yourself first? In this episode, we introduce a powerful—and often overlooked—truth: you are your own first sexual partner. Before you try to match someone else’s desires, pace, or preferences, you need to understand your own. Otherwise, you’re not creating sexual compatibility—you’r...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about something that sounds simple but is often misunderstood: consent. We explore what enthusiastic consent actually looks like in real life, why consent isn’t a one-time “yes,” and why it needs to stay ongoing, fluid, and responsive throughout any sexual experience. We also talk about something that doesn’t get discussed enough — the reality that someone...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we unpack the global decline in birthrates and ask the uncomfortable question: Why would people choose parenthood in this economy? We talk about the rising cost of children, the physical and emotional risks women carry, and why so many men and women simply aren’t incentivized to opt in, especially women, given that their reproductive rights, including access to sa...

Send us Fan Mail In this personal episode, we write our own love letter to sex . Not the shame-soaked version we were handed. Not the performative version culture sells. But the real, evolving, messy, beautiful thing that shaped us. We take turns sharing our sexual origin stories—where desire began, how it was formed, what wounded it, what awakened it, and how we learned to reclaim pleasure, agenc...

Send us Fan Mail What do you do when one of you wants sex more than the other… or less? In this episode, we talk honestly about one of the most common challenges in relationships: mismatched desire and sexual frequency. Using Bridge 5: Sexual Compatibility, we share why these gaps happen, how frustration and resentment sneak in, and what real couples can do to navigate it without pressure, guilt,...

Send us Fan Mail Many people believe that if they want sex, they have to be in a committed relationship—even when that’s not what they truly want. In this episode, we challenge that assumption and talk honestly about dating in midlife and meeting sexual needs without long-term commitment. We explore why sex and relationships get bundled together as we age, how that leads people into misaligned par...

Send us Fan Mail The male loneliness epidemic isn’t just about men being alone—it’s about men struggling to adapt to a world that no longer centers them. In this episode, we explore why so many men feel disconnected, resentful, and left behind in modern dating and relationships. We talk about how clinging to patriarchy, entitlement, and control creates distance rather than intimacy—and why women a...

Send us Fan Mail Is your vibrator really coming for your relationship? In this episode, we tackle the surprisingly common fear some men carry: that a sex toy could replace them. Spoiler alert—it can’t. We unpack where this insecurity comes from, why it misses the point of great sex, and how relying solely on your dick is a fast track to mediocre sex. We talk about shifting from competition to coll...

Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean when fathers joke about what they’ll do to young men who date their daughters? Or when a man is expected to “ask for her hand” before marriage? In this episode, we examine how these traditions subtly frame women as property—protected, transferred, or owned—rather than as autonomous adults with agency and consent. We challenge the cultural mythology of male...