Talk Sex with Annette

Send us Fan Mail Ever fantasized about a threesome—but worried it might get… complicated? In this episode, I break down exactly how to plan a threesome without turning it into an emotional mess. From red and green flags when choosing a third to the real reasons you shouldn’t go there, we’re covering the stuff most people skip. ✅ Why your reason for having a threesome matters  🚩 Signs the third m...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when bad sex, emotional labor, and a complete lack of foreplay push you to swear off men altogether? In this spicy and unfiltered Pride Month episode, I’m joined by three of my closest queer friends to unpack a rising trend: women “coming out” after a string of terrible relationships with men. We ask the big, controversial question: Can a man be so bad in bed that he...

Send us Fan Mail Most people treat hand jobs like a throwaway move—a lazy warmup or a teenage fallback. But done right? A hand job can be more intimate, dominant, and orgasmic than penetration or oral. In honor of National Hand Job Day , I'm breaking down exactly how to use your hands to blow someone's mind—whether you're stroking a penis, massaging a vulva, or pleasuring a nonbinar...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wonder why she’s not as turned on—or as fast—as you are?  You're not alone. And she's not broken. In this episode, I’m joined by sociologist, intimacy coach, and TEDx speaker Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus to unpack one of the most misunderstood issues in sex and relationships: the arousal gap. We’ll break down:  ✅ Why men often feel ready in seconds—and women don’t  ✅ What’...

Send us Fan Mail Is body shame secretly killing your sex life? In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette , we're diving into one of the biggest (and most overlooked) blockers of desire and orgasm— body image anxiety . If you're hiding under the covers, turning off the lights, or keeping your shirt on during sex… this episode is for you. You’ll learn:  🔥 Why self-consciousness about your...

Send us Fan Mail Is sex addiction even real? In this bold and much-needed episode, I’m joined by Dr. Sue Milstein and her co-host Charlie for a raw conversation that takes on the myths and misinformation around hypersexuality and so-called “sex addiction.” We talk about:  – Why “sex addiction” isn’t actually a clinical diagnosis  – How pathologizing pleasure fuels shame and repression  – The diffe...

Send us Fan Mail You don’t need to touch his penis to turn him on.  In fact… you don’t even need your hands. In this how-to episode, I’m teaching you how to seduce and dominate a man using nothing but your feet, your voice, and your eyes. We’re diving into the art of foot play —how to use your toes to tease, your arches to apply pressure, and your whole body to command his attention. You’ll learn:...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when a woman truly owns her sexuality? The s*x gets better. The spark comes back. And trust us—he’ll feel it too. In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m joined by Dr. Bonnie Comfort—psychologist, author, and expert in helping women ditch sexual shame and step into real, raw pleasure. We’re breaking down how to stop performing, start feeling, and completely tran...

Send us Fan Mail Let’s talk about one of the most craved beginner kinks— spanking —and why most people are doing it completely wrong . In this episode, I break down the art and psychology of erotic spanking : how to build anticipation, where to touch before you strike, and how to use your hand to sting, seduce, and satisfy . You’ll learn how to read her body’s response in real time, avoid common m...

Send us Fan Mail Licensed clinical social worker and poly coach Emily Lambert Robins joins me for a no‑fluff guide on coming out as polyamorous—gracefully. We unpack the most common slip‑ups, why it can feel scarier than coming out LGBTQ+, and the essential conversations you need to have before going public. You’ll hear real scripts to make the moment smoother, wild reaction stories (and how to ha...

Send us Fan Mail We’ve been taught that power is all about being on top. But I’m here to show you why missionary—yes, missionary—is a secret dom move when you know how to work it. This episode is all about owning the position we were told to just lie there in. Because power? It’s not about where your body is. It’s about your intention. You’ll learn: • How to control the angle, rhythm, and pace fro...

Send us Fan Mail Think gender is just “man” or “woman”—and anything else is made up?  Then this conversation is for you. Because understanding gender-expansive identities isn’t about being “woke” or politically correct—it’s about being human . About expanding your capacity for empathy, connection, and truth. In this episode, I’m joined by Kate S. Logan , a Marriage & Family Therapist Associate...

Send us Fan Mail You’ve been doing cowgirl all wrong—and no, it’s not your fault. Most people are never taught how to ride in a way that actually feels good, builds orgasmic rhythm, and keeps your partner completely wrecked beneath you. That ends today. In this episode, I’m breaking down 4 powerful cowgirl techniques that make you feel confident, connected, and absolutely unforgettable on top. You...

Send us Fan Mail You thought dating women would be easier? Think again. This Pride Month, I’m pulling back the sheets on what it really looks like when women date women. Spoiler alert: it’s not just soft touches, flannel, and U-Hauls. There’s bi-phobia, late-in-life confusion, misread signals, and emotional landmines no one warned us about. But there’s also unmatched heat, intimacy, and magic— whe...

Send us Fan Mail This Pride Month, we’re celebrating one of the most iconic, empowering, and downright delicious acts: face sitting. Whether you call it queening, throne work, or just your favorite seat in the house—this episode is your step-by-step guide to doing it with confidence, control, and unapologetic joy. We’ll break down: What face sitting actually is—and why it’s more than just a sexy p...

Send us Fan Mail Can you be a mom and a sexual being? Our culture loves moms—as long as they’re selfless, sleepless, and silent about their desire. But what happens when a mother wants to reclaim her seductress energy? In this raw and radically honest episode, I’m joined by licensed therapist Emma Shandy Anway to take a wrecking ball to the Madonna/Whore complex and everything it’s done to women’s...

Send us Fan Mail Most men go straight for missionary, or cowgirl—and completely miss the one position that practically hands her an orgasm on a silver platter. In this episode, I’m walking you through the best sex position you’re probably not using—and exactly why it works. We’re talking G-spot access, A-spot pressure, clit contact without a circus of props or acrobatics. You’ll get: The science b...

Send us Fan Mail You’ve heard the whispers. Maybe even fantasized about it. But what actually happens behind closed doors at high-end sex parties? In this episode of T alk Sex with Annette , we’re pulling back the velvet curtain with special guest Shannon Wong —a performer, kink educator, and fierce advocate for sex-positive, female-led spaces. From her roots as a SuicideGirl and burlesque dancer...

Send us Fan Mail You think she wants you because of how good you were during sex? Think again. What you do after sex is what sets you apart—and makes her crave you all over again. In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette , we’re flipping the script and diving into what happens in the 5 minutes after you come. Because that window? It’s not downtime—it’s prime time. You’ll learn: 🔥 How to use touch...

Send us Fan Mail You’ve heard the jokes. Seen it in porn. Maybe even whispered about it with a friend.  But fisting—when done right—isn’t about shock. It’s about trust, surrender, and full-body pleasure that goes way deeper than you think. In this episode, I’m joined by sex therapist Chelsea Newton , and we’re diving into the truth about vaginal fisting: What it really feels like, why it’s healing...

Send us Fan Mail This is your step-by-step guide to vaginal fisting done right —for real connection, full-body pleasure, and the kind of deep, slow sex that leaves her saying “holy f ck.”* In this episode, I walk you through:  💦 What fisting actually is (hint: it’s not what you’ve seen online)  🧠 The science behind why it feels so good  🔥 How to build up to it with care, trust, and a ton of lub...

Send us Fan Mail Is it true that girth matters more than length? Or is it all in your head… and maybe hers too? In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette , we’re pulling back the sheets on one of the most common questions men obsess over: Am I thick enough? Joining me is Dr. Amy Pearlman , board-certified urologist and sexual health expert, here to break down the science behind penile girth, sexual...

Send us Fan Mail Turn touch into trust. Grip into pleasure. And make her feel so safe, she’ll come undone in your hands. Most men think they know how to touch a woman—but if you’ve ever wondered why she isn’t melting into your hands, moaning before the sex even starts, or coming back for more? This episode is your wake-up call. I’m breaking down the 5 specific steps every man needs to know to hand...

Send us Fan Mail Is it sex if you’re just soaking? What about butt stuff? Or dry humping in your underwear? In this quick follow-up to our viral episode on virginity, I sit down with Dr. Sue Milstein to unpack the wild “workarounds” people use to technically stay virgins… even when they're doing everything but . We touch on: Soaking  Anal sex in purity culture and how kids are getting crabs i...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wonder why your tongue isn't getting the reaction you want down there? In this episode, I'm showing you the real oral sex techniques that make women lose their minds—with step-by-step breakdowns that go way beyond the basic swirl-and-hope-for-the-best. As a sex and intimacy coach, I’ve talked to hundreds of women about what actually makes oral unforgettable—and spoi...