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Send us Fan Mail You've felt it. That moment mid-sex when she goes somewhere you can't follow. She's still moving — but she's gone. It's called dissociation. It's not about you, it's not about attraction, and it's not permanent. Vanessa Cushing — AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and founder of Cushing Counseling and Sex Therapy Pro — breaks down what's ac...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we break down the 5-step Mouth & Hands technique for blended orgasms —a simple, intentional way to combine oral and manual stimulation so the experience feels more connected, more consistent, and more intense. Most people switch between techniques instead of combining them. But when you learn how to coordinate your mouth and hands, everything changes in how he...

Send us Fan Mail  Two bi women. One podcast. A real guide to better sex built from the inside out.  Bi women know something about pleasuring women that most people never figure out. Because they've been on both sides — they know what it feels like to receive, and they know what it takes to give it well. That combination is a cheat code. And today we're handing it over. Samia Mounts — que...

Send us Fan Mail Up to 60% of women have fantasized about being dominated — and almost none of them have said it out loud. This one's for the men who want to deliver what she's been replaying in her head and never asked for. Five spanking fantasies, the psychology behind each, and exactly how to make them land sexy instead of awkward — including how to talk about it first, how to keep it...

Send us Fan Mail He's googling it at 2 AM and erasing his search history. Because he still thinks wanting to be pegged means something about who he is. It doesn't. And tonight we're blowing that myth wide open. Interest in pegging among straight men is up 200% according to Feeld's 2025 annual report. Not in some dark corner of the internet — on mainstream dating apps. Men are p...

Send us Fan Mail 82% of women don't reliably come from penetration alone. Here's what's actually missing — and the five moves that fix it. If she's never finished while you're inside her, it's not her body and it's not yours. It's anatomy. And once you understand it, everything changes. What you'll learn:  ✔ Why the clitoris has to be fully aroused befo...

Send us Fan Mail She's not hiding her book because she's embarrassed. She's hiding it because what she's reading is giving her something her sex life isn't — and nobody's asking what that means for your relationship. Romance is the fastest-growing category in print. 51 million units sold in the last year. One in four NYT hardcover fiction bestsellers was romantasy. Wo...

Send us Fan Mail A listener wrote in: "I'm 47 years old and going through perimenopause. Previously I would orgasm with my husband 90-95% of the time. Now I only orgasm 5-10% of the time." She's not alone. Roughly half of all women experience orgasm changes during perimenopause — and almost none are told why or what to do about it. This episode covers the physiology behind the...

Send us Fan Mail 97% of adults have sexual fantasies. Less than a third ever act on them. The fear is almost never accurate — and in this episode, we're closing the gap between what you want and what you actually do. I'll be honest: role play has always given me the ick. So I brought in Emma Velicski — romance author and founder of Saturday Box, the company turning kink and role play int...

Send us Fan Mail Most men have tried to make this happen. Most have done it wrong. And almost none of them understand what's actually going on in her body when it does. This episode covers the real anatomy behind this response, why the technique most men learned from the internet actually works against them, the one thing she's going to say in the moment that most men completely misread,...

Send us Fan Mail You never signed a purity pledge. Maybe you never set foot in a church. But the rules got in anyway — through locker rooms, movies, the way women around you were talked about, the bodies that got shamed. And now they're in your bedroom, quietly wrecking everything. Today I'm talking with Erika Smith — award-winning sexuality educator, 25 years in the field, and creator o...

Send us Fan Mail You can take her to a regular orgasm. Or you can take her to one she'll be thinking about for weeks. Edging is the difference. In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 moves for how to edge her with your hands until she begs you to let her finish. The four signs that tell you she's at the edge. How to pull her back without losing her. Why each climb gets faster. How man...

Send us Fan Mail Most men learned foreplay from porn. And porn doesn't do foreplay — it does a sped-up, skip-to-the-good-part performance that taught an entire generation that touching a woman is just a formality. She's lying there wondering why she isn't feeling it. It's not her. It's the script. Today's guest has spent 17 years collecting real-world data on exactly...

Send us Fan Mail Most partners use one move with their hands. There are dozens. And most men have never heard of the deeper spot that changes everything. This episode is a complete guide — how to prep your hands so she actually wants them on her body, the five named techniques that produce completely different sensations, the two internal spots most partners don't know exist, and the combinat...

Send us Fan Mail Alpha male culture is teaching men to dominate, never ask, never show need — and it is quietly destroying their sex lives. Today I'm joined by James Harris, licensed mental health therapist, US Army veteran, and founder of Men to Heal, who has spent a decade watching this play out in real relationships. He's not here to shame men — he's here to give them what the al...

Send us Fan Mail You went soft during sex. She felt it. And the next thing you did probably made it worse. Every man loses his erection. Most panic, apologize, or shut down — and that reaction does more damage than the erection loss ever did. This episode gives you the five exact moves that keep the moment going, keep her turned on, and get your body back without the shame spiral. Plus: why your e...

Send us Fan Mail Nobody told us what to do with them. Sex ed skipped them entirely. And somewhere along the way, women just... stopped thinking about them. Until now. Three women sit down and go fully, honestly, hilariously there — what we actually find attractive, what we've been getting wrong, and the moves that will genuinely change what happens in your bedroom tonight. We're getting...

Send us Fan Mail The Praise Kink episode was one of my biggest videos ever — and your comment section proved you're ready to go deeper. I pulled five questions I kept seeing and I'm giving you the real answers. Research, specifics, and the stuff I didn't have room for the first time around. ✔ What to call her when "good girl" doesn't fit — honorifics, worship titles,...

Send us Fan Mail She Stopped Wanting You & The Orgasm Gap Is Why (Here's the Fix!) She didn't lose interest in sex. She lost interest in sex that never worked for her. Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons — award-winning psychologist, Emory University professor, and author of Good Sex — breaks down the real data behind the orgasm gap, why it slowly kills a woman's desire, and exactly what...

Send us Fan Mail It's Masturbation May — and I'm giving you the practice that will upgrade your sex life more than any new position, any new toy, any new technique. Mutual masturbation. Touching yourselves at the same time, in the same bed, watching each other. It removes the pressure to deliver an orgasm. It builds the connection most couples are missing. It shows you exactly what works...

Send us Fan Mail Please stop fucking us hard. Seriously. That's the message — and if you heard it in Suzanne Noble's voice during this episode, you already know why it hit so hard. Suzanne is the host of Sex Advice for Seniors — nearly 200K followers, 180+ episodes, and the most unfiltered voice on intimacy and aging out there. She and I got into everything: why your arousal pattern chan...

Send us Fan Mail Does she grab your hair like she forgot her own name? Does she text you at 2 AM the next day because her body won't stop replaying it? If not, the gap between what you're doing and what would make her lose her mind is just 7 moves nobody ever taught you. This episode gives you 7 moves she's never felt before. Not because they're complicated — because nobody tea...

Send us Fan Mail There are one night stands you forget before you've brushed your teeth — and there are one night stands you're still thinking about years later. Today we're breaking down the difference. Zachary Zane — author of Boy Slut , Men's Health sex columnist, and Grindr's official sex and relationship expert — joins me to map out exactly how to have a one night sta...

Send us Fan Mail You watched How to F*ck Slower. You tried it. Then you lost your erection and panicked. This is the fix. Slowing down is the single best thing you can do for her pleasure — but nobody talks about what happens to you when you do it. Your brain speeds up, your body gets nervous, and you lose the one thing you need to stay in the game. This episode breaks down exactly how to stay har...

Send us Fan Mail Most couples stumble into bed hoping their bodies will figure it out. They don't. Because nobody's talking about who's leading, who's surrendering — or whether you're both fighting for the same role. Today's guest is Sarah Perry — certified somatic sex educator, sexological body worker, and founder of Haven Space Coaching. She holds a master's in...