Sideways

This week we're talking about the difference between feeling lonely and enjoying the solitude of spending time with someone you love (ie you). In what I think is one of my favourite episodes, we also cover a whole host of other topics including bunting, giving birth at a Metalica gig, the musical tastes of our fathers, being sent to your room as a child, cutting your own hair, suede jackets,...

This week we're talking about panic attacks and how dealing with them is not only challenging but counterintuitive. Martin tells me we can't take a break, even for the Queen's Jubilee, I moan about street parties, we agree that traveling to Florida sounds incredibly dangerous, and there is some fish snobbery. At the end, I've left you a little gift to mark the end of season 5(!...

This week we're talking about why offering advice might not be as good an idea as helping someone decide for themselves that change is needed. Martin forgets to turn on his microphone which makes me sound louder than I feel comfortable with, we have a disagreement about Eurovision, and there's panic in a restaurant. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com...

This week, we're discussing how to be tactful and why it's important for the health of relationships and how it relates to assertiveness. We agree on silent movies, Martin has a reductionist view of Charlie Chaplin, I share my appalling record-keeping habits, and I try to convince that Martin's dreams about a tiger might have some significance. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk...

This week we're discussing the myth of normality and how when people say, "I just want to feel normal," they mostly mean that they just don't want to feel like they do anymore. Martin gets frustrated about batteries, I get fed up with the cats from next door, we hear a sobering tale about the demise of a landlady from long ago, and we find it impossible not to have a chat about...

This week we’re talking about Phil Daniels in the film Quadrophenia, or rather the issue of multiple identities that the film deals with. Martin gets excited about sticky tape, gives us some illuminating information about stealing from the bees, we both recall experiencing a common metaphor in real life, and wonder why people bother to put the progress they’ve made with games on the internet. http...

This week we’re talking about rituals and how they can be both destructive and constructive. I wear a beret for easter, Martin has new information about raising your pet as a vegan, we discuss how easily I would beat Paul McCartney in a sprint, and which albums are likely to have been the most popular historically for use as a surface on which to roll a joint. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.u...

This week we're talking about the importance of being able to act, think, and express ourselves in the way we choose to, and the importance of considering the impact on other people when we are doing so. We debate the impressions it's no longer socially acceptable to do, hear about a trouser-related disaster, and there is gratitude for biscuits and new cookware. https://www.grahamlandiwe...

This week we're talking about how to cope when nothing feels solid enough to rely on. I get excited about pressure cookers, hit upon a flawed plan to finally get myself involved in yoga, Martin mocks my first bicycle, and there is a sobering tale about the dangers of foraging. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbei...

This week we're talking about happiness, what it really is, and how much of it we can realistically expect to enjoy. We discuss the possibility of turning our hand to opera, get some interesting new information on the topic of vegan pets from one of our listeners, and Martin gets a bit upset when he thinks I've set him some homework. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://graham...

This week we're talking about how to manage when you feel an insatiable desire for something you either can't or ought not to have. We discuss how cravings are a way of indicating that there is space within us that needs to be filled but not necessarily with whatever it is we're trying to get hold of. There's chat about my experience of covid, how to call "shotgun" on...

This week we're talking about being bullied, whether it happened at school when you were duffed up in the playground and had your lunch money stolen, or whether it's happened in your adult life when someone used aggression and force to cover up their own insecurities. We examine how bullying can have a devastating impact on us for years after it happened and what you can do to release yo...

This week we're discussing the difference between being likeable and having status and why you're better off in the long-term developing one in favour of the other. We also chat about the cult of fake tanning and memories of lying to small children. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again f...

This week we're talking about how we handle hold-ups and frustrations when we are trying to achieve something in our lives. We look into the roots of impatience and some ways in which we can help ourselves to be a bit more relaxed when things don't go quite as we had planned. We also exchange memories of being struck by falling debris and a way of getting to Norway without paying regardl...

This week we're talking about what to do if you're in a relationship where you're constantly being told that everything is your fault to the extent that you begin to wonder what's true and what isn't. Martin has some apple-related disappointment, and we discuss which of the sports either of us would be willing to have a go at in the Winter Olympics. Also, Martin pretty muc...

This week we're talking about how to keep going when you feel you've reached the point where you can't take another step. We sing the praises of hard graft and determination and think about the ways in which it isn't only overcoming huge hardship that counts, it's the little challenges we face too. We debate the best time to watch "The Sound Of Music",  and Marti...

This week we're talking about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who have a positive outlook and why it makes such a difference when you can avoid being pulled into a cycle of negative and catastrophic thinking. We decide we're probably too old to understand why people go shopping in their pyjamas, Martin reveals a particular fondness for inflatables, and there's als...

This week we've got a guest! We're talking to KL Wells, founder, and CEO of "Voices In Courage" an online community created to support the loved ones of people in the grip of alcoholism and addiction. Our chat with KL is really uplifting and illustrates how, with the right mindset, even the most desperate situations can be dealt with in a way that creates a sense of strength an...

This week, we're discussing the benefits of having some routine in your life and the way in which it can create a sense of peace where once was stress and anxiety. Martin bemoans the loss of his fingerprints,  we share fond memories of melted wax and talk about the worst things we've ever eaten. We also remember a delinquent rescue dog I used to have. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co....

This week we're discussing what is supposed to be the most depressing day of the year although I for one am happy to declare myself a dissenting voice. Martin looks into the origins of "Blue Monday" and the dubious research that went into establishing it. We also talk about illness and some startling news involving "Pokemon Go". https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ http...

This week Martin & I record an entire episode without pressing the record button and have to do the whole thing all over again. I imagine you find us quite inspiring. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about what we expect from ourselves and others, and how that can sometimes make life much harder and more disappointing than we'd like it to be. We discuss the importance of recognising that not everyone sees the world the way that we do and that few people in our lives are mind-readers. We also cover the topic of taking down Christmas decorations too early, Star...

This week we're talking about how we make judgements about people long before we have enough information to form an accurate opinion. Martin comes clean about misleading me in the last episode, we identify Hollywood A-lister Julia Roberts as someone familiar with wild and unsubstantiated evaluation, and conclude that it's always best to steer clear of a leopard, especially if it's b...

This week we're talking about the things that cause most of us stress at Christmas but might pose particular problems for anyone in recovery. Martin struggles to get into the festive spirit and reveals some startling gaps in his knowledge when it comes to Christmas movies, although he does find some seasonal mirth in a gift once given to me by my great uncle. His gratitude for a particular fe...

This week we're talking about messing things up and the way we respond when we inevitably do it. There's a lot of talk about seasonal fruit, the appearance of the Messiah in a satsuma, goalkeeping trouble caused by an orange segment, and my own DIY disaster involving a bathroom carpet. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grah...