Sideways

Delivering bad news is something most of us find difficult, so you might find these tips on how to do it successfully quite useful. We also explore the dangers of having an Only Fans account if you work in education, hear about a missing giraffe, and complain about World Cup kick off times. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlan...

This week, we're talking about what happens when you allow your care for other people's emotional wellbeing to overshadow the need to take proper care of yourself. There's also a lot of clothing related content, for some reason. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we...

This week we're talking about how to avoid unhelpful and disrespectful remarks to people in recovery, many of which say more about the person asking than they do about whoever happens to be the object of their enquiry. A buffalo receives a reprieve due to his resemblance to a US president, and a wheelchair user gets an unwelcome shock, almost literally. I got the title of the episode wrong in...

This week, we're talking about how some of us make less effort when we think our contribution won't be noticed. A man turns up in A&E with an unexploded bomb stuck in an unusual place, we discuss strange eating habits, and Martin gets a bit annoyed both about the sound quality of his recording and the way that tunes of hymns change when he is least expecting it https://www.grahamland...

This week we're discussing the modern dating phenomenon that involved sudden revulsion at someone with whom you had been experiencing a romantic spark. I offer some theories about why it might have more to do with you than you realise. We both remember disappointment at a fancy dress competition, reminisce about the Caroline roadshows of the 80s and, after a strong start, I disappoint again i...

This week, we're discussing the benefits of physical touch, and why it can be such a useful component of recovery and good mental health more generally. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about getting lost easily and how it can lead to unfair and painful levels of criticism. A woman employs a counterintuitive way to address her debilitating anxiety, and I get angry about hot cross buns. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really app...

This week, we're talking about a less well-known  form of body dysmorphia. A man wakes up coloured blue and can't understand why, and there are despicable practices at the camel pageant.   https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about the components that help us get the most from our lives. A woman becomes unbelievably wealthy when buying a cup of coffee, there's underwear that measures 'flatus', I get the ick about something I can't recall, and there's more gratitude than you can shake a stick at. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.co...

This week, we're trying to explain why so many people remain addicted to drink and drugs even when they can see how much damage it's doing. A professional fighter gets his hair punched off, I witness a live drug deal whilst walking home from the shops, we display a pathetic level of knowledge about American sport, and wonder if the best place to find love might be along the aisles of a s...

This week, we're talking about kindness, how to demonstrate more of it and what it feels like when we do. We're recording on the first day of February which reminds of of violent traditions from childhood, and Martin has a story about physical assault with an unusual weapon. We're back in our traditional roles this week which, in my case, inevitably includes a predictably poor perfo...

This week, we have a look at the popular 'Dry January' campaign and consider the potential benefits and drawbacks it represents. We also discuss why long term recovery for dependent drinkers is not comparable with short-term behavioural programmes that appear to have similar aim but, in truth, diverge enormously. We also hear about a man who chose an unusual disguise after wrongly being...

This week we're discussing the difference between tolerance and acceptance. There's a drunk racoon, vaccination chat, and I am back to my usual disappointing worst in the lyric quiz. There is also a single uttering of the f-word so, if you're easily offended, you might be better off with 'The One Show'. Happy New Year. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://graham...

This week we're talking about expereinces that move you unexpectedly.  I offer the example of a key change in a James Taylor song that moved me before realising that it doesn’t have a key change in it at all. It was the introduction of the string section at the beginning of the third verse which got me, but it's still a valid example I reckon. In other news,  Martin is still struggling w...

This week, we're discussing an effective antidote to anything that triggers feelings of anxiety, stress, overwhelm or sadness. Martin suggests some world records we can have a crack at, and there's some hygiene talk that involves dangerous soap and whether it's right to multitask whilst taking a shower. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You ca...

This week we're talking about the way the shift in seasons and the changing of the clocks is a point in the year when many of us find our emotional resilience severely tested. In other news, a bold double bluff doesn't work out, there are alarming developments on the toothpaste front, and we present a gratitude sandwich. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substac...

This week we're talking about the tendency to explain too much, a habit that emerges from insecurity in the explainer and often has little to do with the target of the explanation. A plane is grounded as a result of flatulence, there's a squirrel on wheels, Martin frightens small children, and we debate the wisdom of letting a delivery driver use your toilet. https://www.grahamlandiwellb...

This week we're talking about an effective way of keeping yourself on track or reducing feelings of overwhelm when you're facing practical and/or emotional challenges. We also feel grateful for seasonal joy and being fed.  There's some other nonsense too but I can't remember what it was about and I have a client in 10 minutes so I don't have time to check, and I've ju...

We're back! This week, we're having a conversation about 'shunishment' which might be a word you've never heard of that describes manipulative and controlling behaviour in a relationship. There's a new quiz, we're both surprisingly grateful for getting older, and some monkeys display questionable behaviour involving fermented fruit. https://www.grahamlandiwellbei...

This week we're discussing the red flags you might come across when you work with a sponsor in one of the fellowships and what you can do about it if it happens. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about why curiosity is important and how we, sometimes inadvertently, prevent ourselves from exercising it. We hear about famous people carved from vegetables, and a man gives police an unwelcome gift when they put him under arrest. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks agai...

This week, we're talking about how we forget most of what we learn and consider  ways of improving retention. Some friends, having messed with hallucinogens, mistakenly believe their companion to have died, and an elephant pops into a shop for some snacks. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again...

This week, we're talking about how we get in our own way by making things too complicated and failing to establish helpful strategies for getting stuff done. I nearly burn myself alive with a BBQ, we ponder on what might make it worth being airlifted off a mountain (twice), and we're grateful for the same thing for different reasons. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://graham...

This week, we're talking about how to avoid putting barriers up to prevent our own progress and how small incremental improvements add up to a lot. There's also a man who gets shot by his dog, and gratitude for longevity and pizza ovens. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening...

This week, we're talking about the early developmental experiences that might have a significant impact on your ability to establish and sustain relationships. There's also a cautionary tale about carrying glazed windows on your head down Mill Street. Apologies if the episode sounds a bit rough around the edges but we recorded it late, I'm trying to upload it before my first client,...