Sideways

We discuss how feelings of unworthiness or unjustified luck can affect people in recovery when they see their peers lapse or die. We also consider how survivor guilt can be experienced in many other contexts related to mental health. Daylight saving doesn't catch us out but does make us grumpy. I feel glad about insurance and Martin sings the praises of fried chicken. https://www.grahamlandiw...

We tend to think of traumatic events and the most significant of life's challenges as unremittingly negative. But what emerges after an experience that feels as if it has destroyed us is an opportunity to rebuild. We discuss, the opportunities that present themselves when we hit the bottom. If that weren't enough, someone is assaulted with vegan mayo, Martin grateful for the opportunity...

What makes us lose trust in ourselves, and how can we rebuild it once it's gone? If you've lost faith in yourself as a result of addiction or any other mental health difficulty, we're here to help. There's also biscuit talk, a new snake is discovered, and all your favourites. It's good to be back.  https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ Y...

Is it safe to go on holiday when you're in early recovery? What are the risks and how can you mitigate them? This week, we address these questions, and more. We also wonder if headbanging has gone out of fashion, hear about how spreading consumables on the floor is art, and ask the question, 'what misfortune might prevent you from seeing rock band Uriah Heap?' It's our last sto...

What does a feeling of emptiness really mean? Does it indicate there's something seriously wrong, or can it be a point of punctuation and a sign you need a reset? We also discuss paper planes, whether giraffes are good at maths, and feel grateful for footballers and trees. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.c...

Delivering bad news is something most of us find difficult, so you might find these tips on how to do it successfully quite useful. We also explore the dangers of having an Only Fans account if you work in education, hear about a missing giraffe, and complain about World Cup kick off times. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlan...

This week, we're talking about what happens when you allow your care for other people's emotional wellbeing to overshadow the need to take proper care of yourself. There's also a lot of clothing related content, for some reason. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we...

This week we're talking about how to avoid unhelpful and disrespectful remarks to people in recovery, many of which say more about the person asking than they do about whoever happens to be the object of their enquiry. A buffalo receives a reprieve due to his resemblance to a US president, and a wheelchair user gets an unwelcome shock, almost literally. I got the title of the episode wrong in...

This week, we're talking about how some of us make less effort when we think our contribution won't be noticed. A man turns up in A&E with an unexploded bomb stuck in an unusual place, we discuss strange eating habits, and Martin gets a bit annoyed both about the sound quality of his recording and the way that tunes of hymns change when he is least expecting it https://www.grahamland...

This week we're discussing the modern dating phenomenon that involved sudden revulsion at someone with whom you had been experiencing a romantic spark. I offer some theories about why it might have more to do with you than you realise. We both remember disappointment at a fancy dress competition, reminisce about the Caroline roadshows of the 80s and, after a strong start, I disappoint again i...

This week, we're discussing the benefits of physical touch, and why it can be such a useful component of recovery and good mental health more generally. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week, we're talking about getting lost easily and how it can lead to unfair and painful levels of criticism. A woman employs a counterintuitive way to address her debilitating anxiety, and I get angry about hot cross buns. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really app...

This week, we're talking about a less well-known  form of body dysmorphia. A man wakes up coloured blue and can't understand why, and there are despicable practices at the camel pageant.   https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

This week we're talking about the components that help us get the most from our lives. A woman becomes unbelievably wealthy when buying a cup of coffee, there's underwear that measures 'flatus', I get the ick about something I can't recall, and there's more gratitude than you can shake a stick at. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.co...

This week, we're trying to explain why so many people remain addicted to drink and drugs even when they can see how much damage it's doing. A professional fighter gets his hair punched off, I witness a live drug deal whilst walking home from the shops, we display a pathetic level of knowledge about American sport, and wonder if the best place to find love might be along the aisles of a s...

This week, we're talking about kindness, how to demonstrate more of it and what it feels like when we do. We're recording on the first day of February which reminds of of violent traditions from childhood, and Martin has a story about physical assault with an unusual weapon. We're back in our traditional roles this week which, in my case, inevitably includes a predictably poor perfo...

This week, we have a look at the popular 'Dry January' campaign and consider the potential benefits and drawbacks it represents. We also discuss why long term recovery for dependent drinkers is not comparable with short-term behavioural programmes that appear to have similar aim but, in truth, diverge enormously. We also hear about a man who chose an unusual disguise after wrongly being...

This week we're discussing the difference between tolerance and acceptance. There's a drunk racoon, vaccination chat, and I am back to my usual disappointing worst in the lyric quiz. There is also a single uttering of the f-word so, if you're easily offended, you might be better off with 'The One Show'. Happy New Year. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://graham...

This week we're talking about expereinces that move you unexpectedly.  I offer the example of a key change in a James Taylor song that moved me before realising that it doesn’t have a key change in it at all. It was the introduction of the string section at the beginning of the third verse which got me, but it's still a valid example I reckon. In other news,  Martin is still struggling w...

This week, we're discussing an effective antidote to anything that triggers feelings of anxiety, stress, overwhelm or sadness. Martin suggests some world records we can have a crack at, and there's some hygiene talk that involves dangerous soap and whether it's right to multitask whilst taking a shower. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You ca...

This week we're talking about the way the shift in seasons and the changing of the clocks is a point in the year when many of us find our emotional resilience severely tested. In other news, a bold double bluff doesn't work out, there are alarming developments on the toothpaste front, and we present a gratitude sandwich. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substac...

This week we're talking about the tendency to explain too much, a habit that emerges from insecurity in the explainer and often has little to do with the target of the explanation. A plane is grounded as a result of flatulence, there's a squirrel on wheels, Martin frightens small children, and we debate the wisdom of letting a delivery driver use your toilet. https://www.grahamlandiwellb...

This week we're talking about an effective way of keeping yourself on track or reducing feelings of overwhelm when you're facing practical and/or emotional challenges. We also feel grateful for seasonal joy and being fed.  There's some other nonsense too but I can't remember what it was about and I have a client in 10 minutes so I don't have time to check, and I've ju...

We're back! This week, we're having a conversation about 'shunishment' which might be a word you've never heard of that describes manipulative and controlling behaviour in a relationship. There's a new quiz, we're both surprisingly grateful for getting older, and some monkeys display questionable behaviour involving fermented fruit. https://www.grahamlandiwellbei...

This week we're discussing the red flags you might come across when you work with a sponsor in one of the fellowships and what you can do about it if it happens. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.