Sexy Marriage Radio

Today I'm joined by J Parker, of Hot Holy and Humorous, and we discuss the plight of the higher desire wife. It's more common than we think, it's impacting younger people's marriage more than ever and there are several reasons why we think this is the case. What are these reasons? Join us today to hear more. You can find J's work on her site - https://hotholyhumorous.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors...

Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me as we discuss her research and work on being more sexually mindful.  You can find more about Dr Chelom here - https://www.chelomleavitt.com/ On the Xtended version … Dr Chelom and I discuss the differences between differentiation theory and attachment theory.  Enjoy the show! The post Being Sexually Mindful #562 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

A follow up to a couple of segments from Episode #559. Was I too harsh in my wording? A couple is exploring the idea of orgasm denial - where there will be no orgasms for him unless he accomplishes certain tasks or fulfills something set for him by his wife. On the Xtended version … How exactly do you work to better yourself? It's a phrase we often use - but what are some tangible ways this is acc...

Today we dive into a topic that is sadly far too reaching in our world -  domestic and spiritual abuse. Colleen Ramser joins me in our discussion about how these types of traumas impact both men and women. We also get into how each of us who have been impacted by this type of trauma can heal going forward.  Learn more about Colleen here - http://www.colleenramserlpc.com/ And check out her course h...

A follow to a message from an Instagram Q&A I was a part of over Valentine's Weekend. A wife tried out something new in sex, didn't like it, yet her husband keeps pushing for it. A husband wants to introduce a prostate massager during mutual masturbation, his wife isn't ok with it. On the Xtended version … How do you frame healthy conversations around affection, passion and sexual release in marri...

Today, everyone gets the full show … Dr Robert Glover joins me again as we dive into the roommate syndrome often found in marriage. What are the factors at play that cause this to happen? But more importantly, what can we do about it? Find more of Dr Glover here - https://www.drglover.com/ Enjoy the show! The post Roommates Not Lovers #558 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio .

A followup to Episode #555 - what about the Scriptural concept of marriage is described as being one flesh? A wife emails as lower desire, yet her husband has given up initiating and expects her to take it over. He's even said to her "when you're interested in it, you know where to find me."  On the Xtended version … We switch gears and discuss the topic of trauma again, only through a slightly di...

Dr Juli Slattery joins me as we talk through her decision to re-write her very first book, Finding the Hero In Your Husband.  What's new, and what has changed in society and the Christian culture since it was originally written? Find more of Dr Juli here - https://www.authenticintimacy.com/ On the Xtended version … We all face disappointment in life and marriage- but what if disappointment is actu...

A voicemail from a couple looking for more resources to help them explore the spiritual and tantric side of sex. A wife calls in wanting to know how to address the desire differences between her and her husband. She wants to keep sex special and not so often, after all, it's her body so she should be able to determine when and how often. On the Xtended version … Trauma impacts lots of people and c...

Today we hear the story of Clinton and Charity Munoz of Restored 2 More, and how pornography almost destroyed their marriage, and Clinton's life. Along the way, they were given the most destructive advice about how to address this issue as a couple. Luckily, they overcame that advice and have gone on to create a ministry that helps other couples dealing with struggle and crisis from pornography or...

On the Regular version of today’s show … A voicemail from a listener pushing back on how we answered a wife in a prior episode. He believes she should have been told to put on her "big girl panties" - and he's right.  A husband has asked for some specific sexual favors for his birthday. His wife isn't usually on board with what he's asked for, yet she's done most of them. Should he speak up about...

An email from a husband wanting more than just functional/duty sex with his wife. A caller wondering about more information about masturbation and is it a sin. On the Xtended version … Expectations. We all have them. Where do they come from and what do we do with them? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/...

Pam goes through a Sex Ed Quiz again. Follow along to see how you do. A wife wants to know how to best co-parent with her step-kids mom, who is now in a same-sex relationship. A husband wants to know how to break out of the sexual rut he and his wife are in currently. How do you address times when there's an agreement for a sexual encounter yet it doesn't happen? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The S...

A conversation with Gary Thomas about his newest book, Married Sex. You can learn about Gary and his work here - https://garythomas.com On the Xtended version … Gary and I have a conversation about the pushback and reaction to his book thus far. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful conversations. https://smr.fm/union The post Married S...

Sheila Wray Gregoire joins me as we talk about her newest book, The Great Sex Rescue. Learn more about Sheila on her site https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/ On the Xtended version ... A conversation I had with Sheila about the concerns I had regarding her book and the tone of her writing and responses since publication. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the wo...

An email from a wife who wants to know if asking questions to her husband about his past struggle with porn will increase the temptation. A voicemail from a wife wanting help understanding arousal and attraction. On the Xtended version … Pam and I work through a gridlock script from a member of the SMR Nation. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have...

A voicemail from a Rape Crisis Counselor concerned about one of our past messages of leading towards what you want in sex. How do you spice up sex when trying to conceive? Dr. Laurie Mintz joins me to cover this email. On the Xtended version … A deeper conversation with Dr Mintz about her work helping women who are too tired for sex. Find more of her work here – http://drlauriemintz.com/ Enjoy the...

After our segment on BDSM in Episode #541 we received a couple of emails about how we totally missed the mark are came across as judgmental. Today we address this more. A husband wants to rim his wife yet she's not comfortable with the act. She wants to go skydiving which he's not comfortable with. What about an exchange? On the Xtended version ... A role play of how to address gridlock issues, ba...

I'm joined by Dr Laurie Watson and we talk about how breast cancer impacts a couple's  married life, sex life and desire - plus the journey for both spouses facing this battle. Learn more about Dr Laurie here - https://www.foreplayrst.com/ On the Xtended version of today's show ... Laurie and I talk about the yin and the yang of the energy in a couples sex life. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Rekind...

Today I'm joined by a colleague Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and we talk about the marriages where everything seems to be great - except in one area. What's happening here? Plus, how do you address resentment in marriage and life? Learn more about Dr Jennifer here - https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation prompts to have meaningful con...

Two emails from wives who do not feel chosen in their marriages. One wife has trouble trusting because of this and past betrayals from her husband. The other wife is married to a man who says he wouldn't get married if he were to do it all over again. On the Xtended version ... With the huge volume of information and noise in our world, we talk about the benefits of an attention diet. And how to g...

I'm joined by Kelly Casperson, MD as we discuss the limiting beliefs many people have when it comes to their bodies and their abilities in sex and life. To learn more about Dr Kelly visit her site - https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/ On the Extended Version ... Dr Kelly and I discuss where orgasms reside in the brain! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The SMR Academy: Get XTD content and support from th...

This week we are celebrating SMR's 10 year anniversary!!! On the Regular version of today's show ... Some thank you's are in order as we have been on the air for 10 years now. Thank you to the SMRNation for showing up each week and speaking up about the topics and issues you want to learn more about. An email from a listener curious about BDSM as a Christian couple. On the Xtended version ... What...

Can sex be an idol. How would you know? A dating couple want to know more about what options are there for birth control as they prepare for the marriage. The pill had too many side effects for the wife and she's concerned about condoms, even though her soon to be husband says he's fine with them. A newlywed couple is averaging sex 2 times a month, not at all what she thought would be the case. Is...

I'm joined by Dr Emily Jamea as we discuss the distracted mind, or put another way - how to address the times when you can't turn off you mind. Learn more about Dr Jamea on her site - https://emilyjamea.com/ On the Xtended version ... Dr Emily and I discuss the dynamic in marriage where the wife is the higher desire spouse. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly conversation p...