Sexy Marriage Radio

Many, if not most, of us have some sort of sexual brokenness or shame or trauma in our pasts. Today we have a conversation with Jay Stringer about his work in this area. Learn more about Jay and his work here - https://jay-stringer.com/ On the Xtended version … Jay and I dive into his research on the subject of sexual brokenness and porn and trauma. How do you deal with unwanted sexual behaviors i...

A conversation about men and what it is we really need from men in our marriages, families and societies with author Brant Hansen. How can a guy who plays the flute and accordion and with puppets write a book about manliness? What is so terrible about men who are passive? What should we as men really be doing in our lives and relationships? Learn more about Brant here https://branthansen.com  On t...

It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails. A husband is more well-endowed than his petite wife is able to receive without anxiety and even pain. How can they navigate this kind of size difference? A voicemail with a thought we missed on Episode #580, where a husband wanted to go down on his wife after climaxing inside her. A wife went to the hospital to deliver a baby a...

What are the benefits of having sex every day? Are there negatives to this as well? What if it wasn't sexual intercourse every day ... but was simply being sexual every day? Does that change anything in your mind? On the Xtended version … A message from a member who is wanting to get the passion back in his marriage after 20 years.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: Online counseling servi...

An encore conversation with Dr Robert Glover on the topic of Nice Guys. And no, we're not meaning kind in this episode. What is the Nice Guy? How do you recognize and confront covert contracts? To learn more from Robert -check out his site https://www.drglover.com/ On the Xtended version … An extended conversation with Dr Glover about the importance of showing up in your relationships, and setting...

Everyone gets the full show today … A conversation with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the topic of obligation sex.  Is it a part of every marriage? Is it harmful to one, or both spouses?  To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast - check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Also listen to her other episodes on SMR: #437 The Lower Desire Wife #463 Sex For Emotional Attac...

What does trust mean? Is it a simple concept or a complicated one? What if we frame this topic under the lens of trustworthiness? That's our conversation today, and how this plays out in life and marriage. On the Xtended version … An email from a member who is wondering if there can be a role reversal within the difference aspects of the Higher Desire and Lower Desire framework. Specifically when...

I'm joined today Jon and Katie Runyan, of Faithful Fling, and we dive into the world of role playing. How can it spice things up? How can a couple explore this aspect of fantasy and sex while still keeping it within the couple? Learn more about Faithful Fling here - https://www.faithfulfling.com/ On the Xtended version … Jon and Katie and I continue the conversation by turning it a bit more person...

Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway. A husband had a testicle removed due to cancer (which was caught early). He was told by his doctor that his libido may increase and the remedy to any discomfort is ejaculation. This puts his wife is a tough spot. A husband wants his wife to wear lingerie and wants to go down on her after sexual intercourse. His side - he loves it. Her side - not so much. On t...

Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway. A caller has an issue with a statement made from a past show and left us a message asking if we would tell our daughter the same thing I said on the air. A husband is suffering from retroactive jealousy over things his wife did before they were married and even before they had met. On the Xtended version … An encore conversation about our fear of being alone....

An encore episode of a conversation with Vanessa Marin, a fellow sex therapist, about the most common issues couples face in their sex lives today. You can find more about Vanessa on her site https://vmtherapy.com/ On the Xtended version … Vanessa and I continue the conversation about sex, only this time we’re focusing solely on the female orgasm. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Challenge ....

I'm joined by Dr Carole Hooven, a Harvard Lecturer, as we discuss her study and work on the science of testosterone. Why is it that this hormone is so important and so divisive? Learn more about Dr Carole here - http://www.carolehooven.com/ On the Xtended version … Dr Carole and I continue the conversation only get more personal. She even turns the tables on the interview! Enjoy the show! Sponsors...

An encore presentation of the conversation with Dr Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate. We talk about the orgasm gap, why it exists and what couples can do about it. On the Xtended version … Dr Laurie continues with me again to discuss the route to female orgasms as well as their importance. Learn more about Laurie here https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Hello Fresh...

A husband who has had a past struggle with porn and sex addiction is in the midst of an agreed upon abstinence period with his wife. She says it will take a long time before sex is introduced again in the marriage. What can he do? A wife went through old voicemails left for her from her husband while they were dating and he sounds like a completely different man compared to now. How should she rea...

Pam and I work through a potpourri of questions today .... A husband is struggling with the idea of consent in marriage, even when his wife has given it in some areas. Wife regularly gives her husband a "hand" yet it's feeling too transactional now. A husband told his wife she was great at blow jobs early on in their marriage, yet she's not. Now what should he do? A wife has a husband who has lost...

A best of SMR episode with an email from a higher desire wife that's in a catch 22. An interview with Pam Costa about her journey and research into female desire. How her experience of talking about the topic, taboos, and hesitancies with other women dramatically improved her desire levels. On the Xtended version … I continue the conversation with Pam Costa about the research project she created t...

An email from a husband wanting to explore some new things during sex with his wife, yet she takes this as she's not enough for him. A husband emails us about his never being attracted to his wife, even while they were dating. What are his options now? On the Xtended version … How do our family of origin patterns play out in our lives and marriages today? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Adventure Cha...

A followup voicemail regarding episode #569 - what are some better questions and conversations starters to address difficult issues in marriage? An email from a husband who's wife experiences pain during sex, and while it's better, how do they change things up a bit when there's anxiety about possible pain? On the Xtended version … Pam and I discuss an email from a listener and their framework of...

I'm joined by Brad and Marilyn Rhoads, co-founders of Grace Marriage. Hear us talk about their story and how it applies to most every marriage. Learn more about Grace Marriage here - https://www.gracemarriage.com/ On the Xtended version … Today we revisit a segment from a prior episode in the archives with this Best Of topic - I am not who you think I am, I am not who I think I am, I am who I thin...

A husband is stuck in a scary place in his marriage. His wife says she has no attraction towards him, at least physically. Yet she also is fine with the state of their marriage. He's not. What can he do? On the Xtended version … How do we use our time? Where are there spaces (white space) in our days to reset, recharge, or create? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... The State Of Our Union: Weekly convers...

I'm joined today Kimberly Beam Holmes, of It Starts With Attraction, and we dive into the world of attraction. Or as she had framed it ... PIES. Learn more about Kimberly on her sites https://marriagehelper.com/ https://piesuniversity.com/ On the Xtended version … Kimberly and I go into a more personal conversation about growing up behind the scenes in the marriage help world, and living as a coup...

I'm joined today by Tornus and Smartypants, of Full Circle Kink, as they take us on an exploration in the world of kink and BDSM. Communication is king when venturing into today's topic ... and all sexual encounters for that matter. Learn more on their site - https://www.fullcirclekink.com/  On the Xtended version … We continue the conversation with Tornus and Smartypants and their personal journe...

A wife suffered from insomnia for a while in her marriage, and it wrecked their sex life. How do they get it back now that the insomnia is no longer the issue? Plus, when she feels desire to initiate, she often doesn't - because he would like that. What's that about? An email and voicemail adding more to last week's conversation about the couple where vacation sex has decreased. A few additional p...

A husband is frustrated because while he usually could rely on vacation sex being adventurous and frequent with his wife, something's changed with her and them lately. A voicemail asking some questions about Erich Fromm's book The Art Of Loving. Class is in session. On the Xtended version … A wife with the trauma of sexual assault in her past is now struggling with how her husband is sometimes try...

A husband wants to learn how to change up sexual encounters with his wife so the experience will last longer - but changing it up ruins it for his wife. A follow up to the One Flesh episode from a husband who is the same situation with his wife - she too has not interest in sex or seeking help for their sex life. On the Xtended version … Some newlyweds reach out for help in how to get a wife more...