SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) When my husband and I met in our early 40’s, we had a lot of sex that was fairly vanilla but very passionate. Over time, the frequency has decreased. I don’t like being the initiator so there’s not been much I can do to have sex more other than be incredibly enthusiastic when he does want it. The problem is that, over time, he’s b...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 35-year-old woman who has fallen in love with a much older man: he’s 60. At the moment, the age difference isn’t that apparent because he looks and acts much younger than his years. But I am worried about sex because it’s a big part of our relationship. How long can a man keep getting erections? Is there an age when he will...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I am a happily married man who likes wearing women’s underwear under my clothes. I buy the items secretly and my wife has no idea I do this: it’s remarkably easy to get away with if you think things through. I’ve been doing this from when I was very small and never told anyone about it in my life. It doesn’t interfere with my rela...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) Sometimes when I’m in bed with my husband, I start laughing. He gets all huffy about it which makes me laugh even more. I have no idea why I do it or how to stop. 2) I’m very happy with my partner of 12 years but I dream of sex with other men nearly every night. I love the dreams: they’re exciting and fun though I do feel guilty w...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) Is there such a thing as an aphrodisiac? Oysters, chocolate, things like that? I suspect the answer is no but I’m curious if things like ‘Spanish Fly’ ever did work? 2) I have no problems asking for what I want in bed but I feel like I’m talking to myself with my new partner. It’s not easy for me to orgasm because I need very spec...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m embarrassed about the way my vulva looks. My inner labia lips protrude and look ugly. I’ve watched porn and, for most women, the inner lips sit inside the outer lips. It makes me very nervous about sex with someone new. Is this normal? 2) A year ago, my partner had an affair. We have a close group of friends, so everyone knows...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m no prude and have nothing against people watching porn but I am alarmed by the amount of time my boyfriend now spends watching it on his phone. We both work from home and it’s ramped up since then. He thinks it’s funny when I catch him and doesn’t try to hide it. But it’s starting to bug me, looking over and seeing women doing...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I can’t climax during intercourse and it frustrates me. I know I’m not the only one and I know why I’m not able to orgasm but surely there are things I can try other than him using his fingers or holding a vibrator there?   2) My 8-year relationship went through a bad patch and I had a brief fling with a woman at work. It’s a...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) Please can you suggest a way to speed up sex with my husband? He can last up to an hour at a time. It’s boring and I get sore. He thinks it’s something to be proud of but all I can think of is how to make it end.   2) Should it take longer to have an orgasm as you get older (men and women)? 3) I’m a recently divorced man (42)...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I am in a relationship that I’d describe as ‘just OK’. Sometimes it feels perfectly fine and that I should stay. Other times, when we argue, it feels very much like I should end it. I have been ricocheting between a go/leave decision for about a year now. Any clues to help me decide?   2) My partner is 46 and has started to a...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) This is something I’m sure you get asked all the time but do I really need to swallow? I don’t mind giving my partner oral sex but really hate the swallowing part. He says it’s like having a hot dog without the tomato sauce. Is this true or is he making a fuss over nothing?   2) You’re always talking about how much better sex...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) We’re stuck in a rut when it comes to sex positions and only do it doggy style or from behind. Any suggestions for how to shake things up a bit without going into Kama Sutra like contortions?   2) I noticed that whenever I wake up during the night, my partner has an erection. I asked him one morning if he’d had a sex dream an...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband has just left me and I honestly don’t know where to go from here. We were married for 19 years but the last seven or so have been hell, after I discovered him cheating, time and time again. He’s now found someone he says he’s in love with and has left me for her. We have two children together but they’re both not living...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I am single but please don’t tell me to go online to meet someone because I have absolutely no luck that way. Where should I go in person to meet men? Where are they all hiding? 2) My husband is obsessed with the size of his penis. He thinks it’s too small and despite years of reassurance, he’s still really paranoid (He measured i...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve been married for 15 years and have sex once a week. My husband tells me this isn’t enough and that other couples do it much more than we do. Is he right? He’s starting to make me feel like there’s something wrong with me for not wanting to do it more often. 2) I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years, since I was 18. It’s b...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I have a dilemma. I have lots of women friends in my drama class. They are all very pleasant and I enjoy being in their company. One of the unattached ones has fallen for me. I am attached (and believe it or not do love my partner) and will never leave her, and my friend knows it. But there is a sexual attraction between us, and genu...

Back by popular demand, this week we're re-releasing episode 15. In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My partner of 12 years wants me to ‘peg’ him. I didn’t even know what it was and had to google it. Now I’m worried. Not only don’t I want to do it, I’m worried it secretly means he’s gay. I found out my husband had sex with a hooker on his bachelor’s night just before w...

Back by popular demand, this week we're re-releasing episode 19. In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My friends talk about their partners always hassling them for sex but I have the opposite problem. My husband is the one who doesn’t want it. Is he having an affair? Does it mean he doesn’t find me attractive anymore? I’m too embarrassed to talk to my friends. My partne...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I have been with my girlfriend for over a year and still don’t know where I stand. It’s all about her and always has been. She is a very good-looking, sexy woman and I think she secretly thinks she can do better than me. (I’m OK looking but nothing special.) I love her and give her all the attention in the world, but she treats me ba...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I’m a woman in my mid-20s and I have just met a man I think is the love of my life. He feels the same. The problem is, neither of us had any intention of settling down for at least 10 years. I’ve just finished a degree and started a job that requires long hours. Same for him. I wish I could put him in the deep freeze and thaw him out...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: A friend of mine (25 years old) has been seeing a married man in his forties who has a child. This has been going on for four years. They've been through some serious things and their 'relationship' is very clearly becoming even more toxic. We’ve all tried to tell her SO many times to stop what she's doing as it's not right and thing...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I’m a 28-year-old woman and I’ve been with my partner for six years. I love him desperately but I’m not that interested in having sex with him anymore. I know that it’s normal for interest in sex to fall over time but I’m young and six years isn’t that long. Is this a sign I’ve chosen the wrong person? Or will this eventually happen...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My husband and I are having massive fights over a long-time friend of mine who I used to date in college. We’d see each other twice a year for dinner and my husband didn’t seem to mind. But now my friend is having problems in his marriage and suddenly my husband is threatened. My friend is attractive and, yes, we have history. But th...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My partner of 9 years cheated on me recently with a same-sex partner but doesn’t consider that “cheating.” I disagree. He went for an STI check and a blood test confirms he has HSV1 (herpes simplex type 1). I’m terrified I’m going to get it. Should I risk it for him? He’s broken and desperate to make it up to me.  I’m hoping you...

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I am really hoping you can advise me on this because I honestly don’t know what else to do. A very good friend of mine is about to get married. They seem very happy but I recently saw her fiancé having dinner with another woman. They were having a very intense conversation and, at one point, he held her hand across the table. (I was...