SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Why can’t my husband change the way he approaches me for sex? He gives me this look that makes me want to run away…it’s primal, and it doesn’t feel good. I want him to start by just holding me and listening to me, but he says that isn’t what he wants at that time. Please help us with our communication! 2)...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I am having an emotional affair with one of my co-workers. I’ve been married for almost 10 years, and although I know this isn’t right, it’s making me feel alive again. Every part of me wants to sleep with this man, but I don’t want to hurt my husband’s feelings and I don’t want it to ruin my marriage. But, I have a dee...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Tracey, you often talk about masturbation as something everyone should do, especially women. I’ve never done it, and have never seen the point. I asked my partner if he masturbates, and he said why would he need to when we have sex together? I get why you might want to do it if you’re single, but why would you do it if...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I have lost all desire to have sex: my libido has completely disappeared. I don’t want to have sex with my partner, I don’t masturbate, I don’t feel anything when I do attempt to have sex with him. I’m only 42. This isn’t a sudden thing, desire just gently slipped away. What’s wrong with me and what can be done to fix i...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I grew up with religious parents and I’ve had it drummed into me from a very early age that sex is for procreation, not recreation: You do it to have kids and not for pleasure. I am now married to a man who isn’t religious and who has taught me that sex is something adults enjoy. I know intellectually that he's right, b...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve always wanted to visit a high-end sex club and now that my relationship has finished, it's a good time to do it. The thing is, I have no clue where to start to find one? I don’t want anywhere tacky or sleazy. I’m a straight woman; though, I do confess—I’m a little bi-curious.   2) I’ve just married a man I’ve...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) This is a very personal question that’s highly embarrassing. When I have sex with my partner, wind comes out of my vagina. The first time it happened I was mortified but my partner just kept pumping away and didn’t mention it. It happens on a regular basis and destroys the mood for me though he doesn’t seem to care. How...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner always falls out when we have sex. It’s frustrating and interrupts the flow. Is there a reason why this is happening and how do we stop it? 2) My boyfriend thinks he’s great in bed – he told me right at the start that all his exes say he’s the best lover they’ve ever had. He’s a nice man otherwise and has a g...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Why is it that I can orgasm easily on my own (using my fingers or a vibrator) but have never had an orgasm with a partner? So many boyfriends have said, ‘Oh, but you’ve never had sex with ME!”, convinced they will be the one to make it happen. But it never does. I came close with my ex whose technique was excellent, but...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Don’t give me a hard time because it sounds boring; but, missionary is my favorite position—it just works for us. Can you suggest some ways to mix it up a little to keep things interesting? 2) I’ve been married for 25 years and love my husband, but my self-confidence has taken a dive. Five years ago, my husband became v...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a woman in my early 40s and my problem is that I can only orgasm with a clitoral vibrator. I can reach orgasm on my own or with my partner, but only if I use vibration. I’ve never had an orgasm another way. I have tried SO hard on my own using fingers, but I don’t get even close. How do I change this? My curren...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I don’t know where to start but please help because our sex life is such a mess! We’ve been married for 12 years and it’s the usual story: things started out great, then we got bored and sex got less and less frequent. Now we barely do it and it’s awkward and not pleasurable. Don’t tell me to try something new because i...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I have an issue with pubic hair. Basically, I’m not a fan and like it well-manicured on both women and men. I shave my testicles and keep the rest neatly trimmed. My wife however has a laissez-faire attitude and sports a luxuriant bush though she does trim it before a beach vacation. I know that the issue is mine, no do...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve gone from one extreme to another. My previous partner used to take so long to orgasm during intercourse, I’d be practically asleep. With my new boyfriend, it’s over within two minutes. I really like him and want to make this work. I don’t want him to go on for hours but 10 or so minutes would be good. How can I hel...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m having an affair and ironically, sex with my husband has never been better. It’s confusing me. I was all set to leave, but now I’m not sure. We were stuck in a rut for years and nothing seemed to make a difference, but now I can feel new life breathing into the marriage. The question is: Is it going to last? 2) My n...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband has been watching porn of women ‘squirting’ on men. He’s incredibly turned on by the idea of it all and wants me to squirt on him. Are these videos even real? Is female ejaculation possible; and, if so, how could I make myself do it? 2) I’ve just separated from my husband and have been ostracized by my friend...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m 38 and have finally met a nice guy. I really like him, but the sex is average at best. We’ve only been seeing each other for two months and the sex is like the sex you have two years in. It’s okay, but the lust and spark isn’t there. Is this something you can fix? 2) My new boyfriend’s penis is bent, a bit like a ba...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 36-year-old straight woman and just broke up with my ex. Something that always bothered my ex was that we didn’t have an orgasm at the same time. I learned to fake it to avoid him getting annoyed or upset if we didn’t ‘come together’ during intercourse, but I don’t want to do that anymore. All the men I’ve slept w...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m 36 and have been married for nine years. I’m sick to death of being pestered for sex by my husband. He wants sex all the time and gets angry or sulks when I don’t give in. I’ve tried telling him that being hassled makes me want sex less, not more, but he doesn’t listen. Our sex is okay, but it’s always about his ple...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a woman in my early thirties and I don’t get wet either during masturbation or sex (but I do have orgasms easily). It has always been like that. I’ve tried lubes, creams, dietary supplements, even hormones, but nothing's changed. I’ve talked to different doctors and everything is fine medically with me. I didn’t tal...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner of six years and I used to have really good sex but it’s dropped off considerably as time goes on. We used to be grabbing at each other all the time but that’s disappeared and now it’s all too easy to let other things take priority. Would planning a day when we do it help us get back on track or does it turn...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I have been with my partner for 15 years – we got together at college. Our sex life is okay...ish, but I crave new experiences and I want to have them on my own. I have always wanted to sleep with another woman. I would never cheat on my partner with another man – that’s just wrong — but is sleeping with another woman s...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a straight woman and very happy with my partner. All is good; but, four years in I still feel intimated by his sexual past. He’s a little older than me and has had many lovers. I have only slept with one person before him (I was in a long-term relationship for many years before we met). He’s never said anything to m...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) What’s your view on ‘vabbing’? Does it really work to attract men? Can people tell what it is they’re smelling and wouldn’t they be put off if they do figure it out?  2) I’m a 44-year-old attractive, fit woman but have never really been in a proper relationship and because of this I lack experience in the bedroom....

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve just started a new relationship with a guy I’m really into. Our sex is good and he seems to enjoy it but his erections are a little hit and miss. On two occasions, he struggled to get one and I notice he loses his erection when he goes down on me. Does that mean he’s not enjoying doing it? Do you think it means he’s not that...