SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) How do you have a cervical orgasm? I’ve heard Kelsey talk about it and I’m intrigued. How do you do it? It sounds quite full on and intense and I want to have one! 2) I’m a 36-year-old straight woman and feel like I’m a boring lover. How can I be wilder in bed? I’ve done all the usual things—oral sex, different intercou...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I thought I’d never have to stare at a strange ceiling again, but here I am: newly separated and back out there again. I had a healthy amount of sexual experience before my marriage, but I’ve slept with no one but my husband for 25 years (I’m 52). I’m a confident person, but the thought of sleeping with someone new...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My son is 25 and I’m 44. I split from his father soon after he was born and we are very close. He still lives at home and often has friends around, all of which I know well. Here’s the part I need advice on: one of his friends has a crush on me and it's flattering. I’ve seen him watching me and he flirts a lot, but he t...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My jaw gets unbearably sore and tired just minutes into giving my partner a BJ. I’ve tried taking breaks by focusing on the testicles, but it’s never enough to recuperate, and he doesn’t seem to enjoy it much. My partner gives me lots of great oral sex and I want to do the same to him. How can I keep him occupied w...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve just broken up with a long-term boyfriend and am dating someone new. All is going well—except in the sex department. He has no problems getting an erection, but the minute he tries to penetrate, he loses it. If we can get him inside of me, he gets hard again and can orgasm. Is this ED? I worry it’s somehow my fault...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) How do I learn to relax and enjoy my partner giving me oral sex? I’ve been seeing a guy and am really enjoying the relationship. At first, I wouldn’t let him go down on me for all the usual self-conscious reasons. But I decided to be open to the experience since he convinced me that he likes doing it. I still can’t get...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I seem to have the opposite problem to my friends. I’ve just had a baby (she’s six months old) and want to resume having sex with my partner. I’m not exactly dying to have sex, but do think it’s important for us to remain sexual. He knocks me back every time I initiate, coming up with weak excuses why he doesn’t feel li...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 43-year-old woman, happily married for nearly 20 years, with tween-aged children. My husband and I have always maintained a healthy sex life (even if it is a bit vanilla most of the time) The past few years we have scheduled sex, and usually average once or twice a week. But for some unknown reason, both our libid...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I was in a relationship for 10 years and the sex was never great, but I felt safe and supported and in a lot of ways, I loved my life. We were both each other’s first boyfriend/girlfriend, but we barely had sex and I didn't feel desired. On the rare occasions we did, he’d lose his erection. I tried to get him to feel co...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) How long should you wait to have sex? I’ve been seeing someone for nearly two months and we still haven't had sex. We've talked about it, but it feels like she’s trying to long kick the conversation. The intimacy is great, but I would have hoped for some oral at least? It does feel like she’s not as interested in s...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m in my 50s and have been with my husband for 20 years. We’ve reached a point where we have a good life together, but he’s not interested in sex anymore. I look after myself and have been getting attention from a couple of guys at my gym—one going as far as sexting messages which I've found extremely flattering,...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve been with my partner for 13 years and recently found out he’s been having sex with a woman he works with. It’s over now and we’re having therapy, but we haven’t had sex since I found out six months ago. I can’t even think about sex. Every time I do, I imagine the two of them together and it makes me feel sick to th...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend and we have great sex, but I have sex dreams about other men weekly. What could this mean? 2) I am in my early 50's and became perimenopausal in my late 40's. My husband and I have been together for 25 years. Sex was always okay, but because of my lack of desire and sex...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My kids are about to fly the nest and it’s just going to be my husband and me. We get on really well, but I know this will mean he will want sex more often. I used to enjoy sex, but now I find I can take it or leave it. It doesn’t really excite me anymore, and I’m not sure why. How can I get myself more interested? 2) M...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) We’re a married couple—I’m 35 and my wife is 32—and love listening to your podcast. No kids yet. We enjoy sex, but only have it once a week. We try to do it more, but we’re busy and it never happens. We were talking about sex with a group of close friends and they all said they have sex three times a week minimum. It’s...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve listened to every one of your podcasts and all too often identify as the ‘bad guy.’ I like to watch porn, which I do in secret. I have a secret social media account where I follow a few rather exhibitionist (and rather fun) women (but never engage sexually with them). I dream about visiting a sex club (just to watc...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) You talk a lot about how most women have their orgasms through oral sex, but I’ve had more than one girlfriend push me away when I try to go down on her. They say they just aren’t into it. Is this true, or are there other reasons they aren’t telling me? 2) I’m a 48-year-old woman and have been happily married for 12 yea...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner wants me to talk dirty, and I can see why it’s a turn on—but I don’t have a clue how to do it. What can I say that doesn’t make me sound like an idiot or will make me want to laugh?  2) I heard you on Diary of a CEO and was especially interested in your thoughts on Viagra. My partner is 26 and takes Viag...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) So, guys have a built-in masturbation tool (the foreskin) and they discover it very early. They have some advantage I would say for discovering their body and how it can give them the pleasure of orgasm. I have a 13-year-old daughter and want her to also learn about her body and how to give herself an orgasm. I hav...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) After a few relationships in my twenties, I have enjoyed ten years of being (voluntarily) single, but am now looking to meet someone new. I’m keen for my next relationship to have open, honest communication around sex. I know it’s easier to start as you mean to go on, so I’d like to ask when and how I can start to set t...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I love French kissing but my girlfriend does not. It's my favorite thing to do but she says that’s for teenagers or new relationships. How do I get her to see how fun it can be? Nothing seems to change her mind. 2) My husband and I are in our thirties and have a child. I just recently found out that he had been cheating...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My new boyfriend told me I seem much wetter than other women he’s slept with. I took it as a compliment, but now he’s confessed he finds it difficult to orgasm because he can’t feel anything. Is there such a thing as being too wet for sex? 2) What does it mean if a man doesn’t go down on you? I’ve met a guy I like but h...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I want to know if my partner is addicted to porn or whether this is normal for a man. We have sex twice a week but he says that isn’t enough for him, so he also masturbates to porn two or three times a week. We’re in our late 20s and have been together 2 years. I don’t ask what type of porn he watches, but do wonder whi...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) We are the couple that everyone either envies or pities. We have only ever had one sexual partner—each other. We’ve been very happily married for 15 years so far (we’re in our mid 30s) and sex is great. Well, I think so anyway. I do worry that my partner feels like he has missed out by not playing the field, being a man...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Whenever we go to parties, my husband always makes jokes about having a threesome with one of my best friends. It’s starting to be really weird, and I can tell it’s on his mind all the time. Is that normal? Am I not enough for him anymore? 2) I need help figuring out what went wrong with a great relationship I was havin...