SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m 32 and should be at my prime sexually, but feel like I’m an intensely boring lover. I want to be wild and uninhibited, and the sort of lover men think about for the rest of their lives. But I’m so vanilla, I don’t even know how to be wildly sexy, or what sort of things that would include. 2) I’m happily married...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m dating again after a divorce and have met a new man I really like, but I’m convinced he’s faking orgasms. Why would he do this, and should I say something? 2) I’ve been with my new girlfriend for four months, and although I’ve given her oral sex every single time we make love, not once has she offered to reciprocate...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My wife has an extremely high libido. I know that sounds like every man’s dream, but it’s not. My sex drive has never been that high, but hers is through the roof. I thought we’d even out when we had kids, and her libido did calm down for a while. But three years later, she’s wanting sex every day. It’s emasculating, an...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner does the same moves in the same order every single time we have sex. How do I break the routine without bruising his ego? I like what he does, but can’t be doing this for the rest of my life. 2) My boyfriend loses his erection during sex, but not when he’s having solo sex. How do we fix this without making it...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I have just found out my wife fakes her orgasms sometimes. We’ve been together for seven years. She recently asked me if we could use her vibrator during intercourse so she doesn’t need to fake it. I am shocked. I had no idea, and feel hurt and angry that she didn’t tell me this before. Sh explained that she finds it di...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Why do orgasms feel so much better when you’re on your own? When it’s just me and my vibrator, they are consistently intense and satisfying. It’s very hit and miss with my partner, even if he’s giving me oral sex (which is the only thing that works for me). 2) In one of your previous podcasts, Tracey suggested that coup...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve been married a long time and our kids are about to graduate—the pressure is finally off. I’m as happy as you can be with someone you’ve been with for 25-odd years. Meaning, I’m also bored. I’ve paid my dues, and I want some excitement. There’s a man in my life that’s paying me a lot of attention. Am I bad for think...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m reading lots of things on social media that suggest people who are emotionally volatile are better in bed. Is there any truth in this? 2) Everyone talks about how having kids ruins your sex life. But no one talks about your wife never wanting sex ever again afterwards. It’s been six years since our last child was bo...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m concerned about my daughter. She’s a virgin at 24. Once upon a time, a parent’s fear was teenage pregnancy. I’m worried because she’s not having sex at all. She’s beautiful, bright, funny, and has everything going for her, but has never had a boyfriend. I couldn’t wait to have sex. What’s going on, and should I talk...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Can you explain what role-playing games are? What would you recommend for guys, so it doesn’t come off as weird when I suggest it? I want something that women would find sexy and attractive. Also, do you really need to buy expensive costumes? 2) After I’ve had intercourse with my girlfriend, she often asks me to give he...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband left me for a much younger woman. It happened two months ago, so the shock is wearing off, but I have no clue how to recover from this. I’m 51 and my husband is 55. He left me for a woman who is 30. 2) If you could go back in time and give advice to your younger self about sex, knowing what you know now, what...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) A simple question for you: what do people use dildos for? I get why a vibrator is appealing, but why would a couple need one? 2) I’m in a new relationship with the most patient, loving man. He gives me the most fantastic oral sex, often bringing me to orgasm without a toy. But, he suffers from terrible PE and will orgas...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve been single for a few years and was desperate for sex, so started an affair with a friend of a friend. I knew he was married, and it’s not my style to sleep with married men, but we all got drunk at a party and it happened. The sex was incredible, so we did it again. We’ve been meeting for sex about once a fortnigh...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) What’s your view on ‘O-shots’? My friend had one after menopause and says it rejuvenated her vagina back to what it was in her 30s. She says sex is amazing again. They are expensive, but I’m tempted. Are they safe, and what’s your take on them? 2) So I know what you’re going to tell me, but I’m asking anyway: I’m 43, di...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) You’ve talked about penis size and sensitivity, but I haven’t heard you talk about clitoris size in that regard. I used to have a normal size clitoris, but after taking testosterone to help with low libido, it seems to have tripled in size. I have stronger orgasms now—but it takes so much longer to climax. I can’t...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My marriage has been sexless for five years—literally, no sex at all. I tried everything to make my wife see how important sex is, but she refused to even talk about it. We’re young—in our early 40s! It’s strained our marriage beyond repair; so, I asked her for a divorce. Instantly, everything changed. She initiated sex...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband has recently discovered Viagra and now takes it every time we have sex. Rather than save our sex life, it’s destroyed it. His penis is now too hard, he takes ages to orgasm, and his focus is almost exclusively on intercourse. Before Viagra, we had lots of foreplay and oral sex. I’ve told him I don’t like it,...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 26-year-old straight guy and I’m having no luck with women. I’m curious to know what you think of AI girlfriends. I’m tempted to try one until I meet someone in real life that I really like. Is it a good way to practice relationship skills? Is there anything I should know before I sign up? 2) I’ve met someone and...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I followed your advice and asked my partner for something I'd like him to do in bed. He did it, and all was good. But now he doesn’t do it anymore and I’m tired of asking nicely and dropping hints. What now? 2) You’ve talked about ‘hot-wifing,’ but what about ‘hot husbanding'? Do women get turned on watching their husba...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve listened to enough of your podcasts to know that women don’t often orgasm through intercourse alone. But, is there anything a man can do to make that more possible, apart from holding a vibrator on her clitoris while he is inside her? My penis is starting to get a complex! 2) I’ve recently lost a lot of weight thro...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m 28 and been with my partner for four years. He’s always been the one to initiate sex and I thought he liked it that way. But, now he’s told me he’s sick of it and wants me to take the lead—not just with initiating, but during sex as well. I have no idea how to do this. Can you help? 2) I had a bit of a thing with my...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a woman who has no problem having an orgasm on her own, but it happens rarely with my partner. I’ve told him how I want to be stimulated, but sex always feels like something that’s done to satisfy his needs and mine are an afterthought. He knows I don’t orgasm through intercourse, but still asks me every single time...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 25-year-old straight woman and am not interested in a relationship right now. But, I do want sex. How and when do I bring this up with people I date—and do I have to? 2) My boyfriend of four years is suddenly doing new things in bed which is making me suspicious. I’ve always been the higher libido one; now he’s th...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) How do I make myself desire sex more? I’ve tried everything to turn myself on but nothing seems to work. I have never had a high sex drive and probably never will. But I would like to get to the point where sex is remotely appealing. Do you have any advice I won’t have already heard? 2) I know my husband watches porn—we...

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My wife and I have had sex in our garden, but she wants to try it in semi-public. We want the thrill of thinking we might be caught, but not actually get caught. Do you have any tips on how to go about this? 2) I’m 27 and just got engaged to my girlfriend of seven years. At the start, we had sex once or twice a week, bu...