Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

Every woman’s experience of the menopause is different but, for many, it’s the impact on one’s libido that can come as a real shock. Along with hot flashes, fuzzy brain, Zoe and Suzanne discuss how the menopause affected them and how they have dealt with it. HRT or Bio-Identical hormones can certainly help, but not all women want to or are able to take them. If you’re single or in a new relationsh...

Every woman’s experience of the menopause is different but, for many, it’s the impact on one’s libido that can come as a real shock. Along with hot flashes, fuzzy brain, Zoe and Suzanne discuss how the menopause affected them and how they have dealt with it. HRT or Bio-Identical hormones can certainly help, but not all women want to or are able to take them. If you’re single or in a new relationsh...

Getting hard, getting it up, keeping it up. There are so many ways for the penis not to work; it’s a wonder when it does. Erectile dysfunction can happen to men of all ages, but the percentages increase when men hit 40. There are many reasons for unreliable erections, but mostly they are psychological. Lack of confidence, fear, underlying trauma, stress, and anxiety can all prevent a man from havi...

If you’re new to online dating, you’ll probably have encountered potential partners that look too good to be true. And, chances are, that’s because they typically are not what they appear. In this episode, we look at a few red flags or people to avoid or be suspected of, especially if you’re seeking a relationship using the internet. We also talk about first-date red flags and other warning signs...

There’s a cliche that says, “The best feeling is kissing someone for the first time when you’ve wanted to kiss them for a long time.” But what happens when that first kiss isn’t what you expect, disappointing, and doesn’t match your kissing style? Is a bad kiss the beginning of the end? On the podcast, sexologist Zoe Kors and Suzanne Noble discuss bad kisses they have experienced and their views o...

When is the right time to talk to our children about sex, and how should we do it? It’s estimated that most children will have viewed porn by the time they are 10; some say it’s as young as eight years old. Zoe and I discuss our own experience of learning about sex and how we talked about it with our children. Plus, she shares tips for how to broach the topic, help children to understand about ple...

Women’s bodies are a mystery, often as much to ourselves as to others with whom we are intimate. And nowhere is arguably more mysterious than the clitoris. While most people know what it looks like from the outside, far fewer recognise that it extends into the vaginal walls, where it has more than 10k nerve endings. Together with my new co-host and author of the book Radical Intimacy , Zoe Kors, w...

Here we discuss the murky area of consent and coercion in sexual relationships. Of course, these two things are very different and clear if things are clear in your head, but in reality it can be difficult to decipher when the conversation and activity has moved from a consensual one to a coercive one. This is particularly the case for young people, just setting out on the dating and relationship...

In this episode, we are joined by Sarah Berry, a psychosexual and relationship therapist who talks to us about vaginismus. This can be a problem for many women and is almost exclusively a psychosexual problem, which is often overcome with the right sort of therapy and a sympathetic approach. Although it is a problem for all ages, taken together with vaginal atrophy – which we discussed with Lindse...

In which we discuss friendship, intimacy and libido, and try to approach that age-old, Harry met Sally question of whether men and women can be just friends, or whether there is always just a little part of usually the man that is always there hanging around in the background, waiting for an opportunity to take things further. It is important not to extrapolate from one’s own predilections and to...

"To travel is to find oneself". We often think of travel as a way of discovering new countries and new experiences, and yet we also often find that the problem is not so much the person we are travelling with but ourselves. Suzanne found recently when on a short break in Istanbul with a man, she had recently learned that keeping our expectations of relationships in check is essential. A friend of...

This week, Suzanne and Peter discuss the impact of STIs among the older age group. Recent statistics have shown that while there has been a sudden percent decline in the numbers of 18 to 24-year-olds contracting an STI, among the age group 50 to 64, the numbers have shown an increase by around 14%. This is probably a function of several different factors working together, but in general, we can sa...

Some eight years ago, Richard became a widower and after the trauma of losing his wife he was eventually confronted by the difficulty of dating again. All sorts of considerations came into view, considerations that many people struggle to deal with. Bereavement often leaves the woman to deal with all these issues given the fact that usually it is the man who dies first. Richard’s experience lead h...

Suzi Sims-Fletcher furnishes us with some brilliantly funny insights into the way in which dating apps do and don't work. Like most people, she has tried them out and found them to be less than successful. That is not to say that the dating sites themselves are less than optimal, but many of the people using them (and again, we have to say here, mostly, though not exclusively, men) are sometimes l...

This episode is dedicated to sex positivity in all its glorious manifestations. We also attempt to define what is actually meant by it. There are many who take it as an open invitation to get fruity. They believe that, especially women, showing any positive attitude towards sex, and all of the glory is contained within. It mean that one is immediately available for sexual contact. Of course, it me...

Married men, do it, single women, do it, even educated fleas do it. Online dating, that is. It is probably the case that a great number of us have at least paddled in the shallow end of what is a massive proportion of the online world. Men and women, looking for that special person to either have a short term fling with or a long-term relationship have, for a quarter of a century now, had the oppo...

This is a kind of review of the year at a very strange time of the year. Maybe because it is spring and our podcast has been gestating for nine months, we felt it was time to look back at what we have been discussing and think about what we will likely be covering in the next nine months. It has been quite a commitment, doing this every week for nine months, but it has been a good ride, and we hav...

Lorraine Grover is a psychosexual nurse/practitioner at the sharp end of sexual healing with all age groups. As her title connotes, she deals with how people can approach sexual problems in everyday life. She shows people how they can use various techniques and tools to help overcome some of the sexual hangups and problems they may be experiencing. We questioned her about how that could best apply...

Sangeeta Pillai from Soul Sutras and the award-winning feminist Masala Podcast talks to us about the way in which sex and sexual matters relating to menopausal and postmenopausal women are even more taboo in the South Asian community than they are elsewhere. She points out that India has a rich history of sexual exploration and practice, which goes back thousands of years to some of the temples in...

This week’s episode is an interview with Rebecca Lowrie who practices "Sexual Alchemy” to develop “sacred sexuality”, erotic potential and empowered masculinity. She works with older men to help them discover their own sexuality and internal desires and to help them find a healthy way to a healthy sexual appetite. This is an aspect of sexuality that is often neglected and, if anything, it is men w...

This week we interview Rachel Kramer Bussel , who has edited more than 70 volumes of erotic fiction. We discussed the role that erotic fiction can play in all of our sex lives, and the way in which it might be able to assist in recovering some of the frisson that may have gone out of your relationships in recent years. Here are tips for the eroticisation of pretty well anything, from eating orange...

And so another, Valentine's Day is upon us and people will either desperately running around, trying to buy something quickly because they have forgotten or will be pitched headlong into a fury of romantic gestures. Either way is the date that comes around every year and probably you have your annual form of celebration or not yourselves. Let's hope we have done this early enough for it to functio...

This week we share our thoughts on that age-old problem of simply getting along. It may be that you have been in a relationship for a long time, and now, with age, things have started to change. Perhaps one of both of you is in retirement now, maybe your health is not what it was, maybe you are now empty nesters, having to create a new relationship for yourselves. Whatever the situation, it is alm...

Sexting is a game of two halves. There are many apps and direct messages, which can be used for erotic conversation between two people, but very often those two people are not necessarily in a day-to-day relationship with each other. Indeed, the discovery that your other half has been sexting or communicating with someone else can be the beginning of the end of a relationship. Elizabeth Dell set u...

This episode comes to you from a rooftop bar in Las Palmas. Suzanne and Annie Philpott conduct a discussion about women's pleasure (both self pleasure and by others) and ways in which we can make condom use or safe sex in general into a pleasurable experience. Once again, the ways in which "outercourse”, or sexual activity other than penetration can be at least as pleasurable as intercourse itself...