Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

What I Discussed With Aine Rock… - Why having the "perfect" life on paper doesn't always mean you're living the life you truly want. - The surprising difference between being happy, being comfortable and feeling genuinely alive. - Why losing intimacy often starts long before couples stop having sex. - How reconnecting with pleasure can become the first step towards rebuilding your entire life. - W...

What I Discussed With Malia Lazu… - Why so many women spend years putting everyone else's needs before their own—including in the bedroom. - What the "pleasure gap" reveals about women's sexual satisfaction and why the issue goes far beyond orgasm. - How shame, social conditioning and unrealistic expectations stop women from asking for what they truly want. - Why learning what gives you pleasure i...

I keep hearing the same story from people who are looking for love later in life: they want a relationship that feels good, but they’re not always sure how to tell the difference between real compatibility and a temporary rush of attraction. In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors , I speak with dating and relationship coach Sandy Weiner , chief love officer at Last First Date , TEDx speaker, au...

What if intimacy in later life isn’t really about sex at all? In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors , I speak with George Goulburn , a straight male escort in his 50s, who works with women in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and even 80s. What he shares challenges almost every assumption about escorting, desire, and connection in later life. Far from quick, transactional encounters, George’s clients are s...

Most couples say their relationship is their top priority—but their time, energy, and attention often tell a different story. In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors , I’m joined by relationship coach and Relational Life Therapy practitioner Monica Tanner to explore what really keeps long-term couples connected, emotionally and sexually, well into their 60s, 70s, and beyond. We dive into Monica’...

Erectile dysfunction is often treated as a physical issue, but this conversation explores the emotional, psychological, and lifestyle factors that can sit underneath it. Suzanne Noble opens with a personal reflection on how ED can be an early warning sign of more serious health problems, before introducing guest Tom Jenkins, author of The Drunk Gambler with Erectile Dysfunction. Tom speaks candidl...

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What I Discussed with Scot McKay… - Why many people over 50 are abandoning dating apps and what they are doing instead to find meaningful relationships. - How online dating evolved from a genuine way to meet people into a swipe-based system that often prioritises engagement over connection. - Why dating after 60 may actually be easier than dating in your 30s and 40s for people seeking authentic re...

What I Discussed With Anthony Canapi… - Why many gay men over 50 are turning away from dating apps and looking for more personal ways to find meaningful relationships. - The unique dating challenges faced by older gay men, including grief, ageism, relationship loss and the legacy of the HIV/AIDS crisis. - Why some older gay men are drawn to younger partners and what may be driving that attraction....

What I Discussed with Tanya Leake… - What clitoral atrophy is and why many women have never heard of it. - How menopause can affect sensation, arousal and orgasm. - The connection between clitoral health, blood flow and hormonal changes. - What clitoral adhesions are and how they can develop over time. - Whether regular sexual activity can help maintain sexual function during menopause. - The role...

What I Discussed With Joe Bains… - How growing up in a traditional Indian family with an arranged marriage shaped Joe’s views on relationships, sex and personal freedom. - Why Joe deliberately pushed himself from being an extreme introvert into a highly social and adventurous life. - What biohacking actually means and how optimising your health can improve vitality, energy and sexual wellbeing as...

What I Discussed With Amy Color…  - Why many couples mistakenly believe that better sex starts with talking more rather than connecting differently. - What Amy learned from her own sexless marriage and why traditional therapy didn't provide the answers she was looking for. - Why erectile dysfunction often creates shame, pressure and disconnection for both partners. - How couples can build intimacy...

What I Discussed With Jon Plate… - Why erectile dysfunction is one of the most common but least discussed side effects of prostate cancer surgery. - The shocking number of men who experience erectile dysfunction after a radical prostatectomy—and why many aren't warned beforehand. - Why surviving cancer and maintaining quality of life should be part of the same conversation. - How shame, stigma and...

What I Discussed With Kathy Kay… - Why many women discover greater sexual confidence and freedom later in life. - The surprising reason some people become more adventurous in their 50s, 60s and beyond. - How communication—not necessarily better sex—is often the key to happier long-term relationships. - Why fantasies, fetishes and kinks are far more common than most people realise. - What Kathy has...

What I Discussed With Chris Bustamante… - Why more men over 50 are seeking treatments to improve erectile function, confidence and sexual wellbeing. - The difference between improving penile function and enhancing penile appearance—and why many men choose both. - What the P-Shot (PRP therapy) is and how it may help improve blood flow, sensation and erection quality. - How shockwave therapy works a...

What I Discussed With Junie Moon… - Why so many women struggle with body confidence long after menopause—and how healing is possible. - What inspired Junie Moon to strip naked for her documentary Shed the Shame and what she learned from the experience. - Why nudity isn't necessarily about sex—and how it can become a powerful act of self-acceptance. - How negative body image affects intimacy, datin...

Walk into an AARP event expecting walkers and wheelchairs. Leave rethinking everything you thought you knew about senior dating. That was Dr. Gilda Carle’s experience, and she has never looked at this age group the same way since. Gilda spent eight years as a columnist and spokesperson for Match.com, writing the widely read Ask Dr. Gilda column. When the company sent her to a Washington DC event f...

Most couples have their story memorised. When they met, what went wrong, why things aren’t what they used to be. They’ve told it so many times it feels like a fact. And that’s the problem. Dr. Dan Sneider is a couples therapist and the founder of IntimacyShift.com . He works with two distinct groups of older people: couples who’ve been together for decades, and people starting over in their 50s an...

There’s a version of male ageing that’s become so familiar we’ve stopped questioning it. Energy drops. Interest fades. The man who used to be the life of the party just… stops showing up. His partner wonders where he went. He probably wonders too. Dan Leach hears this story constantly. Dan runs Valens Health, a UK-based hormone optimisation clinic focused on men’s health, though as our conversatio...

You’re not past it. You may even be approaching your peak. A psychiatrist just told me that women tend to reach their highest sexual satisfaction at 64. I’m 64. And I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard the opposite message, that desire fades, that this is the time to wind down, that the body just stops cooperating. Dr. Shila Patel has been listening to patients talk about sex, relationships...

In this episode, I unpack my long-held scepticism about so‑called “orgasm techniques” and the pressure on women to climax in multiple ways. Then I speak to Steve Bodansky, co‑creator of Extended Massive Orgasm (EMO), a practice focused on clitoral stimulation, deep relaxation, and “peaking” (edging) to prolong pleasure. We explore how extended orgasm works, why relaxation matters more than effort,...

Can a marriage survive infidelity? This week I spoke with Renelle Nelson, a licensed marriage and family therapist who’s spent 11 years specialising in affair recovery. She helps couples rebuild after betrayal, when everything’s shattered and nobody knows where to start. Turns out infidelity isn’t just sex outside the marriage. It’s anytime you go outside your relationship to get pleasure that sho...

Ever wondered what it’s like to hire a matchmaker? This week I spoke with Tammy Shaklee, a heterosexual woman who specialises in matching LGBTQ+ clients over 50. She’s spent 14 years helping gay and lesbian singles find serious relationships. It goes without saying, I was curious to hear how she got her start. Turns out, after her divorce, Tammy hired a matchmaker and met her husband. Years later,...

If you’ve been in a long-term relationship for years (or decades), there’s a good chance this sentence will feel uncomfortably familiar: “ We haven’t had sex in years, and I don’t know how to fix it. ” That’s exactly why this week’s episode of Sex Advice for Seniors hits such a very familiar nerve for me, because it speaks to my own experience. My guest, Elana Auerbach, didn’t come on the podcast...

What do we learn about sex when no one talks about pleasure? In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors , clinical psychologist Dr. La Keita Carter (Dr. L) joined me for a powerful, honest conversation about sex, silence, and the myths surrounding women of colour and intimacy. We explore how cultural messages, shame, and generational “don’t bring a baby into this house” rules shape sexual desire, r...