SelfCareSchool's Spam Filter for Your Brain

Being in a hurry and avoidance mode - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 65 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at how to learn how to embrace discomfort and gain valuable insights about yourself. Key Takeaways: Trying to escape from uncomfortable emotions When we pause and reflect and often why we don't Fear, shame, resentment, jealousy, discomfort: the buffet ever How to...

When you are willing to feel rejected - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 64 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at what happens when you are willing to experience rejection. Key Takeaways: The importance of asking How to ask for what they you without guilt Why we feel the need for acceptance Why it is useful and how to get good at hearing no Full transcript: https://www.heard...

Self Love and Relationships - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 63 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) looks at the ways we can reclaim Valentine's Day and a whole load of ourselves in the process. Key Takeaways: The importance of noticing what you need Listening to your body's needs How to spo...

Throwing yourself under the bus for other people’s validation - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 62 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) looks at how to be your best advocate [spoiler, it is not by seeking external validation] Key Takeaways: The never-ending search for external validation never fills y...

Why Disappointment is not the End of the World - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 61 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at why disappointment often feels like scary self-attack. Key Takeaways: The impact of the wat we speak to ourselves Untangling the habit of self-judgment Not treating mistakes and disappointment with disdain Writing a new story and treating oneself with mo...

Our brains are evidence collectors - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 60 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at my our brains are constantly making patterns Key Takeaways: What we repeat grows stronger Why constant self-criticism is probably not that useful How we can make conscious choices about our experiences of the world Recognition of the potential impact of...

Podcast 59 - how to gain confidence and achieve big goals On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) l look at how to unlock your inner confidence: How to Achieve Big Goals with a Simple Mindset Shift Key Takeaways: The concept of confidence Why failures are probably not the kryptonite you think they are How bel...

More love in your life - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 58 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the most profound decision you could make for your year. Key Takeaways: How love shows up for you Where you can create more of it Getting curious about what love could look like for you. Making love a core part of your year. Full transcript: https://www.heardinlond...

New Year and New Beginnings - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 57 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) looks at the all new, all singing, all thought provoking www. SelfCareSchool.co.uk Key Takeaways: Introduction to the New Version of www. SelfCareSchool.co.uk Transition from monthly themes to a mix o...

You are already worthy - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 56 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in weird third person for the algorithm) looks at how we are all just looking for a sense of safety in world, and you don't need to change to be anything other than who you are. Key Takeaways: Appreciating and experiencing sensations in life...

How to set goals from a place of abundance - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 55 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon (that's me, but I speak in a weird third person for the algorithm) looks at why setting goals and being present are not contradictory. Key Takeaways: There is not better than here. Scarcity is probably not the motivation you need Life just keeps on l...

Why it's good to be sad sometimes - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 54 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at why sadness isn't always just awful. Key Takeaways: Sadness as a normal part of the human existence Telling yourself it is going to last forever probably isn't helping The full range of emotions is kinda what being human is all about Sometime...

The difference between the "Truth" and wanting to be right - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 53 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at why we look for evidence of what we already believe to validate our feelings. And what we can do about it. Key Takeaways: The connection between our thoughts and our emotions. Learn how to choose thoughts which frankly,...

Easing the stress of overwhelm - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 50 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at why overwhelm is actually your brain's way of protecting you. Key Takeaways: Overwhelm is a natural response (there is nothing wrong with you) Your brain is trying to keep you safe Surprise, surprise, self-compassion is probably going to come in handy....

Who Are You? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 51 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the power of redefining your identity beyond achievements and accomplishments. Key Takeaways:  Maybe tying our value and worth attached to our achievements is just internalised capitalism How our achievements form our identity Shifting focus from what we have done to who we...

The Emotional Map - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 52 Stay to the end for a real treat. On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at a short exercise to get those feelings out of your head and somewhere you can see what is going on. Key Takeaways:  How the stuff we worry about is not always awful How to map your emotions How to look at what is going on in your head H...

Why you need to stop being mean to yourself - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 36 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that trying to control other people, probably does not work. Key Takeaways: Maybe your inner critic is not a reliable source of judgment Remembering we learnt all this stuff Why it is important to pause Exploring other pos...

What people pleasing is not - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 38 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the possibility that putting everyone before us all the time can be exhausting. Key Takeaways: Why people pleasing does not feel very nice How prioritising everyone else above ourselves is probably not the flex you think it is Why this makes us tired all the t...

Hidden Consequences of People Pleasing - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 39 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that constantly striving for happiness may be an unhelpful paradigm. Key Takeaways: How can we rely less on others and create our own emotional well-being? We want others to change their behaviour (so we can stop feeling rubbis...

How to Make Decisions When You Do Not Know The Next Step - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 40 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at how to make decisions, one step at a time. Key Takeaways: The challenge of decision-making. Feeling overwhelmed by options (anyone? 👋🏼) Finding the smallest possible step to move closer to your goal. How to stop telling yourself everything ha...

Waiting for other people to change - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 44 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that constantly striving for happiness may be an unhelpful paradigm. Key Takeaways: How can we rely less on others and create our own emotional well-being? We want others to change their behaviour (so we can stop feeling rubbish) W...

How is expecting other people to change working out for you? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 45 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that trying to control other people, probably does not work. Key Takeaways: How can we rely less on others and create our own emotional well-being. Recognising that our emotions come from our own brain. Pe...

How to get out of your inbox and onto the sofa - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 48 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at how our strong work ethic isn't helping us have more fun. Key Takeaways: The need for rest. Challenges to rest. Maybe your value is not in all the things you do. How to measure a good life Spotting internalised capitalism. Full transcrip...

How to unsubscribe from the cult of "too busy" - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 49 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that constantly striving for happiness may be an unhelpful paradigm. Key Takeaways: Measuring self-worth based on accomplishments Using distractions to escape busyness and criticism (anyone? Oh, all of us.) Ov...

On peace and social media - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 47 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at how we can break free from overexposure to horrific events Key Takeaways: How much horror you witness does not prove you are a good person Questioning how much witnessing of other people's pain is helping us. Aligning actions with values and politics Saving our energy fo...