SelfCareSchool's Spam Filter for Your Brain

What is the other side of disappointment? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 46 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at what happens when you don't give up. Key Takeaways: Revisiting what was once important to us. The excruciating value of discomfort. Exploring the physical sensations of our emotions. Challenging the notion of needing to be "good enough" to pursu...

How to unstuck - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 43 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that constantly striving for happiness may be an unhelpful paradigm. Key Takeaways: Changing thoughts can lead to different feelings about the same circumstances Regret is difficult and unpleasant - we all know this - but what can we do about it? Our...

When you don't want to (how to say no with confidence) - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 42 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, I look at why we dance around the subject of saying no and then get really worried when we manage it. Key Takeaways: Why we need to practice saying no How we struggle of over-explaining and worrying about inconveniencing others Why this looks a lot lik...

Because happiness is not enough - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 41 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that constantly striving for happiness may be an unhelpful paradigm. Key Takeaways: The drawbacks of striving for happiness The importance of embracing all emotions Some weird analogies How we limit our own experiences The necessity o...

Emotional Rollercoaster - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 37 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon looks at the unpopular opinion that constantly striving for happiness may be an unhelpful paradigm. Key Takeaways: Self care is not all rainbows and daisies (in fact it is rarely rainbows and daisies) But not sorting this stuff out is no nicer It is always about how to sto...

When Your Heart Cannot Stop Being Tested - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 35 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, HeardinLondon delves into the importance of embracing emotions – even the difficult ones – and how they can ultimately lead to personal growth and deeper connections with others. I look at the significance of practising empathy and compassion towards others, and finding...

What to do when you cannot decide what to do - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 33 On this episode of Spam Filter for Your Brain, we explore the idea of happiness and how constantly seeking it can actually make us unhappy. We explore emotions and self-awareness and intentional decision-making. I discuss the concept of escaping emotions and how society promotes a binary view of right and wrong,...

What to do when you cannot decide what to do - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 33 This week I am talking about how we can stop spinning in indecision and make decisions which always align with our values. Key Takeaways: The wild notion that you cannot get things wrong Reminding yourself you have the power to choose how we feel about the decision we make Realising we have the ability to choose...

For the ones who feel too much - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 32 This week I am talking about how to deal with big feelings in a healthy way. I'll share some tips for understanding your emotions, coping with them, and finding healthy ways to express them. Key Takeaways: When we try to avoid our emotions, we're actually just making them worse Noticing the things we do to escape them...

What to do when you feel overwhelmed - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 31 This episode explores the topic of seeking external validation and the discomfort that comes with allowing others to have different opinions about us. Key Takeaways: Seeking external validation is a common practice (spoiler: there is nothing wrong with you) But it is probably worth thinking about whether you like it or...

The discomfort of other people’s opinions - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 30 - Show Notes: In this episode, we are looking at the juicy topic of seeking external validation and the discomfort that comes with existing with other humans and their different opinions. Key Takeaways: Seeking external validation is a common practice, so you probably don't need to keep giving yourself a hard t...

How inspirational memes can actually be useful - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 29 - Show Notes: This week we are looking at: Key Takeaways: Inspirational quotes and affirmations can feel disconnected from our reality and may not bring about immediate change. The emotional connection to these quotes is crucial in finding their value. Identifying the desired emotions behind the quotes helps u...

Manipulating people for love - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 28 - Show Notes This week we are looking at: Manipulative behaviours in relationships we don't realise... anyone? Manipulating others is not conducive to a sense of self-worth. Guess what does not depend on our actions or the opinions of others? Our worth How practicing self-kindness and respect is essential for creating a kin...

The Those People are Like That Drama - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 27 - Show Notes: This week we are looking at: How our brains are wired for judgment The illusion of knowing what others are thinking, (nice try, but probably not that useful) The need for control, anyone? How you're probably rubbish at guessing others' thoughts Why you might want to reclaiming time and energy Full...

Why Affirmations Did Not Work for You - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 26 - Show Notes: This week we are looking at: How the popular notion of self-love as portrayed on social media might not be as useful as they think or as useless as you think. The Problem with Superficial Self-Love: how to watch out for  unrealistic expectations and lack of practical guidance  The Importance of Incrementa...

When Everyone Else Is Wrong - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 25 - Show notes This week we are looking at: People often talk about politics in a good / bad binary. This kind of thinking can be harmful to guess who...? Yep. How black-and-white thinking probably is not that useful for you How focussing on your own story means you can create thigns you do want. rather than what you don't Wil...

We do not need another quick fix cure - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 24 - Show Notes This week we are looking at: How instagram probably is not going to solve your emotional and mental health issues, Why we seek quick fixes because we believe that once the problem is solved, life will be stress-free How we miss out on most of our emotions How you don't get to dodge the difficult ones....

Whose Story Am I In? - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 23 - Show Notes This week we are looking at: The concept of radical responsibility as a way to get unstuck and move forward towards personal or professional goals. The  dangers of outsourcing emotions to other people  Why waiting for other people to change is one of the most boring choices you could make Why Blaming others can be pretty d...

You Take the Same Brain With You- Spam Filter for your Brain - Episode 23 In this episode, I will be talking about: The general assumption is that boundaries mean someone else has done something we don't like. Changing your circumstances doesn't change how you feel about things. Redefining our understanding of what boundaries are allows us freedom. We need to identify our thoughts about bo...

Better Boundaries - Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 21 This week we are looking at: How boundaries are rarely defined. Debunking common misconceptions How to view boundaries as neutral How it is pretty unlikely you are going to change other people's behaviour Finding the rule book for the life you want to live. Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/better-boundaries Emotiona...

Spam FIlter for Your Brain Podcast Episode 20: "But I don't have time" show notes: This week we are looking at: One of the most common objections people have when it comes to taking on new things is "I don't have time." Managing your mindset and taking care of your emotional health can actually give you more time, as feeling overwhelmed and close to burnout can exhaust...

For the needy people - Spam Filter for Your Brain Podcast - Episode 19 show notes: This week we are looking at: Why being called "needy" feels like the worst thing in the world How we shy away from getting our needs met The ways we try to diminish ourselves  The fear of rejection. And I set you some homework Full Transcript: https://www.heardinlondon.com/post/for-the-needy-people Emotion...

Performance anxiety - Spam Filter for Your Brain Podcast - Episode 18 show notes: This week we are looking at: The importance of not outsourcing emotional well-being to others Identifying the emotion you are seeking  And how to give them to yourself (this is always the key) Why external validation is probably not the flex your brain tells you it is Finding incremental steps to more kindness and au...

How to Create Confidence - Spam Filter for Your Brain - Episode 17 show notes In this episode, I will be talking about: Inherent confidence is a myth Where do you externalise confidence Confidence is an emotion that comes from our thoughts. We have the power to change our thoughts and, in turn, our emotions and confidence levels. Practicing new thoughts is a practice and is does not have to be a b...

Spam Filter for your Brain - Episode 16 - What does confidence feel like?  What does confidence taste like? show notes In this episode, I will be talking about: How confidence can mean different things to different people. How to build confidence Why it is important to define what it means to you personally. Identify tasks you boss it at  Work out which thoughts work for you (yeah, we are back to...