No Longer Ashamed Surviving Sexual Abuse

One of the hardest questions survivors ask is if there is a God why does He let abuse happen? Was it a part of his plan? Or was I being punished for something? None of us truly know Gods plan but if we are given free will than the only one to blame for our abuse would be the perpetrator. We are never at fault for the abuse that happened to us and blaming anyone besides the perpetrator does not hel...

For this panel we are joined with our previous guests Mike, Luke, Dr. Doug Carpenter and Dan, to discuss PTSD. We reflect on what PTSD is and how it affects our lives and what helps in treating our PTSD. We also discuss whether it should be called PTSD or if it would be more accurate and helpful to call it PTSI. Since it seems more accurate to identify it as an injury rather than a disorder. ⁠No L...

Kevin Brigs join us to talk about his Stellate Ganglion Block procedure. Dr. Springer has worked with Veterans with PTSD walking them  through the SGB procedure. SGB is an injection of a local anesthetic  into the stellate ganglion, a nerve bundle in the neck connected to the  fight or flight system, to help people feel calm again in their own  bodies. Kevin is a retired California State Patrol wh...

Donna is a wife, mother, coach, leader and excellent friend. She is the wife of Andy N. who we interviewed in an earlier episode. We are so grateful that she is willing to share the story of her abuse and the journey she is walking in recovery. We know that recovery is a process and it seems that the first step is telling your story. So we hope that this will encourage you to share your story with...

In this episode we interview Douglas W. Carpenter Psy. D. about his new book  "Secret Shame: A Survivors Guide to Understanding Male Sexual Abuse and Male Sexual Development" He reveals to us some of the insight that he has researched from studying sexual abuse in male survivors and from being a survivor himself. ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

It's been just over a year since we first interviewed Mike on our podcast so we thought we would do a follow up with him to catch up on how he has been. Well he has been very busy having been doing a lot of exciting new things and finding out that sharing his story has been helping many people and now he has found new ways to help others. Mike's Coaching page Polar Life Coaching No Longer...

Gino contacted us after finding out about our podcast on the Male Survivor website. He has posted his story on youtube and after listening to our podcast offered to do an interview.. He was abused at a young age and it continued for years but he did not understand that it was abuse. until he was an adult and he read another mans story of abuse online. That is when his journey of healing began and...

Andy is the father of 4 and has worked as a janitor at a school until recently when he and his wife moved from Washington to Florida. Andy is a musician and his band has a cd called "Brothers in Arms, Give Him the Glory". He has survived childhood sexual abuse and he shares how he has come to terms with it. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ https://www.facebook.com/nolongerashamed.org bol...

Tom is a business owner, entrepreneur, and part time pastor. He loves mission work and is passionate about helping people! He shares his story of healing from childhood abuse and forgiveness. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ https://www.facebook.com/nolongerashamed.org bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

Linnea is a youth Pastor who was abused by a relative beginning when she was one. She shares about her healing journey with God and how He has helped her  to overcome her issues from the abuse and to confront her abuser. Which has made it possible for her to be an amazing youth Pastor. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ https://www.facebook.com/nolongerashamed.org bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

Emotions are so important, they are information. What happens when you lose control of your emotion like anger. Then you get rage and that is not healthy. It is so important to feel and express your emotions but it is also important to realize when you are losing control. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ https://www.facebook.com/nolongerashamed.org bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

What are red flags and how do you know when you should do something about them. As survivors sometimes we are more aware of red flags because we know the signs. What is our role if we see something that makes us uncomfortable. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ https://www.facebook.com/nolongerashamed.org bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

It's one thing to share your story but disclosure is an even bigger step Do you need to share your story with your family?  Or is it necessary to disclose your story with the police to try to stop your perpetrator from harming anyone else? These are important steps but you need to be prepared for what the fallout may happen if you take them. Also it is important to understand your motives for...

What is Coercive control and why it is so important to be aware of it. As survivors we can be more prone to unhealthy relationships as a result of the lessons that we were taught.  Especially if we don't go through the healing process. That is why we need to be aware of the signs of coercive control and how to safely get help if we are in a relationship with  someone who is controlling us. If...

Well it's been a year and for this episode we took a look back at what we have learned while doing this. This is not a new subject for us, we have both been through the process of healing for a long time and that is. why we started this podcast to share with others what the process is like and why it is so important. So it was a bit surprising for us how much we have learned by doing this podc...

This is a panel discussions with some of the survivors that we have interviewed. In this episode we are discussing Shame and how it affects male survivors.  Our guest panelists are Mike and Luke who we interviewed in previous. episodes and they have since become friends on our Facebook page. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

***warning this episode contains some graphic audio which may be a trigger so please take care of yourself if you listen. Join us as we talk with Ashleigh about her childhood sexual abuse and how it continued to affect her until she was able.  to call it what it was "abuse" and how she was able to then get some help and healing. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

Chef Andy shares with us his childhood sexual abuse at the hand of a Priest That led to addiction and other issues. He talks about God's healing power and what it means to let go and forgive. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

It is so hard to be vulnerable especially for men. But vulnerability is key to our healing and in reality it takes great strength and courage to be vulnerable. By being vulnerable we allow ourselves to open up to the feelings that we are so afraid of. We have to access those feelings to get through them and find out that we don't have to be controlled by them. By being vulnerable we become str...

Your story matters! Your story is important not only to yourself but for others who are afraid to tell their stories and need to realize that they are not alone. It is important to be your own advocate and stand up for yourself!  Tell your story to someone you trust and keep telling it so that those who need to hear it will have the courage to come forward with their stories. Find the help that yo...

Jamie has been in recovery from addictions for years. First from drugs, then from alcohol and cigarettes. Then she discovered the core of her addictions was another not very talked about addiction, especially for women. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

Luke found our podcast and decided to reach out to us after listening. He shared his story with us and we invited him to do an interview because we feel his story might resonate with you. There is so much misunderstanding when it comes to childhood sexual abuse including the fear of sharing your story because you will be judged. Part of Luke's story is how he is overcoming that fear of sharing...

It took an episode of Law and Order for Avremi Zippel to realize what happened to him as a child was abuse. It took a counselor to believe his story and encourage him to report the nanny who abused him for a decade. Now he is free! and he is an advocate for survivors to change the laws and legislation around childhood sexual abuse.

Dan suffered childhood sexual abuse and paid doubly for it. He shares  his story about learning to share his story and the freedom that has  come from that. It took awhile to get to the "telling" his story  conclusion but I think many struggle with the same thing, "I'm not  telling", it makes us sick and takes a toll when we hold these things in. After sharing his story Dan...

Pastor Yvonne shares her story of restoration from childhood sexual abuse. When she first came to Jesus and began to remember her abuse she thought it was satan and rebuked the devil. God showed her that He wanted to heal her but first she had to accept that this is a memory and not the enemy. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin@gmail.com