No Longer Ashamed Surviving Sexual Abuse

Tracy shares her story of childhood sexual abuse from a brother who was also sexually abused The story includes abandonment, misunderstanding and her journey toward healing, Her book is called Hope's Transformative Power https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

Why are we so much harder on ourselves than anyone else? We hold ourselves to such a high standard that it's hard to ever give us a break, We give others so much more grace than we allow ourselves we are our own worst critics, This is so unhealthy when we are trying to heal we need to be nice to ourselves so we can have grace for others. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

Some people call them walls and some call them masks. However we choose to call them the important thing is why do we hide behind How do we take them down to show the person hiding behind them? https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

This week our guest is Hampton Conway III, he has started a ministry called “Movement Ministries.  Hampton was married for 14 years and the father of 10 children, when he realized he had to end the marriage, due to spousal abuse.  He tried to talk with someone about it but the usual response was “are you going to take that?” He finally left and began the journey of getting custody of his 10 childr...

Healing comes in phases, the first step is recognizing the abuse, which may happen in your adult years. What we may see as normal growing up looks very different outside of the family. The abuser works hard to normalize bad behavior. Nicole shares her story of what it was like healing from childhood abuse. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

We build emotional walls when we are young to protect ourselves,  but when we get older and start healing those walls trap us inside. How do we recognize those walls we have built so we can start tearing them down brick by brick? https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

Sorrow can be overwhelming and it can also be healing Going through sorrow can help you realize that you are worth taking care of yourself you do matter The grieving process is so important for survivors to get through so they can have access to the full range of their feelings https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerke \ \|vin15@gmial.com

Feelings can be hard to handle especially when we have been taught that our feelings are bad or wrong Feelings are neither bad or wrong they are just how we react to happens to us If we don't allow ourselves to have feelings than we will never process what happened to us and get past it

The Holidays can be stressful for everyone especially for survivors who suffered abuse from family members This year everything has changed about the holidays maybe this is a good year to start new healthy traditions

Do we recognize our own triggers? How do we know when we are being triggered and how do we deal with them? You are not alone. There is help bolgerkevin15@gmail.com https://www.nolongerashamed.org/

Mike Chapman is a sign language interpreter who shared with us his story of having repressed memories of CSA and how he pieced together what happened to him when he was a child We talked with him about why he is sharing his story now and how that is helping him on his journey of healing You can also hear Mike speak on the NAASCA "Stop Child Abuse Now" (SCAN) https://www.blogtalkradio.com...

There can be fallout when we break the silence, make sure you have support. What's the fallout like and how do you address it? It's so important to break the silence but not always easy because of fallout. bolgerkevin15@gmail.com https://www.nolongerashamed.org/

Why we keep it a secret!  It's time to break the silence. Family secrets protect the innocent. There may be more victims and you can break the cycle and stop the abuse. bolgerkevin15@gmail.com https://www.nolongerashamed.org/

Who is that kid you left behind? How do you connect to him so he feel found and protected? Getting in touch with that child can help you navigate your recovery once he/she feels safe. bolgerkevin15@gmail.com https://www.nolongerashamed.org/

Restoration is so important when you are going through the process of recovering from abuse. What do you do to restore yourself in a healthy positive way. Why is it so important to have a time of restoration? bolgerkevin15@gmail.com https://www.nolongerashamed.org/

What are the issues others believe about survivors and how does that affect us? We worry about what people think and we can be hurt by what people say when they are "ignorant" of what it means to be abused. bolgerkevin15@gmail.com https://www.nolongerashamed.org/

Hope is the thing that gets us through the process of recovery. Some times are harder than others but when we realize we are not alone we get hope and hope can motivate us to heal and share and help the next person. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gamil.com

Why is it so hard to talk about what happened to us? It is shame: the hidden enemy. We can be no longer ashamed of who we are as survivors, it starts with sharing your story and getting help and support! You are not alone. https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

What do you say when someone has shared with you their story of being a survivor? Tips about letting them know that you care about what happens to them. The best thing we can do is to say I Believe You! If you don't think you can handle the story say I believe you and can I help you find someone to talk too? bolgerkevin15@gmail.com https://www.nolongerashamed.org/

The who what and why of sharing your story Who is it safe to share with  What to expect when you share Why it is so important to share What is on the other side of sharing? No Longer Ashamed https://www.nolongerashamed.org/ Bolgerkevin15@gamil.com

Letting Survivors know they are not alone, the journey to recovery is worth taking. You are worth it! You deserve to get the help you need, it is available and waiting for you to take it. It begins when you tell your story. We get what it is like to be stuck in the quicksand of isolation. We have found hope and we are reaching out  to give you a hand up, which is what you will do with the nex...