No Longer Ashamed Surviving Sexual Abuse

Nathan Spiteri Author of  Toy Cars   joins us to talk about his Ted Talk  The Power of One. Nathan is working hard to make a difference not only helping survivors but educating parents on how to protect their children from predators. It is a struggle and a journey but Nathan is making strides in getting his story out. Be sure and listen to his POWERFUL Ted Talk.

We are continuing to improve the audio of our early episodes to make them easier to listen to on all devices Sorrow can be overwhelming and it can also be healing. Going through sorrow can help you realize that you are worth taking care of yourself you do matter. The grieving process is so important for survivors to get through so they can have access to the full range of their feelings. ⁠No Longe...

We are returning to our early episodes and improving the way they sound so they are more listenable on any device Feelings can be hard to handle especially when we have been taught that our feelings are bad or wrong Feelings are neither bad or wrong they are just how we react to happens to us If we don't allow ourselves to have feelings than we will never process what happened to us and get pa...

Laurie talks about hearing news about a relative who has passed. But even though the connection comes after 30 years with no contact will it change anything? Open new doors? We think that many of you have had to face people who have made a conscious choice to "not believe" you. ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.comu, how do you cope?

Trust is so important in all of our connections it is the foundation of having healthy relationships. But for survivors it can be so hard to open ourselves up to trusting anyone because our trust has been destroyed by what happened to us. This can be one of the main reasons that survivors have such a hard time forming healthy associations with anyone. We are here to be in relationship with others...

It's almost that time of year again so what better time than now to revisit our episode about the Holidays. Navigating the Holidays can be triggering and emotional. Be kind to yourself and give yourself grace and get support. ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

What we say is so important. What we say to our kids, what we say about things we hear about what we say to someone who is struggling can be so important to them. We have to be aware of the affect of our language and how we can help our kids to want to talk to us about stuff, maybe even the stuff that they feel uncomfortable about. It can make all the difference in their life when they know that i...

Sam Dordulian is the Founder and President of the Dorduilian Law Group in the Los Angeles area He is a former Los Angeles Deputy District Attorney with over 25 years of experience and he leads the sex crimes division of the Law Group He has a unique perspective with his experience as a Deputy District Attorney as well as an Attorney representing survivors of abuse in cases against offenders Charne...

It's been over two years since Luke reached out to us after listening to our podcast and we interviewed him. Since that interview Luke has been interviewed on other podcasts and done some panels with us and has become an advocate for other survivors all while learning to recover from what happened to him. We are so excited to catch up with him and talk about his journey of healing. ⁠No Longer...

In this episode we interview Kevin's wife Charnell about the research that she has been doing about the issues of sexual abuse in youth sports. She has found that it is much more common than is reported beyond the widely publicized accounts that have happened in higher profile cases that have come up. Her research has lead her to find the Dordulian Law Group who specialize in sex abuse and oth...

This is our new and improved version of episode 11 Do we recognize our own triggers? How do we know when we are being triggered and how do we deal with them? You are not alone. There is help! ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

Ceanne Livingston is a survivor, mother, businesswoman and a podcaster \ She has done some incredible work to overcome not only childhood sexual abuse but domestic violence as well. She is a warrior! She is the host of "T he Big Money Influencer " podcast. ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

This is the new and improved version of episode 9! There can be fallout when we break the silence, make sure you have support. What's the fallout like and how do you address it? It's so important to break the silence but not always easy because of fallout. ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

Here we are after three years, 72 episodes, over thirty interviews and several panels, what have we learned. There has been so much that is important and we have seen so many breakthroughs, it's been amazing! The courage we have seen from our guests and the insights that they have shared with us has given us so much hope. We have witnessed so many stories that start with heartbreak and trauma...

Lisa Shelby knows firsthand what it means to keep a secret while trying to live a life of integrity Keeping secrets is not the answer! Finding a safe place to share and heal opens the door to a life of freedom and joy! ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com \

We are fixing the sound quality on our earlier episodes to make them playback on all devices better. Why we keep it a secret! It's time to break the silence. Family secrets protect the innocent. There may be more victims and you can break the cycle and stop the abuse. ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

Sandra is a Chaplain with Messengers of Faith Ministry in Las Vegas and she also works with True ID and Refuge for Women there helping women that are in the sex trade and are being trafficked to find a safe place to get refuge \ She experienced trauma at an early age by those in her life who she trusted and relied on which led to a spiral of addiction and abuse which she is healing with the help o...

After being abandoned at the age of 14 and left her own devices to live in her car, or stay overnight with friends, Peggy Ray still found a way to get through high school. Her bio on her Facebook page says she went from a cheerleader to a change leader. Peggy and her husband have an organization called raise of hope, they teach about suicide prevention and they have trauma training. Peggy story wi...

Again we are revisiting and re-editing some of our earlier episodes to improve the sound quality and make them easier to listen to on all devices. Who is that kid you left behind? How do you connect to him so he feel found and protected? Getting in touch with that child can help you navigate your recovery once he/she feels safe. bolgerkevin15@gmail.com https://www.nolongerashamed.org/

Marcus is a recovery coach and podcaster! In this conversation with Marcus we cover some important issues about abuse and trauma. As a recovery coach Marcus works with clients to help them get free of addiction to pornography and other undesirable sexual behaviors. For anyone having these issues there is help and you do not have to face this alone. Between the Covers Coaching Between the Covers Po...

We are continuing to re edit our early episodes to make them easier to listen to Letting Survivors know they are not alone, the journey to recovery is worth taking. You are worth it! You deserve to get the help you need, it is available and waiting for you to take it. It begins when you tell your story. We get what it is like to be stuck in the quicksand of isolation. We have found hope and we are...

Sometimes we get so busy it can be easy to overlook the moments that bring us awe and wonder We just speed right past them without noticing. But when we slow down and take the time to relish the moment that sense of awe can fill us up and give us something to hold on to when we need that. It can bring our sense of innocence back to have wonder in our lives. ⁠No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed F...

Such a fun topic, repulsion and revulsion. It's the instinctive reaction we all have to some stuff, like rats or spiders, and the way that we think about certain things. Like sexual abuse. We can't help it, it's a repulsive topic but as survivors sometimes we must talk about it. But it is the act that is repulsive and the perpetrator that is revolting, not the survivor. That is importa...

We are continuing to re edit some of our early episodes to make them easier to listen to. Restoration is so important when you are going through the process of recovering from abuse. What do you do to restore yourself in a healthy positive way. Why is it so important to have a time of restoration? bolgerkevin15@gmail.com https://www.nolongerashamed.org/

This week in Illinois the states attorney general found that more than 450 Catholic clergy abused nearly 2,000 children since 1950. Revealing that the problem was far worse than had been reported by the Church. He also stated that those abusers "will never see justice in a legal sense" since the statute of limitations has expired for most of those cases. Where is the outrage? The laws ne...