Lovin' Sheila: The Podcast

Sheila shares her April journey of self-care. Also, discusses her solo trip to Nassau. Finally, shares a cautionary tale on how to preserve yourself in marriage. Don’t lose yourself, communicate your wants and needs early and often.

Sheila continues her discussion on love and emotional abuse. In reflecting, she states that we must do more than survive emotional abuse, we must thrive. With that said, how is it done? We must apply the same components of loving others to loving ourselves: affection, care, trust, honest, respect and recognition. We need the same things that we give so effortlessly. Once we apply love inwardly, we...

Sheila defines emotional abuse and provides 5 signs that you may be in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship: hyper-critical, ignores boundaries/privacy, possessive, controlling, manipulative, and dismissive.

Sheila discusses the loss of her pet, Scooby. The lessons that she has learned as a mother of a dog. In addition, she reviewed the new Demi Moore movie, "The Substance". It deals with aging and vanity. She shares her thoughts on aging and vanity. Finally, she addresses being an active participant in our stories. We cannot remain passive in our lives; we have to be and stay assertive by owning our...

Transition in life is difficult; however,, we must continually take responsibility for our place in life. Circumstances are not responsible for our happiness, we are. Here is to owning our happiness and here are a few keys: boundaries, positive thinking, forgiveness, self-talk, and goal setting. We are responsible for our happiness. Let's not depend on others, they may contribute , but we own...

Sheila talks about her vacation and the "freedom" and "confidence" she is finding by learning to love herself. It stars with us. Also, we have to take control of designing the life we want. We have to establish boundaries to help establish what you want in your life and who you give access to. Without boundaries, you are more susceptible to triggers. This also happens when we a...

Taking a moment to appreciate ME. Take a moment and appreciate yourself. Think of all that makes you, you. Think of how beautiful you are in your natural grace!

Relationships require boundaries. Intimacy is furthered by boundaries. We need to understand that love is constant. When you love someone (unconditionally) it remains regardless of the circumstances. Love should be exercised in freedom, when it is not, resentment can develop. In love, Eros, we give love. Without freedom and eros love, it may come from compulsion, we do not want to be giving in due...

it is important to feel what you are experiencing. Spend some time with yourself and don't rush into another relationship. Allow yourself time to heal and apply grace, peace, and restoration as the cornerstone to your healing.

The primary emotion of anger is sometimes difficult to feel and express, we get caught up in secondary emotions like empathy, shame and guilt. It is ok to be angry. The Bible says be angry and sin not. What is important is what we do with our anger. How about repurposing it? Repurpose it to make you better! Resist the urge to become bitter. The experience, heartbreak, betrayal has come to assay yo...

In dealing with different situations in life, the outcome is often determined by our approach. Behave circumspectly and apply the knowledge you've learned to make wise decisions. Stay mindful of your words and actions to ensure it impacts your life positively.

A special heartfelt message of encouragement to all mothers.

Shame- It's what makes us want to cover our perceived vulnerabilities. How do you overcome it? Repurpose your pain. love yourself and create a safe place for you. Recognize that the perpetrator is responsible for their behavior, it is not your bad. You can only control you. Start by loving yourself, showing up as your authentic self and embrace your vulnerabilities.

Learning to show up for yourself is important. While showing up for others, be sure you show up for you. A constant state of mindfulness is necessary. In building connections in relationships, make sure there is a foundation. The foundation of your connection will be what carries you through and what allows you to stay connected. Don't let the operation of all the things you are working on tog...

Continue to trust, look at the heart of the matter. Through the joy, pain, loss and grief, trust the process. It won't always be easy, we have to fight through the obstacles and know that we have the heart to overcome.

We often look at ejection as a four-letter word. It is something that isn't good for our self-esteem. For that reason, we must reframe it and realize how it redirects us. It also matures us and allows us to grow through the process. Let us look at rejection as a delay to immediate gratification as opposed to denial.

Sheila spends this time discussing the need for Difficult conversations with ourselves and others. In these conversations, we must move to the next level of vulnerability. We need to apply everything we learned previously as we enter new levels. In approaching the conversations, we must be mindful of our emotional tone to ensure we evoke or elicit the response we want. According to Dr. Cloud, emot...

After trauma, we may have a difficult time being vulnerable. Often because we are constantly assessing threats to our emotional safety. This causes us to be hypersensitive and hypervigilant to "prevent" or "control" our situations. In doing so, we may not be transparent or vulnerable. The tendency is to use these defenses to protect or prevent us from being vulnerable. As we gr...

In our journey, many things will be revealed or exposed. Some are good and some are damaging. Our job is to address the behaviors that have been exposed. We do this to prevent recycling bad behaviors and to prevent repeating the same cycles. Let's focus on life giving behavior instead of unhealthy behaviors. This will allow us to better control our outcomes!

Sheila spends some time discussing communication in relationships. We must ensure that we are approaching communication from a place of vulnerability, transparency and collaboration. This allows us to get the response we want and not elicit fight or flight in either person.

Keep in mid that you must exercise the same behaviors you used to get you through the storm after the storm. Storms in life are for our growth, learn from it.