Lovin' Sheila: The Podcast

This is the very first Lovin’ Sheila Catch Up. It’s my space to pause, reflect, and expand on the conversations we’ve been having on the podcast — to share the ‘why,’ offer encouragement, and speak directly to the women who need it. In this Catch Up, I talk about repurposing our pain so we can help other women heal and soar. That was the takeaway from my conversation with Ama Karikari. Even though...

In this episode, I sit down with Kiana and Andrew Joyner of Soul Journey Project to unpack the real dynamics that create disconnection, resentment, and communication breakdowns in relationships. We explore the deeper patterns beneath the surface — identity, emotional safety, nervous system healing, and the inner work required for soul‑aligned partnership. If you’re ready to understand love on a de...

This is an important and eye‑opening episode. Ama K. Karikari joins me to talk about emotional abuse — and we go straight to one of the most overlooked forms: the silent treatment. We break down the damage it causes, the confusion it creates, and how women can finally be free from its grip. Ama defines what the silent treatment really is and explains why all forms of abuse — emotional, financial,...

Sometimes, even after we’ve healed, we still slip back into our factory setting of survival mode. Don’t be too hard on yourself — you’re human. Healing isn’t linear. You may take a few detours. But stay the course. Don’t lose heart. Build a network of support. Know who to call. Know who truly has you. That’s one of the tools that keeps you out of survival mode…and firmly in your Soft Girl Era.

Are you healed… or emotionally unavailable? In this episode, I break down the real difference between the two — because many of us confuse “protecting our peace” with avoiding connection. Healing is supposed to make us more available, not more closed off. We talk about boundaries, fear, vulnerability, the tightrope between readiness and avoidance, and how to ease yourself back into emotional avail...

We start with the truth that not everyone will see you — and sometimes it’s the people closest to you who overlook you. The Bible reminds us that a prophet is without honor in their own country, and that reality can create real angst. But here’s the shift:Don’t fight to be seen. Don’t beg for recognition. Maybe that’s simply not the group you’re called to serve. Shake it off and stay available to...

In this episode, Sheila shares the real journey to healing. Sometimes doing the work — setting boundaries, raising our standards, protecting our peace — can accidentally make us emotionally unavailable. We’re so focused on not getting hurt again that we stop putting our hearts on the table. But healing is like rehab for athletes. When they’re on IR, they’re unavailable for the game — but only for...

Our Relationships Matter: A Conversation with Monica Tanner, RLT Coach In this episode of Lovin’ Sheila , I sit down with RLT coach Monica Tanner for a powerful and eye‑opening conversation about what makes relationships thrive. We explore the real issues couples face — not from a place of fear or blame, but from a place of intentionality, skill, and growth . Together, we dive into the essential e...

In this milestone 50th episode of Lovin’ Sheila, we’re diving into the power of creating and sustaining positive momentum. Momentum is a force — and it belongs to no one. That means it’s not gifted, granted, or guaranteed. It’s something we must build, protect, and reclaim for ourselves. In this episode, I share moments from my own life when I lost momentum, and why I’m excited that losing it isn’...

In this episode, Sheila talks about asking for what you want. So many of us hint, suggest, or silently expect people to know what we want. But the most direct path to creating the life you desire is simple: ask. Be vulnerable. Be direct. Be confident. Ask for what you want. When you do this, you’re not being demanding — you’re being responsible and accountable to yourself. You’re honoring your nee...

In this episode of Lovin’ Sheila, we take another look at love — not the self‑centered version we often build around our own boundaries, standards, and expectations, but the kind of love that transforms us. Sheila explores what it means to move from a love that protects self to a love that reflects the Word of God: a love that gives, supports, and nourishes another person’s spiritual growth. She b...

Sheila speaks as a reminder to show up for yourself. So often we pour into others and forget to pour into the one person we live with every single day — ourselves. Don’t minimize or reshape your characteristics to make others comfortable. Be authentically you. Even if you’re still growing, even if you’re still learning, allow yourself to open up, be vulnerable, and stand in your truth. When you sh...

In this episode, Sheila opens up about the realities of emotional exhaustion and the practices that helped her find her way back to balance. Through personal anecdotes, she explores the importance of rest, therapy, emotional support, and the courage it takes to be vulnerable enough to receive help. She also revisits a powerful moment from one of her darkest seasons — a time when a film mirrored he...

In this episode, Sheila breaks down why assertiveness isn’t optional — it’s essential. Before the relationship, during the relationship, and even at the end of it, your voice matters. Sheila shares how communicating clearly, being direct, setting boundaries, and making decisive choices create relationships where you’re not just present — you’re fully showing up. When you assert yourself, you stop...

In this continuation of my conversation with Dr. Lee Baucom, we go deeper into the hard stuff — communication, connection, abuse, and his Save The Marriage system. I also share why building an emotional framework is essential for creating healthy, lasting relationships. This episode is honest, eye‑opening, and full of tools to help you grow stronger together.

In this powerful two‑part series, Sheila sits down with renowned relationship expert Dr. Lee Baucom, creator of the Save The Marriage program, for an honest and transformative conversation about what it really takes to rebuild connection in marriages and long‑term partnerships. Together, they explore why relationships drift, how couples lose their sense of “team,” and the surprising truth that one...

We all work to get where we want in life. Often, it isn’t because of focus or intention, but because of happenstance or convenience. I stumbled through much of my life doing what life dictated. I gave what I needed to give to my career, to marriage, to parenting. But now, I’ve taken ownership of my life. I’ve developed a sense of self and identity, and I’m creating the life I want. I’ve retired fr...

Sheila’s 2025 Reflection: The Story the Year ToldWhen Sheila looks back at the topics she covered in 2025, she realizes she wasn’t just creating content—she was documenting a journey. Each theme, each conversation, each lesson formed a chapter in a larger story about growth, courage, and reclaiming one’s life with intention.✨ Travel reminded her that movement—whether across the world or within ou...

Welcome to Girlfriends Glow Up, where real women share real journeys. Sheila welcomes Coach Melody as they dive into conversations about self-care, wellness, careers, and friendship. Together, they reflect on their path to wholeness—leaving behind corporate careers to create lives they’re proud to own. With honesty and heart, they share what drove them to take ownership, embrace wellness, and buil...

As we journey toward our purpose, obstacles will inevitably arise. Yet we must keep moving forward, eyes fixed on our north star. Do not let distractions or setbacks steal your focus. Purpose demands tenacity. It may be delayed, it may be deferred—but never diminished. Stay steadfast, and let your pursuit remain unwavering.

Let’s Make Health a Priority This New Year! We often focus on beautifying our exterior, but true wellness starts from within. As you set your New Year’s resolutions, resolve to take care of your health. Schedule your mammograms, colonoscopies, and dental checkups. While we can’t always prevent illness, we can manage it—and early detection makes all the difference. Your health is your greatest inve...

Sheila reflects on recent celebrity divorces and shares her perspective on the realities of separation. She notes that couples often move through distinct stages before arriving at the decision to divorce. While the physical act of separating may seem straightforward, the emotional toll is far heavier. Legal proceedings can be complex, but they pale in comparison to the challenge of untangling the...

“The Change” of life brings on the unexpected . How can we navigate the ever changing changes? Well, it’s through trial, error and communication. These changes can hit you like a ton of bricks, but we are building a community of help. In this episode, I share some of my experiences and the tools I am using to help me cope. #relationship #menopause #menopauseweightloss #womenshealth #womenover40 #w...

Why does modern love feel so heavy? In this raw and reflective podcast, we explore the emotional toll of dating in a world that often feels disconnected and transactional. From the trauma of repeated heartbreak to the challenge of staying open-hearted in a guarded culture, we unpack the silent wounds many carry into new relationships. This episode dives deep into:- The emotional residue of dating...

In this episode, Sheila address infatuation, intention and chemistry. While infatuation dazzles with heat and chemistry, it’s a flash, not a foundation; don’t be fooled by magnetism that burns bright and vanishes—look for intention, the quiet, steady commitment that plans, follows through, and builds a future; chemistry can be intoxicating, but consistency, priorities, and concrete actions are the...