Lovin' Sheila: The Podcast

After you’ve done the work—protected your peace, found yourself, recognized your worth, and set boundaries—you may discover that you're happier alone than letting someone else in. So how do you stay emotionally healthy and open to what you truly want? And how do you recognize when you're actually receiving it? The situationship often brings confusion, not clarity. Sometimes, we even enter...

Freedom- What does it mean to you. Personal freedom is the ability to create the life you want. It doing what makes you happy: finding your thing. Embracing freedom and your ability to create happiness is empowering. Lean into it and don't allow anyone to infringe upon your personal freedom. In this episode, Sheila shares some liberating experiences that allowed her to lean into embracing free...

Sheila discusses letting go of past experiences in relationships to embrace new possibilities. Recognizing this isn’t always easy, she shares some tools to help us gain a better perspective moving forward. #relationship #boundaries #love #healing #selflove #character #communication #betruetoyourself #cleanslate #freshstart #hope #selfcare #wholeness #settlingup

“The Change” of life brings on the unexpected . How can we navigate the ever changing changes? Well, it’s through trial, error and communication. These changes can hit you like a ton of bricks, but we are building a community of help. In this episode, I share some of my experiences and the tools I am using to help me cope. #relationship #menopause #menopauseweightloss #womenshealth #womenover40 #w...

Sheila discusses that happy endings aren't always fairy tales. We have to reframe our expectations. Instead of focusing on the outcome, focus on the learnings and the experience. If you've learned, even though it has come to an end, it may still be your happy ending.

Our goal is to be open and emotionally available. We have to do a gut check and determine if we are available. Have past relationships made up into a dark whole of emotional nothingness. That is our endeavor, to maintain our emotional availability during our dating experience. On this episode we discuss a few ways to make sure you are emotionally available when the right person comes around. Remem...

A more introspective Sheila discusses how we become desensitized to the world . In the process of growth and evolving, sometimes we forget our role as a citizen. This came to me this week as I was hit with a harsh reality. #relationship #homelessness #boundaries

In this episode, we discuss the situationship and how to identify the red flags early on. #communication #clarityinrelationships #clarity #boundaries #dating #healed #wholeness #situationshp #relationships #relationshipgoals

Dating doesnt have to be hard, lets develop some structure to help us!

The discussion is about the transition from healing to evolving. Once we have a state of contentment, we are at the beginning of our evolution.

Sheila shares her April journey of self-care. Also, discusses her solo trip to Nassau. Finally, shares a cautionary tale on how to preserve yourself in marriage. Don’t lose yourself, communicate your wants and needs early and often. #boundaries #evolve #expression #love #divorce #emotionalabuse #happy #happiness #survivingabuse

After 22 years of marriage, I wasn’t prepared for dating. It took a good lesson to get me back up to speed. I’m Sharing my story to help young and mature women avoid some of the pitfalls of dating. Here is an education ladies, let’s go. #boundaries #evolve #growth #dating #datingafterdivorce #bsmeter #bsofdating #dm #dmdating #onlinedating #flirting #relationshipgoals #datingapps #relationship #fi...

In less than 24 hours, I've had daddy issues, ex issues, and girlfriend issues, and the question is: are our relationships bidirectional in a healthy way? What do we do when we need support and the support is not coming? Today you will learn about fighting for support when you feel unseen, unheard, and alone. All of that during the Mother's Day celebration, how fun. #boundaries #love #evolve #rela...

During the process of most journeys, there is a time when it gets ugly. Remember to let it fall off of you and don't carry it to your next level. Keep growing, evolving, and doing the work to allow YOUR journey to take you to the next level.

Let’s make sure we do all we can to take care of our mental. It includes: mindfulness, self-awareness, recognizing our wants and needs, support systems, therapy, and fresh air. There are more contributors, of course, to good mental health. Let’s commit to embrace ownership of our mental health in May and onward. Cheers to you!!!!

There is an old saying when life gives you lemons. However, I will say seize the day. Make it what you want it. Keep creating life the way you envision. Keep taking the steps that drive you closer to your purpose. Often times, people see the final creation and believe it was easy. We know a lot of work goes into making our lives work. Keep doing the work. Be victorious!

Follow YOUR rules of engagement. Don’t allow anyone to alter what you know is best for you. Know your worth, stay the course. Dismiss any and everything that doesn’t fit

It’s important to have self awareness and realize what you want in life and relationships. Often times, we haven’t spent enough time to figure it out and we are left without answers. Take the time, do the work and invest in yourself. Be bold, be expressive!

The soft girl era and the evolution of the delicate flower extend to love and relationships. Chivalry is not dead, it may be on life support. But, if that’s what you want, hold out until it’s resurrected. When a man chooses you, it doesn’t mean that you have to immediately acquiesce. Study the situation and make sure that you both can contribute to each others happiness

There are a lot of aspects of doing the work: Protecting your peace, maintaining your mental health, being assertive and so on. We must remember not to do the work in a microcosm, we should consider it cross training! Cross training to establish a sense of wholeness: Spirit, mind, and body. Persevere, keep going, don’t stop striving because together, we will get there. #boundaries #evolve #express...

Sheila states that we need to negotiate the rules of our engagement early on in potential relationships. We need to make sure our purpose for the relationship are in alignment. Once that is established, we can begin working on the terms of our relationship. This can make for a lot fewer “situationships” because we are clearly defining our wants and needs early on. Join me in being intentional on o...

Sheila discusses Love! Furthermore, reflects on what a delicate flower is to her. She unapologetically declares that she is a delicate flower. There is a way to love and care for women, “delicate flowers”. There is also a special person designed to understand how to water the delicate flower. She reiterates her working definition of love. She also acknowledges that sometimes impostors may come int...

Sheila discusses the concept of a delicate flower. Though, she acknowledges the strength of women in all that they do, she also recognizes that the man in her life must love and protect her like a delicate flower. This marks Sheila going a step further with the soft girl era. How does the soft girl want to be treated? Like a delicate flower.

Sheila shares that we are in control of our happiness, it is internal. Relationships do not determine our happiness. We are to determine what we want and not live to determine what men want. The purpose of this podcast is to demonstrate wholeness- spirit, mind and body. She also discussed the finale of Sex and The City and surmises the purpose of the show was to demonstrate the most important rela...

Sheila describes her tour of Italy. She found that the adventure was full of twists, turns and unexpected events. The journey was challenging- the destinations were lovely. All in all the destination makes the journey worth it. This is also true in life.