Lovin' Sheila: The Podcast

The process is a journey. Though we want what we want, we must realize that is not always good with us. Let's begin our pursuit of being a better person and losing our toxic behaviors. Healing takes time and sometimes its difficult to implement or execute what you have learned. Keep trying, stay the course and be compassionate with yourself.

Sheila discusses her adventures of 2024. With 1/4 of the year gone, she analyzes her growth and self-discovery. Looking for inspiration, she watched " Black Love" on Prime. It follows 5 women as they explore dating with a dating coach and psychotherapist. It calls for women to evaluate what they need vs what they want. Sheila also discusses how her recent shorts are all related. They dea...

Sheila discusses living in survival mode and how once you begin to thrive, triggers and trauma are revealed. It is a process to heal and be delivered from, the defense mechanism that have become innate. To help along the journey, make sure you have a good support system in place.

A wise man once told me you cant change a Jackass into a Racehorse. The question is, Did I listen? I would say no. But, I learned something in the process. Some people have a limited capacity for growth and love. Hence, we must be mindful who we choose to yoke with. It matters. It can make for a stressful and strenuous relationship when you choose to ignore character issues upfront.

Let's get away from eros love or physical attraction and move to a complete love that fills in all the gaps in our lives. It's easy to connect physically, can you connect on a higher level? There are levels to this, let's explore our ability to love and be loved.

Evaluating behaviors that could be rooted in abandonment and rejection. Often times, we develop defense mechanisms to counteract our feelings of abandonment or rejection, lets do some soul searching to ensure we are enacting healthy behaviors. We want to adopt behaviors that support our growth and not keep us repeating the same patterns.

This episode discusses loneliness. Sometimes, we feel lonely in a room full of people. Why? Because, we do not feel connected. How do we stay connected is all determined by our actions. Lets discuss some tools to help us with loneliness.

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After years of being a strong black woman, Sheila is leaning in to her soft and vulnerable side. The new chapter will allow her to operate in her feminine energy. Accept yourself and the decisions you've made to lean into the next chapter. Remember real self-care is not beautification but taking care of your mental, physical, spiritual and emotional health. Remember, escapism is not self-care....

Is I got you a love language. Sheila discusses why she thinks it is. She states that trust is the cornerstone of all relationships. We have to believe that our mates have us. If not, the relationship doesnt have a foundation.

Dec 24, 2023Sheila reflects on 2023, the ups and down: losses ad triumphs. Through it all, she relies on persistence and faith in God. Though she felt lost at times, she was able to find herself in the difficult time. She became more self-aware and identified her proclivities toward certain behaviors. She realized some things were detrimental to her overall wellbeing. She learned and began to appl...

Sheila discusses how she silenced herself in years past. Now, she continues to assert that life is for the living and she will not live passively. No more suffering in silence- she has determined that she will use her voice. She is using the tools she has gained through therapy, self-discovery, life and studying to determine who she is and where she fits in this world. It is necessary to take an a...

Sheila declares this to be her manifesto. It is time that she makes it clear that she is building her life, her way. She intends to fight for her happiness and life like her life depends on it. This is a short talk that is very personal. We hope it touches someone. If it does, comment.

Sheila talks about the need to pivot in life. Often times, we get stuck in different situations and fail to make the necessary adjustments. Sheila asserts that we need to evaluate our circumstances and make adjustments. Use the information and your situation to get the revelation you need. Also, remember, there is nothing for you in the rear view mirror, look forward! Recognize your milestones and...

Sheila discusses her recent vacation and her new feelings of liberation. As she pursues happiness, she notes that she has reached a point where she is applying the knowledge she has gained, she is now here for the experiences and has an attitude of yes and a willingness to not be rigid. There is now an understanding that she can color outside of the lines and curate the life she wants. This gives...

Sheila discusses the Spence Vs. Crawford fight and the importance of how you take wins and losses. She chronicles the losses she took this week and how she is adjusting. The adjustment was a return to boundaries. Apparently, when you don't have boundaries, you get steamrolled. And that doesn't make one feel good. So, let's properly implement our boundaries to protect our relationships....

Sheila discusses the relationship of Alice in Wonderland to the modern-day woman, wife, or mother. Reiterating that art imitates life and it wasn't until Alice owned her experiences and learned from them that she could be the champion she was equipped to be. She discusses our need to own our truth, even the ugly truths. This allows us to understand our reality. Once we have accepted reality, w...

Life imitates are in Alice in Wonderland, Sheila reviews the growth mindset that is necessary to overcome the stresses and triggers of life. Alice had to overcome people pleasing and going along with situation, she had to build her self esteem to trust herself and her decisions. Many of us women are in similar circumstances to Alice. And through those circumstances, a champion is born, We are cham...

Sheila discussed the need to not conform to external forces. We should be an external expression of our inner self. This brings about transformation. Transformation is difficult because we are all facing pressure to perform... to perform to others' expectations. So, we have to ensure that we are "performing" or expressing our true selves. Any dead fish can float downstream", it...

Sheila discusses the recent Supreme Court decision to eradicate Affirmative Action. She is displeased with the course the United States is taking with the latest court decision. In continuing the Loving Sheila journey, Sheila reflects on the movie, 'Pursuit of Happiness." She realizes what part of the story she is in, "the part where you are doing things that you don't want to do...

Sheila shares her journey in terms of it being a movie. Some scenes are longer than we would like and we would prefer to edit other scenes. But, remember the scenes that you want to disappear are just short periods of a much longer movie: an unwritten movie that you are empowered daily to write and direct as you will. Putting yourself first allows you to place it all in perspective. It also allows...

Sheila discusses overcoming sickness as she prepared for this week's podcast. She reiterates the need to be compassionate toward yourself and give yourself permission. Give yourself permission to take care of yourself! Remember, to stay present in your life. Be mindful of things as they are happening. Don't get too far ahead of yourself that you cant appreciate your daily successes. Just D...

In this episode, Sheila discusses the value of forgiveness. In particular, how it frees us to move forward in life. After dealing with forgiveness, she addresses trust. She states that forgiveness is not an automatic restoration of trust. Trust is earned and there are 5 things that we must evaluate to determine if we want to invest further in the relationship. As always, Sheila brings it home iden...

Sheila takes the time to discuss emotional supply or emotional reserve. In this take, she defines the emotional energy expended daily. She asks us to look closely and evaluate our capacity to extend emotional supply. It's fine as long as it doesn't leave you depleted, so tune in to yourself and be sure you have it to give (before you give it). Sometimes within relationships, our desire to...

Sheila discusses her trip to Chicago. She shares some photos from her trip to the Art Institute (museum). She explains her jouneythrough her first year as an empty nester. She recounts how she didn't know how she would make it; however, she found that she thrived during this period. In particular, in self-awareness and trusting the process. Again, you never know our strength until you are chal...