Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

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Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

Author

Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Episodes

Episode 593: Is My Grief Ruining My Relationship? 20.06.2025 42:35

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose parner shared how hard it is to watch her grieve Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 592: Herpes Isn't A Moral Failing 18.06.2025 33:50

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose newly contracted herpes has changed her relationship with herself and her body, with sex, and with future partners Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more a...

Episode 591: Closeted And Heartbroken 16.06.2025 32:01

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose on again/off again partner is now dating someone else Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 590: Is Empathy Okay After a Breakup? 13.06.2025 28:30

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she should be more angry at her ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 589: Her Needs Are Truths, Yours Are Burdens 11.06.2025 38:34

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels uncomfortable with the physical relationship between her wife and their friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit mega...

Episode 588: His Browsing History Is Spicier Than Our Bedroom 09.06.2025 37:02

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose very vanilla husband is looking at very spicy porn Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bonus Episode: He Wants Me to Be Sorrier for Being a Former Cam Model 02.06.2025 43:14

Sam & Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend can't get over the fact that her former cam work might still exist online Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megap...

Episode 587: What Does It Look Like for You to Say No More Often 30.05.2025 30:14

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from somone who wants to know why her mother gets to fully grieve but she doesn't Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 586: You're in Two Different Relationships and Both Aren't Working 28.05.2025 36:27

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she's the toxic one after having an affair with her married coworker Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit mega...

Episode 585: Am I Doomed to Be Isolated With Kids in The Midwest? 26.05.2025 35:56

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling lost, afraid, and like she's running out of time Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 584: Do I Owe My Father Forgiveness? 23.05.2025 36:44

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose wondering if she should reconnect with her estranged father Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 583: He *Always* Picks Up When His Mom Calls 21.05.2025 29:17

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend is talking to his mom ALL THE TIME Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 582: So...My New Boyfriend Doesn't Tip 19.05.2025 29:50

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend is a terrible tipper Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 581: Now I Have to See Him at the Gym 6 Days a Week :( 16.05.2025 30:56

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is trying to hold space for the complex person his ex is Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 580: Navigating a Twenty Year Age Gap 14.05.2025 38:00

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is concerned about the future of their relationship with someone who is 20 years older than them Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices...

Episode 579: But...I Don't Want To Set My Friend Up With My Crush! 12.05.2025 33:05

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want her friend to date her crush Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 578: Can You Prioritize Yourself While Trying to Save This Relationship? 09.05.2025 38:17

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose shared about her addiction with her partner and he didn't handle it well ⁠Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more!⁠ SUBMIT: ⁠justbreakuppod.com⁠ FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit ⁠megaphone.fm/adchoices⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphon...

Episode 577: My Friend with Benefits Caught Feelings! 07.05.2025 25:29

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose former friend with benefits is hurt that she broke things off ⁠Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more!⁠ SUBMIT: ⁠justbreakuppod.com⁠ FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit ⁠megaphone.fm/adchoices⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoi...

Episode 576: Fumbly Chemistry or Sexual Incompatibility? 05.05.2025 39:18

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is disappointed with her sex life with her new partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 575: We Don't Always Have to Know 02.05.2025 28:05

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner has a crush on a mutual friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 574: He's Changed but I Can't See It 30.04.2025 32:55

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is deeply frustrated by the boyfriend in her head Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 573: Why Did My Ex Send Me $2000? 28.04.2025 38:02

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex sent him $2000 and he doesn't know why. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 572: Why Can't I Get the Healed Sober Version of Him Like Everyone Else? 25.04.2025 27:43

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to get the wonderful man her ex has become now that he's sober. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoi...

Episode 571: When Our Partners Become Our Caretakers 23.04.2025 29:10

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose normally supportive partner isn't taking care of her well. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 570: What About the What-Ifs? 21.04.2025 35:24

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who really likes his friend but doesn't want to be a creep. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices