Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

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Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

Author

Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Episodes

Episode 618: I Started Dating My F*ckbuddy 18.08.2025 38:34

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering how to tell her relationship story when they started out as friends with benefits Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 617: Should I Tell My Parents I Had an Abortion? 15.08.2025 39:22

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering how much to share with the people around her Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 616: This Isn't Atonement, It's Stalking 13.08.2025 27:07

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex's punishment doesn't fit her crimes Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 615: Sexy Pillow Fight With A Straight Man 11.08.2025 34:31

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's in love with his straight dance instructor Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 614: How To Ask For A Divorce Kindly 08.08.2025 36:26

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to tell her husband she wants a divorce Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 613: Floating in Ambivalence After a Break Up 06.08.2025 25:54

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone is stuck in ambivalence after breaking up with her partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 612: You Deserve Better Than A Man That Won't Commit To You 04.08.2025 34:59

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's confused but really just sad about her situationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 611: This World Is Hungry For Your Softness 01.08.2025 32:00

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose family is making it hard to be kind Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 610: His Dog Died And He Dumped Me Over Text 30.07.2025 33:38

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's feeling confused over the abrupt end of her relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 609: I Think I'm Afraid Of Love 28.07.2025 31:48

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's thrown off by the gentleness of her new relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 608: Love Can Exist Without Return 25.07.2025 28:02

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's hurt that her ex won't be her friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 607: It's Not An Ultimatum, It's A Boundary! 23.07.2025 27:12

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend told him, "I'm not honest, but trust me anyway" Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 606: He Fell Into My Lap At A Gay Gym 21.07.2025 32:24

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want to be ungrateful for the cute guy that just came into his life Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 605: You Can Choose Peace When They Choose Chaos 18.07.2025 32:44

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex is trying to convince her she was the bad guy in the relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 604: They Took the Cat and the Life We Shared 16.07.2025 29:47

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who lost their center when their ex broke up with them Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 603: The Body Def Keeps a Score 14.07.2025 34:28

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if her lack of attraction is a result of her trauma Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 602: What If I’m Not the Soft Mom? 11.07.2025 42:34

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's struggling with being a sh*tty mom Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 601: The Cost of Constant Correction 09.07.2025 31:18

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner's moods are determining everything in their relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 600: Should I Tell My Ex I'm Bisexual? 07.07.2025 30:41

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's wondering if she should tell her ex she's bi as an explanation for their breakup Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 599: Is There A Difference Between Coffee and Dinner? 04.07.2025 38:39

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend said he was going to get coffee with his ex but got dinner instead Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 598: Still Holding On—But to What? 02.07.2025 30:49

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like all the works she's done in her relationship has gone into a bottomless pit Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 597: We Got Engaged...And Now I'm Panicking 30.06.2025 36:46

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels emotionally disconnected from their partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 596: Is It Weak If I Stay With a Cheater? 27.06.2025 25:13

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who recently found out her husband cheated more than three years agao Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 595: The Stories People Tell About Us Aren't Ours 25.06.2025 31:34

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose terrible ex-friend is still talking sh*t about her Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 594: You're Allowed to Ask for Privacy in Your Relationship 23.06.2025 42:08

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is trying to balance her own privacy with her partner's right to share Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices