Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

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Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

Author

Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Episodes

Episode 743: The Line Between Compassion and Self-Abandonment 10.07.2026 36:34

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose empathy for her ex is maybe making her too understanding Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 742: My Girlfriend Feels Like She's Competing With My Vibrator 08.07.2026 29:07

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose girlfriend wants sex toys out of the bedroom Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 741: A Life Without Grief is Impossible 06.07.2026 35:38

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner changed his mind about wanting kids Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 740: How To Stay Hopeful When Love Never Stays 03.07.2026 33:01

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is 30 and has never had a relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 739: Soulmates, Affair Partners, or Just Coworkers? 01.07.2026 30:29

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boss cut off their affair after his partner found out about it Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 738: Asking Too Much or Asking the Wrong Person? 29.06.2026 34:25

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner doesn't feel like a partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 737: The Breakup Text That Saved Me 26.06.2026 31:22

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to give her self grace for staying in a miserable relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 736: Recovery in a GLP-1 World 24.06.2026 40:44

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want her recovery from an eating disorder to ruin the bachelorette party Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 735: Evicting an Ex From Your Mind 22.06.2026 33:44

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex popped back into her life and tried the exact same sh*t Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 734: Is My Solitude Healing or Hiding? 19.06.2026 27:09

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she's prioritizing swoon-worthy Instagram shots over deeper connections Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 733: Rebuilding Relationship Safety After Uncertainty 17.06.2026 39:25

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend broke up with her and is now pretending like he didn't Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 732: The Gay Panic of It All 15.06.2026 28:17

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who has a crush on their friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 731: My Abusive Ex Broke Up With *Me* 12.06.2026 29:00

Sam and Sierra anwser a letter from someone who is wondering why they didn't leave their abusive ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 730: Don't Confuse Discomfort With Danger 10.06.2026 35:24

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose relationship OCD is being triggered by her spouse's withdrawal Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 729: Does He Deserve Your Honesty? 08.06.2026 44:30

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to be more vulnerable with his dad Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 728: Coming Out As Non-Binary 29.05.2026 39:02

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is newly non-binary Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 727: Let's Monetize This Meltdown 27.05.2026 37:34

Sam and Sierra talk about Sierra's revelation about herself Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 726: How To Live With Your Ex After You Break Up 25.05.2026 35:06

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is living with her ex for a month after their breakup Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 725: Is This Safe Love or Just Intense Love? 22.05.2026 30:52

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who would be in love but for all of the triggers Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 724: My Husband’s Perfectionism Is Driving Me Nuts 20.05.2026 30:28

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner's perfectionism is getting in his own way Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 723: When Success Changes a Friendship 18.05.2026 34:52

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose friend's comments might be undermining her career Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 722: Making Peace With a Past You Don't Like 15.05.2026 32:14

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like she wasted 5 years of her life Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 721: Postpartum Exhaustion and Emotional Numbness 13.05.2026 45:56

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is struggling to feel sappy adoration for her kid when he's awake Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 720: How Do I Recover From a Sudden Breakup? 11.05.2026 38:00

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose life was upended with zero discussion Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Epsidoe 719: Keeping Community In Capitalism 08.05.2026 33:57

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling resentful of the family she nannied for Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices