Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

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Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

Author

Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Episodes

Episode 718: Cosmically Good Sex or Past Life Connection? 06.05.2026 33:51

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is between a rock and a hard place, by which we mean two men Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 717: I Bad About Self-Soothing With Casual Sex 04.05.2026 33:52

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose trying to gain self-confidence after a terrible relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 716: Loving Alcoholic Parents Without Losing Myself 01.05.2026 34:04

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to maintain a normal relationship with her alcoholic parents Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 715: Staying, Leaving, and the Truth in Between 29.04.2026 33:02

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is stying with her husband out of guilt Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 714: Waiting for Sex Unapologetically 27.04.2026 38:24

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't know when to tell the people she's dating that she wants to wait until marriage Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 713: Empathy Without Erasure 24.04.2026 41:27

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose joy seems to cause her partner pain Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 712: Reclaiming Life, Redefining Stepparent 22.04.2026 33:26

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose husband wants her to be a more involved stepparent Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 711: Age Gaps, Power, and Perception 20.04.2026 34:58

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who maybe wants to date someon 8 years younger Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 710: Stuck Between His Messy Divorce and My Mom 17.04.2026 29:10

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose mom wants her to date someone whose life is a little less messy Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 709: Is Toxic Sex Inherently Hotter and Easier? 15.04.2026 30:03

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose sex with her toxic ex was more passionate than sex with her wonderful partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 708: Staying Present in a Temporary Love 13.04.2026 38:24

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is having a hard time just enjoying her fling Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 707: What Happens When That Anger is Directed at You? 06.04.2026 39:42

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend can sometimes get angry Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 706: Two Steps Forward, One Step Back 03.04.2026 33:22

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like time isn't actually healing all wounds Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 705: Why Your Friend Won't RSVP to Your Wedding 01.04.2026 34:36

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who uninvited her friend to her wedding after he said no because weddings aren't important? Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 704: Can Healing Drown Out Instinct? 30.03.2026 36:00

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose healing of her anxious attachment style seems to be backfiring Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 703: Grief Rearranges a Life Without Asking Permission 27.03.2026 35:44

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to feel sexy, open, confident, and present, but...her dad is dying Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 702: Unsettled by “Settled” 25.03.2026 37:18

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partners said he settled for her Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 701: Recycled Pet Names 23.03.2026 36:51

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose brain has started looking for threats in her relationship where there might not be any Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 700: I Miss Him, But Not Our Relationship 20.03.2026 30:03

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is grieving for her ex but not for the relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 699: Grieving a Friendship That Hasn’t Officially Ended 18.03.2026 31:08

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose friend told him she needed space but won't tell him why Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 698: Dating While Trans in Your 60s 16.03.2026 36:16

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is struggling to find connection with people his own age Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 697: Feeling Stuck After Grad School Rejections Letters 13.03.2026 38:29

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling like a failur after facing rejection after rejection Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 696: Either Way, She Left You 11.03.2026 30:37

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's investigating his breakup and not liking what he's finding Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 695: Don't Get Burned By Your Sexy Friends' Chaotic Relationship 09.03.2026 35:52

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is in too deep with a couple friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 694: Love Isn't a Reward for Good Behavior 06.03.2026 28:15

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who did everything right but still lost his relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices