Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

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Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

Author

Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Episodes

Episode 693: You Were Allowed To Be Drunk 04.03.2026 32:28

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's wondering how much to disclose about a painful moment from their past Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 692: It's Not Pathetic To Tell Someone You Like Them 02.03.2026 32:46

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is stuck in limbo with an ex who left her on read Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 691: Metabolizing Anger At Your Ex 27.02.2026 37:55

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose post-breakup fury just keeps rising Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 690: Resentment Toward Someone Who Isn't "Working As Hard" 23.02.2026 37:34

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who thinks about her resentment for her sister-in-law every single day Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 689: My Friend’s Partner Crossed a Line 20.02.2026 33:14

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose friend has crossed the line multiple times while high Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 688: Love in Low Battery Mode 16.02.2026 41:17

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend isn't showing her love in the way she can feel it Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 687: Where Love Ends and Self-Respect Begins 13.02.2026 33:02

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wishes her relationship had ended with more dignity and respect Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 686: Learning to Sit With Other People’s Choices 11.02.2026 31:30

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriends' parents don't have the capacity to improve she wants them to Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 685: It's Time to Get Some New Friends 09.02.2026 34:41

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to feel her feelings and not take on other people's perspectives Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 684: When Grief Hardens Into Anger 02.02.2026 36:34

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want to be consumed by bitterness about his ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 683: Compromise as a Living Conversation 30.01.2026 31:03

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who finds her mother-in-law difficult Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 682: Dreaming About My Crush During Naptime 28.01.2026 33:10

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she's in the wrong relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 681: Retroactive Rage 26.01.2026 32:06

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex won't respect the block Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 680: Being Enlightened Doesn't Mean You Don't Have Needs 23.01.2026 34:53

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner is gone for weeks at a time Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 679: My First Toxic Lesbian Break Up™ 21.01.2026 34:05

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who just got out of her first chaotic queer relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 678: Extroverts Dating Introverts 19.01.2026 30:22

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner has only met her important friends once or twice Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 677: The Abject Terror and Excitement of Liking Someone 16.01.2026 28:25

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who went on a date with someone cooler than her and maybe blew it Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 676: Detoxing From a Chaotic Relationship 14.01.2026 32:26

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to learn what healthy love feels like with a nervous system trained on chaos Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 675: Might Not Be the Time to Fix Your Jealousy Issues 12.01.2026 33:52

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want to keep bringing up what her boyfriend did Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 674: When Our Social Circles Don't Match 09.01.2026 28:05

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend has a very different social circle Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 673: I Read My Boyfriend's Journal and Hurt Myself 07.01.2026 30:23

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who read her boyfriend's journal and found something she didn't like Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 672: My Ex Husband Tells Everyone I'm a Wh*re 05.01.2026 30:36

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex-husband is still trying to control her Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 671: Is My Bar Too High? 19.12.2025 31:46

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from somone who has a high bar for potential partners Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 670: Acting Out After Being Left On Read 17.12.2025 35:19

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from somone who doesn't want to be in her ex's bridal party Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 669: My Boyfriend is Threatened By My Journal 15.12.2025 37:27

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner doesn't like that she has a past Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices