Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

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Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

Author

Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Episodes

Episode 668: Caught in a Cycle of Emotional Hunger 12.12.2025 30:46

Sam and Sierra answer a letter frome someone who is wondering if she chose the wrong guy Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 667: Can a Work Crush Ever Be a Good Thing? 10.12.2025 31:31

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is taking solace in a work crush Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 666: Are Long-Lasting Relationships Inherently Better? 08.12.2025 30:14

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if a longer relationship will lead to a better one Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 665: Navigating An Overly Negative World 05.12.2025 31:04

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is seeking care in an uncaring world Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 664: Do You Want Couple's Therapy With A Man Who Won't Say I Love You? 03.12.2025 29:41

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who went on vacation with her boyfriend and now maybe wants to just break up Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 663: Panicking Over A Potential Proposal 01.12.2025 29:04

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is panicking now that an engagement is on the table Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 662: When People Pity Your Happy Single Life 28.11.2025 26:47

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from somone who is happy being single even though the world doesn't want her to be Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 661: The Shame We Carry 26.11.2025 29:14

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who, like all of us, is holding onto shame she doesn't need to Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 660: My Boyfriend's Brother's Girlfriend Hates Me 24.11.2025 30:50

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend's brother's girlfriend hates her Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 659: We're Not Meant to Hold Lightning 21.11.2025 28:19

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who has been left holding all the terrible thins her dad did to her mom Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 658: You Can't Compartmentalize Your Way Out of This 19.11.2025 29:03

Sam and Sierra answer a letter whose married boyfriend's mother is about to pass away Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 657: The Familiarity of Self-Isolation 17.11.2025 31:06

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who self isolates instead of seeking support from their friends Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 656: It Could Be Different This Time 14.11.2025 28:17

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like every new relationship is the same old story – and they know how it ends Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 655: When Self-Soothing Isn't Enough 12.11.2025 25:36

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner won't introduce them to her friend who is also her ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 654: Missing His Kids More Than Him 10.11.2025 30:31

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is grieving not being in her ex's kids' lives anymore Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 653: Responding Instead of Reacting Isn't Always Easy 07.11.2025 34:34

On this main-feed release of a recent Patreon episode, Sam and Sierra talk about trying to be present in their relationships Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 652: Changing Relationship Patterns 05.11.2025 30:06

On this main-feed release of today's Patreon episode, Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to try new patterns with her partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 651: When You *and* Your Therapist Get It Wrong 03.11.2025 32:11

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who should have listened to us and not her therapist (we're joking) Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 650: Finding Belonging When Things Are Uncertain 31.10.2025 30:18

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose entire fate seems to depend on her partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 649: Cheating Does Not An Open Relationship Make 29.10.2025 28:53

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is openly discussing having another affair with a former affair partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 648: New Relationship, Old Trauma 27.10.2025 32:38

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling echoes of self-doubt from a toxic relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 647: How To Stay Soft After Repeated Betrayal 24.10.2025 31:38

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if he's the reason he keeps getting cheated on Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 646: My Mom Doesn't Want My Dad At My Wedding 22.10.2025 32:04

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose mom won't come to her wedding if her dad is there Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 645: How Do I Forgive Myself For Cheating 20.10.2025 36:19

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't know how they'll get over blowing up their relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 644: My Boyfriend Googled "Erotic Massage Near Me" 17.10.2025 31:24

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who snooped and found out something she didn't want to see Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices