Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

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Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

Author

Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Category

Health

Podcast website

www.justbreakuppod.com

Latest episode

Jul 10, 2026

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Episodes

Episode 184: Toxic Positivity Villain 21.03.2022

This episode tackles topics like not wanting to be a mom, trying to control our parents, and breakups.  Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Couples Therapy on Showtime Original music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wi...

Episode 183: The Taco Bell of Sex 14.03.2022

This episode tackles topics like when the sex is too good, going from chapter 5 to chapter 2, and when our curiosity is getting the better of us.  Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: The Gilded Age of HBO Original music,...

Episode 182: The Vulnerability Garden 07.03.2022

This episode tackles topics like combing through our partner’s instagram, feeling de-prioritized, and doing good things for the “wrong reasons”.  Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Isa Does it by Isa Chandra Moskowitz O...

Episode 181: Things Will Always Be Weird 28.02.2022

This episode tackles topics like when our joy crushes others, when our partner's ex is their favorite topic of conversation, and when we're the pessimist in the relationship. Get your tickets for our March 6th virtual live show! Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbre...

Dating, Self-Care, and Chronic Illness: An Interview with Tonya Ingram 24.02.2022

In this episode of Head and Heart Work Conversations, Sierra and Sam talk with Tonya Ingram, poet, author, speaker, and mental health advocate. Tonya has graced the stages of The Getty Museum, Madison Square Garden, San Francisco Opera House, and “The Price is Right”, the online and physical pages of The New York Times, Vice i-D, Bustle, and Marie Claire, and the classrooms of schools in the Unite...

Episode 180: More Than the Sum of Our Butts 21.02.2022

This episode tackles topics like power shifts, sisterly comparisons, and being anxiously attached and gay (double whammy). Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: The Secret to Superhuman Strength by Alison Bechdel Original...

Episode 179: Sex Is Like Soup 14.02.2022

This episode tackles topics like getting over hurtful comments, being a late bloomer, and politics in relationships. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: The Wheel of Time Original music, recording, and editing by Spencer...

Relationship Patterns and Working with Friends: An Interview with Trina Olson and Alfonso Wenker 10.02.2022

In this episode of Head and Heart Work Conversations, Sierra and Sam talk with Trina Olson and Alfonso Wenker, the co-founders of Team Dynamics and authors of Hiring Revolution: A Guide to Disrupt Racism + Sexism in Hiring. The conversation covers working with friends, online dating, PowerPoint presentations, and much more. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 1...

Episode 178: A Blanket Statement You Can Unpack In Therapy Later 07.02.2022

This episode tackles topics like no dogs allowed, hygiene, and miss independent. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Special Books by Special Kids Original music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-Davis Advertise o...

Accessing Your Higher Self: An Interview with Bunny Michael 03.02.2022

In this episode of Head and Heart Work Conversations, Sierra talks with Bunny Michael, a spiritual coach and multi-disciplinary artist who has dedicated their work to awakening Higher Self–the manifestation of love within all humans de-conditioned by the limitations of ego identity. Check out Bunny's podcast XO Higher Self, and check out their website for more info. Join us on Patreon and get an e...

Episode 177: The Introspective Elevator 31.01.2022

This episode tackles topics like loneliness, other people's assumptions about us, and accountability. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: The Grace of Kings by Ken Liu Original music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wi...

Episode 176: Prioritize Your Peace 24.01.2022

This episode tackles topics like casually dating without sex, helicopter mothers in law, and when our families don't believe us. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: My Octopus Teacher Original music, recording, and editi...

Desire and Communication: An Interview with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner 20.01.2022

In this episode of Head and Heart Work Conversations, Sam and Sierra talk with Casey Tanner, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist who combines evidence-based research, queer affirming care, and pleasure activism to cultivate powerful relationships. Check out Casey's instagram page, Queer Sex Therapy, or learn more about their practice here. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a bac...

Episode 175: There's Something Better Out There 17.01.2022

This episode tackles topics like falling back into bad habits, when hard conversations feel one-sided, and cycles of mistrust.  Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Wordle Original music, recording, and editing by Spencer...

Episode 174: Our Tiny Little Brains! 10.01.2022

This episode tackles topics like marriage as the end goal, doing everything right and it still isn’t enough, and struggling with spontaneity.  Check out the trailer for Spencer's new podcast, Finding Quantum Quest, and subscribe now. First episode launches 1/26! Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /...

Polyamory & Non-Monogamy: An Interview with Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers 06.01.2022

In this episode of Head and Heart Work Conversations, Sam and Sierra talk with Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers, a Personal Coach specializing in Relationship Dynamics and Non-Monogamy. The conversation covers non-monogamy, polyamory, and relationship dynamics. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreak...

Episode 173: A Band-Aid for a Wound of Insecurity 03.01.2022

This episode tackles topics like clothes, feeling like you’re being hidden, and dealing with our partner’s jealousy. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Children of Time by Adrian Tchaikovsky Original music, recording, a...

Patreon Bonus: Humbled by the Breadth of Human Experience 27.12.2021

Since we're taking the week off, we thought we'd share a recent Patreon episode. In this episode, Salmon Sierra talk about advice that has impacted them the most, then answer a letter about when it’s time to give up on a relationship. Join us on Patreon for as little as $5/month and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /ju...

Episode 172: Is It Us, or Is It Capitalism? 20.12.2021

This episode tackles topics like growing together in a system that’s working against us, when our friends date our exes, and when they say they love us only during the breakup.  Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: The Bu...

Navigating Grief & Cultivating Joy in Partnerships: An Interview with Alyesha Wise and Matthew Cuban-Hernandez 16.12.2021

In this episode of Head and Heart Work Conversations, Sam and Sierra talk with Alyesha Wise and Matthew Cuban-Hernandez, Los Angeles-based writers, educators, and long-term partners. The conversation covers grieving in partnership, finding ways to laugh, and alien documentaries. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppo...

Episode 171: Traditions Are Just Patterns 13.12.2021

This episode tackles topics like the ghost of relationships past, when you won't be home for Christmas, and crush shame. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Single All the Way on Netflix Original music, recording, and ed...

Episode 170: You Deserve to be Caretooketh 06.12.2021

This episode tackles topics like relationship relapses, breakup shame, and how life goes on. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: After the Breakup: A Self-Love Journal by Lindsey Dortch Brock Original music, recording, a...

Online Dating & Interracial Relationships: An Interview with Melissa Lozada-Olivia 02.12.2021

In this week's episode of Head and Heart Work Conversations Sierra talks with Melissa Lozada-Oliva, a Guatelombian (Guatemalan-Colombian) American poet and screenwriter. Read Melissa's new book Dreaming of You, and listen to her podcast Say More with Olivia Gatwood. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOO...

Episode 169: Humans Are Faulty 29.11.2021

This episode tackles topics like feelings, lies, and scarcity. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: Sisters In Hate by Seyward Darby Original music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-Davis Advertise on Just Break Up...

Episode 168: You Are Infinitely Capable 22.11.2021

This episode tackles topics like living next door to your in-laws, how to date, and dumpster fires behind closed doors.  Our holiday sale is on now through 11/29! Get 20% orders over $30, 30% off $60, and 40% $90. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER...

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