Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

Rebecca Woolf has worked as a freelance writer since age 16 when she became a leading contributor to the hit 90s book series, Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul. Since then, she's started the blog Girl’s Gone Child, appeared on CNN and NPR, has been featured in The New York Times, Time Magazine and New York Mag, and recently published her second book All of This: A Memoir of Death and Desire. The c...

It’s possible to be haunted by the ghosts of relationships past, present and future, sometimes all at once. No matter where we are in our timeline, one thing’s for sure–a little self compassion certainly can’t hurt.  Join us on Patreon and check out our special new years office hours on 12/29! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod...

The rarest of JBU episodes, in which Sam and Sierra give relatively direct advice to three people with dating questions. This week we’re tackling questions like: "What should I do when I think I’m falling in love but know I shouldn’t?" "How do I move on from making a mess out of dating my best friend?" "Why does dating suck so bad? And how do I make it suck less?" Join us on Patreon and check out...

JP is a grammy-nominated, multi-platinum singer and songwriter from Toronto. The conversation covers how to "acknowledge" a breakup, attending a wedding with your ex, and a little exclusive, acapella performance. Check out JP's music on Apple Music or Spotify. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /ju...

There They Are: Breaking the Binary of Pageants is a brand new podcast launching this February from Du Vide Media. Leah Juliett is non-binary, plus-sized, tattooed, and could be the next Miss America. They were first runner up at Miss Connecticut last year and have one more chance to make it to the national stage before they age out. Host Sierra DeMulder will be following Leah’s journey through th...

Sometimes we just have to work through the pain to get to something better. That might mean leaving a marriage, accepting that you haven't grown as much as you thought, or breaking a cyclical pickle. Join us on Patreon and check out our special new years office hours on 12/29! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod TWITTER: @justbreakuppod BLIND DATE: The R...

Is it normal to not be “sure” about your relationship? Do you actually know what your partner wants or are you making assumptions? Should you really be jealous of your partner’s friends or could you be grateful they’re surrounded by love? Sometimes, we might benefit from taking another look at the narratives we’ve accepted. We just added a bunch of new merchandise to our store and restocked a few...

Leah is an award-winning writer, speaker, organizer, activist, nonprofit leader, and communications champion from Connecticut. The conversation covers their work with March Against Revenge Porn, reframing consent, and being a non-binary Miss America candidate. You can learn more about Leah on their website. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and...

Humans are more than just lessons—but they can be that, too. Here are lessons you might learn: breakups can be graduations, a child will always change the dynamic of a relationship but you decide how you respond to that change, a bandaid will never heal our wounds just like reassurance won’t quiet our anxiety monsters, and you WILL miss out on something with every choice you make, but you’ll gain...

Forget the hierarchies you’ve been taught! Here are other beliefs you should free yourself from: you need to save the people you love from their own sadness, your relationship was perfect “except for that one tiny detail…” (like living in different cities and not wanting an LDR), and that a speedboat’s trajectory is better than a sailboat’s. We just added a bunch of new merchandise to our store an...

Angela is a journalist, editor, and author of Sam's favorite book, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex. The conversation covers emotional bravery, compulsory sexuality, and nuanced consent. You can buy Angela's book and read more of her work on her website. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video! SUBM...

We can’t move through this world without hurting people. Here’s what we CAN do: create new holiday traditions and hope our parents are okay with that, see our partners for who they are NOW and not who their exes say they were, and either shoot our shot or get off the pot (or simply say good to our nine-year vague-posting back-and-forth dumpster fire). We just added a bunch of new merchandise to ou...

If your cucumber is in brine, you can still stop it before it becomes a pickle. Effective interventions include: accepting that other forms of sex may be more available to and successful for you, communicating your boundaries actively, firmly, consistently, lovingly, and long before they’re needed, and working toward self-love that feels nothing like settling. (apologies for Sierra's audio! stuff...

Oscar is an actor, podcaster, and improviser from LA. Most recently, he played Richie on the hit HBO show Minx. The conversation covers male nudity in media, multi-dimensional queer characters, and learning body positivity through acting. Follow Oscar on Instagram, or check out his podcasts Inside the Disney Vault and Podcast Killed the Video Star. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each...

There is no path, just a forest full of trees. As you make your way through the woods, remember: your ex deleting pictures of you is not the same as erasing the memory of you, being right doesn’t mean it’s your right to interject, breakups are destabilizing and devastating and we WILL get through them, and Jafar is totally camp. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams...

Dignity? A thing of the past! The new thing is: holding firm to what you want in a relationship even if that means your current one ends, not letting one good night of conversation eclipse three years of harmful behavior, and going to therapy to work through retroactive jealousy (or just in general, if you have the means!). Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and...

We all tell ourselves stories. Just make sure you’re not using them to: avoid accountability for your actions, gaslight yourself into thinking your very reasonable discomfort is irrational jealousy, invalidate your future hardships because you’ve seen others go through worse, or, under any circumstances, justify buying a kitten for your ex. Our live show has been rescheduled to Friday, 10/21. Get...

You don’t need to change someone’s perception of you to be valid. Here’s what you can do instead: sit with the discomfort that you’re the villain in someone else’s story, find ways to meet your needs without extracting them from other people, and refuse to give relationship nostalgia more weight than it needs (or say fuck it and shoot your shot—it worked for Sierra and her wife!). Our live show ha...

Sometimes you just have to learn a lesson until it’s learned. Worthwhile lessons include: trust is not the absence of jealousy, it’s not on you to turn your partner into the person you need them to be, true love is neither butterflies nor settling—it’s stability, contentment, fulfillment, vulnerability—and no, you probably don’t have a good reason to unblock-block-block your ex. Our live show has...

Your dream partner is out there, and they’ll make you work less hard for your love. Here’s what they WON’T do: make you doubt your stable, loving relationship for having innocent crushes, lead you on for sport, cheat on and lie to you, or leverage your imaginary wedding to absolve themselves of guilt (optional: leave the house without brushing their teeth). Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly e...

This episode tackles topics like when memories of your ex make you cry in the shower, how we can heal when we hurt someone, and why taking a bigger view can help us heal (or not). Tickets are on sale now for our upcoming live show, September 30 in St. Paul, MN. Can't make it to St. Paul? Grab tickets for the livestream! This episode is sponsored by EveryPlate. Get started with EveryPlate for just...

This episode tackles topics like why we care what other people think about our relationship (and why we don't need to), why the dreaded "body count" keeps us up at night, and how to honor your own thoughts (and why that's different than being a know-it-all). Tickets are on sale now for our upcoming live show, September 30 in St. Paul, MN. Can't make it to St. Paul? Grab tickets for the livestream!...

Go listen to XO Higher Self with Bunny Michael, the newest Du Vide podcast! This episode tackles topics like finding out what your partner is saying behind your back, not having the "right" kind of sex, and not blaming the other woman. Tickets are on sale now for our upcoming live show, September 30 in St. Paul, MN. This episode is sponsored by EveryPlate. Get started with EveryPlate for just $1.4...

This episode tackles topics like fighting for someone who is choosing not to be with you, being stubbornly single, and the mythical pity party.  Tickets are on sale now for our upcoming live show, September 30 in St. Paul, MN. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! We're now publishing our full episodes in video form. Subscribe on YouTube to start watching...

This episode tackles topics like gauging our attraction, roommate drama, and our partner's aging parents. Tickets are on sale now for our upcoming live show, September 30 in St. Paul, MN. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more! We're now publishing our full episodes in video form. Subscribe on YouTube to start watching! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK:...