Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

Today Amie and Alana continue their conversation to those who have loved ones that are trying to understand more of what you, the betrayed, are experiencing. Sometimes it's hard to put into words when you yourself are still trying to figure it out! So we hope that this episode also helps you too.  Todays episode comes with gratitude for the great feedback we have received from last episode on...

This episode is specifically for all those who are the family or friends of those suffering from betrayal trauma. When you are the betrayed partner, It's so hard to explain to others what exactly you are or have been experiencing. Often times others might not believe you or know how to help you in your trauma. This can feel very lonely and frustrating.  Today Alana and Amie have a message to...

Today Amie and Alana talk about the dangers of comparison in our life and along our healing journey. We do this in so many ways, compare if our partner is or isn't doing the recovery work like the other partners, or why am I still struggling in anger or depression, "I should be over this by now". We compare stories and assess who's is "worse". We compare time and how long it is taking for us to se...

In todays episode Amie and Alana discuss even deeper into the topic of boundaries. Discussing the importance of having your own value system identified, knowing the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum or demand. Where we sometimes lack in follow through and much more. Tune in today and whether you are in the beginning stages of boundary work or you feel like you have this down. There is...

Join the conversation this week as Alana does a training on boundaries! You'll hear from other women who not only have struggled with boundaries but have found growth in their boundaries as well.  Some of the topics include:  Boundaries are what I will do or will not do to take care of myself and my responsibilities Boundaries are not about punishment, they are about creating space for e...

Do you find it easy to give someone else permission to rest, self care, do what they need or want but find it extremely hard to give YOURSELF permission? Perhaps you feel it's selfish, or that it's not necessary? Maybe you just don't think you are worth it, or that you have to change something first.  In todays episode Alana and Amie discuss the POWER that comes when you give yourself permiss...

Today we have the amazing hosts of The Healing With WORTH podcast joining our conversation today! We asked Naomi and Janeen to share a little about their stories and how they came be the hosts of the popular podcast. We talk about how important it is to have support when you are going through betrayal trauma or divorce, struggles that can come up in religious culture through healing, how to know w...

Today Alana and Amie share thoughts and get real about how perfectionism not only is an exhausting way to live, but it can inhibit your healing journey.  Perfectionism can be something we have had our whole life, or it can come from the onset of betrayal. Perfection around body image and making everything we do mean something about our worth and value is dangerous.  We hope today we get...

Today Alana and Amie talk about how important hope is in the healing journey, but also how an unwise amount of hope can work against us. Learning to navigate this can greatly impact how we move forward. Often times we are putting all our hope in other people or even God to change things towards the expectations we have and this actually takes us out of our own power to act. Our hope today in this...

Today we are talking with a one of our awesome certified betrayal trauma coaches, Hali Roderick and Co-Owner of CHOOSE and certified life coach Luke Gordon. Triggers are a huge part of healing and also just a huge part of being human. Learning how to tame those triggers is a skill worth developing. Hali shares her thoughts and tools on how to do just that! When the spouse who has been betrayed has...

Due to the amazing feedback and growing interest for help and tools around the topic of abuse and addiction, Kimberly Day and myself have a NEW COURSE starting October 10th to help with this very thing! Today I talk about how this course will be an amazing tools and place to start for those who are looking for help and haven't yet found it.  To register for this course please email your name...

Welcome to Season 2 of the CHOose To Be Podcast with Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey. What an amazing first season and its thanks to all of you amazing listeners for joining our conversation each week and sharing it with those around you. The number of our listeners have grown more than we had hoped for our first season and hoping to reach even more! The message of hope and healing is so important f...

This is the last episode of Amie and Kim Day's virtual lunch date and conversation around a very difficult topic. With awareness and acceptance of reality being addressed, the next step is the power of action. Now that you see what you have control over, what's your next step. You get to pick up the pieces and rebuild your house. You start with what resonates with you, what feels right and you tak...

Amie continues her conversation with Therapist Kim Day as they discuss why it's so imperative to not only be aware of what IS REAL, but to then accept the reality of what's happening. When you can see things as they really are you put yourself in a place of empowerment, power to act. When you avoid reality and stay in denial you are stuck as a victim. Until we get to a place where we can accept th...

On today's show we welcome Kim Day, LMHCA, CCPS therapist who specializes in relational abuse. For the next three weeks Kim and Amie discuss the different elements of abuse in relationships. We start the discussion today by discussing the importance of awareness.  "I spent a lot of time studying addiction and I knew that was a component, but there was this nagging feeling like I was missing s...

This week join us as we explore thoughts and stories that keep us stuck. As we look deeper into why we create stories, which ones are helpful, and which ones imprison us, we can break free from the trauma and continue to move forward.  If you are ready to do your own individual work, visit Chooserecoveryservices.com and check out our team to choose YOUR healing. For more information and to re...

This episode is from Amie's first webinar ever! Tune in today as she shares parts of her own journey and talks about how to move forward when you feel like you have an ocean in front of you and an attacking army behind you.  Using the biblical story of Moses and the children of Israel's escape from bondage, she likens her own to the fear that comes from moving forward and how essential it is...

Join us this week as we explore the stages of grief with betrayal trauma along with how to not get stuck in any one stage.  In this episode, Alana shares the critical parts of healing from betrayal and why allowing yourself to grieve is so important to your healing. As they've studied betrayal trauma, they have found that the healing from that, directly parallels the healing of the trauma of...

In this episode Amie has a discussion with the women form her YSA Dating course. They talk about the struggles with dating in todays world, the fears that they have and how through this 11 week dating course they have found hope for their future and are learning to love themselves FIRST! The YSA Dating Course is led by Amie Woolsey and is for single women ages 18-30. It is a weekly, online course...

Today Amie is talking about how trauma can effect our ability to feel, to make decisions and to stay in reality. Learning to feel again, to connect your brain and body again takes time and practice. It's something that can keep many who have experienced trauma stuck and from moving forward for years. Learning to feel again is critical to your healing and is possible. As you practice you will start...

Today Alana and Amie continue last weeks discussion and dive into what full therapeutic disclosures are, and what they are not.  There can be lots of confusion around how this works and what our expectations are. There are key things to consider before having a full disclosure as well as helpful tips and tools to prepare you to have a successful one. Choose Recovery Services is committed to h...

Join Amie and Alana as we discuss trust after betrayal as we dig into some common myths and expectations.  Looking for more resources and help in your healing work? Visit https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/ and let us help you to choose recovery, choose healing and to CHOOSE YOU!

I know that things in this world, in our culture and even religious cultures need to change, and I think woman are going to drive this and change the world! Which is why I created this 12 week course for young single adults ages 18-30 years of age.  It's a game changer! This is definitely an episode to share because we all know a young woman who needs to know what we a ll wish we would have!...

Today Amie shares her personal experience in working through her binge eating disorder. Trauma can bring different challenges and it's important to learn how to cope with those in a healthy way. Amie shares some insight and offers tools to help those of you are coping with food or other unhealthy ways as a result of trauma.  You can find more vlogs from Amie at https://www.lifecoachingwithami...

Join Alana and Amie as we explore more around boundaries and how we want other's to respond to them.