Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

Join Amie and Alana today as they discuss the different aspect of change. Change in ourselves, change in our partners and why it's so hard when others aren't changing in the way we want.  They also discuss how sometimes there is an expectation of the addict to have a personality change when they find recovery from their addiction. When this doesn't happen it can bring up a lot of emotions, so...

Last week Amie and Alana talked about DARVO and gaslighting so today they tackle the question, "How do I respond to gaslighting?". As always, where ever you are at in your relationship, even if you are divorced, this episode will be so helpful! Remember to please reach out to someone who is trained in abuse to help guide you through boundaries and other tools to navigate abusive behavior.  Ab...

We are re-airing last years episode for Mothers Day and wishing all of you a beautiful one. We know that many of you are also struggling this weekend and hope you can feel supported and loved from Alana and I.  Wherever you are at in your journey, please know that you are the creator of it. You have that right and capability, and one of the main goal for this podcast it to help women step int...

Join Amie and Alana today as they tackle one of our listeners heartfelt question around gaslighting. Recovery is already complicated and so when we add the piece of abusive behavior and character traits to the mix it can be even more confusing. We want to be careful how we use this word in relationship to addiction as well as address the reality that this is a key piece to real recovery. Deflectin...

Join Amie and Alana as they wrap of this 3 part series on what recovery and healing look like, as well as what healthy relational behaviors look like. Divorced? Yep, this one is for you too. It's likely you are divorced because your partner did not do this recovery work. So learning what you have a right to expect and what it looks like will help you heal and move forward. Please feel free to send...

Alana and Amie continue their conversation around this topic of recovery for the addicted. It's tough to navigate as there are so many pieces to this. Hopefully today will help shed some light along your journey. the importance of being relational and what healthy looks like.  Is the addicted taking steps toward being honest, seeking out ways to create new patterns of healthy, or are they min...

Join Amie and Alana as they discuss the question of 'Is my partner in recovery?'  Divorced? Yep, this one is for you too. It's likely you are divorced because your partner did not do this recovery work. So learning what you have a right to expect and what it looks like will help you heal and move forward. Please feel free to send in your questions for topics you'd like us to discuss. send to...

Join Amie and Alana this week and we dive into parts work, looking at the parts of you that are trying to keep you safe. Not only do we discuss how to use this tool to heal, we do a live unscripted demo on air. Tune in as Amie discovers her bodyguard part using this guided imagery to help see what this part needs. It's a rare look into how this can work for you in your own healing journey.&nb...

We all experience it, trauma that is. Everyone will have a different initial response to trauma and the more we are aware of what our responses are and learn to recognize it in ourselves, the more we will be able to process it in a healthier way. Today Amie and Alana discuss the basics of the acute stress response fight, flight, freeze and fawn. Understanding these distinct responses can help expl...

Today was one of those days where, it just is what it is. So we recorded an episode exactly where we were at emotionally, and thats stressed, maxed and exhausted from our own work. Yep, we still have to do our work too! We hope this episode helps not only validate that we are all continuously learning and growing, but inspire you to lean into your own authentic self - and LOVE IT! Today we announc...

This week we look closely at the APSATS model of healing form betrayal and dive into what the different stages of healing looking like. No matter where you are in your healing, healing is possible. And finding the right support, can be huge in this process. For more information on Alana and Amie, or any of our other coaches and therapist, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com

Todays bonus episode is an interview Amie did with young single adult women who went through the YSA dating and Self Empowerment course. It's amazing to hear such strength from these women and how much hope this creates for the future as we see generations changing because we are teaching differently, talking differently, and bringing more awareness to the importance of self love, self empowerment...

Join Amie and Alana as they discuss sexual intimacy in a committed relationship, and the importance of recognizing that your body is your own.  To meet with one of our coaches or therapists online, or for a free consultation, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com

Join our conversation today as Amie gets real and vulnerable around her personal experience with abuse. It starts with awareness. Whether you are or are not in a similar situation, you most likely know someone who is. The more we can call it what it is, speak out about it, the healthier we become today and generations to come. There is never an excuse for abuse. This topic today came from an exper...

Join us today we talk about apologies, what makes a good one, what makes a bad one, and how to start the process of real amends. This tool is not just for those who are in romantic relationships, it is for anyone who has ever made a mistake or had someone make a mistake that hurts them!  If you would like more information on the groups Amie and Alana are running, or to book with them directly...

Amie is solo today and is sharing thoughts about what self love looks like and how it can help you to recognize what healthy intimacy looks like in your relationships. But it all has to start with YOU. There are some concerns around this sometimes with those who have been in a relationship with a narcissist. So the fear is that this idea can be or lead to narcissism. Amie clarifies this concern an...

Today Alana and Amie tackle the topic of self compassion. You may be surprised after hearing this episode to learn more about what self compassion is, and is not. They walk through some common myths about self compassion and of course share real life examples of how they have struggled to practice implementing this in their own lives, but how it works when they do! Many women who experience betray...

On today's episode Alana and Amie discuss how hold onto your unchanging identity while healing through trauma.  When you really start latching on to this new world of learning and understanding your trauma and addiction, finding safe circles and safe people and really start to put the puzzle pieces together it starts to create this level of understanding awareness and safety, and It becomes t...

Self Betrayal is saying “yes” when you want to say “no,” self sabotaging, ignoring basic needs and self care, lying to yourself, not taking accountability for your actions, and pretending to be something other than your authentic self. We all do it, but are we AWARE that we do it, and how often? Join the conversation today and Alana and Amie tackle this tough topic. Trauma brings up big emotions a...

Joining the conversation today is style consultant Kristen Watson. Kristen works with women all over, of all ages, stages and sizes. One of the things she notices the most is how often women feel they not only have no idea what their style even is anymore or feel overwhelm when they go shopping which often leads right to self hate, body hate and we stop looking at ourselves. Women have more negati...

Today's conversation we discuss one of those essential tools as you heal through your trauma. GROUNDING! But honestly, every human needs this tool! Grounding is so important to practice as trauma throws EVERYTHING off.  Learning to recognize when you are NOT grounded, centered and in the present is half the battle. This can be difficult to do at first, so no self judgement here! Being aware o...

Today we welcome our guest therapist Jody VanDrimmelen MSW, LCSW to discuss how trauma effects the brain and the body.  There is such a huge impact from betrayal trauma and there are so many that are still learning about how this has effected them. Wherever you are at in your journey, todays episode will definitely add to your understanding and knowledge.   We will discuss what trauma Is...

In todays episode Alana and Amie have a conversation about what it looks like to thrive and step out of victim mentality.  When you have been a victim of someone else's choices that created chaos and pain in your life. Sometimes undesirable pain, it's understandable how it feels powerless and overwhelmingly paralyzing. Sometimes the term victim takes on a negative connotation, and so it's a p...

Today Amie shares a brief message during this Christmas season.  Trauma can bring many nights that are not silently filled with peace. I had so many nights where my mind just wouldn't stop thinking and thinking of all the things that were wrong and could go wrong. So many things that where going on around me that where not holy, calm or bright. Where peace was absent and filled with chaos and...

Joining our conversation today are two of Amie's clients, Jeanine and Jori, who talk about their healing journey after divorce. Each of these women were In a place where they wanted to know how to get to that next level of healing and that included dating again. They first did the work to understand themselves and learned to love themselves fiercely. Each of these women overcame their fears of rej...