Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation

When you feel overwhelmed, when it feels like you don't have time, when you feel like the best course of action is just to push through, that's when to double down on self care. The tragic mass shooting in Buffalo, followed last week by the unthinkable school shooting in Uvalde, have left us buried - practically suffocating - in feelings. For so many of us, the temptation is to ignore the heavy fe...

If you wanna stop energy managing, you gotta find your WHY. Your BIG reason that keeps you on point. Here's mine. AND, this week, you can still dive deeper with me and a whole group of gorgeous souls in my new 16-week program, Calm the F**k Down. Tap the link below to join! https://kristenfinch.com/calm-the-fk-down/

Lately, I've been talking a lot about Energy Managers and energy managing on my podcast. So much so, that a number of clients and listeners have turned to Google to learn even more about energy managing, only to discover zero search results related to this topic. And that is because the concept of the Energy Manager is something that I made up, a phrase I've coined. While Energy Managers have alwa...

An energy manager is someone whose people-pleasing habit has gone next-level and become an addiction. You know you're an energy manager if you are constantly and hyper-vigilantly managing the moods, thoughts, and feelings of your people — your partner, friends, coworkers, furnace repair guy, whoever. It's exhausting and thankless and the "work" of energy managing never ends. And the crazy thing is...

Resilience and emotional ownership - two life-changing products of emotional intelligence - are essential to your recovery as an energy manager. Today's episode of the Calm AF podcast is all about how to build these core strengths, and where you can start today. And speaking of starting today, click here for more info on my new class for People Pleasers & Energy Managers, starting later this month...

Gorgeous soul, I am pretty sure this episode of the Calm AF podcast is meant just for you. Today, I am talking all about energy managers. And if you're not sure what I mean by "energy manager," think of energy managers as people pleasers who have taken people pleasing to a whole new level. They're the ones who are not merely seeking the approval of one person, they are seeking to control all the m...

There is never a downside to choosing empowered thinking. There is never a downside to choosing to believe that the best is going to happen instead of the worst is going to happen, or believing that you are capable or worthy or enough. Your brain wants to hold onto the "yeah buts." Yeah, but what if I'm not? Yeah, but what if I fail? Yeah, but what about other people's opinions? Your brain — the h...

This episode is all about making decisions. More specifically, how to make empowered decisions. No anxiety, no doubt, no over-thinking, no FOMO - just total confidence. Empowered decisions feel good, they feel right, they feel solid. Let's talk about how to make them with confidence, every time. I'm Kristen, your Calm AF Coach. You got this, and I got you.

ALL clutter is an accumulation of things that you don't use, things don't serve a purpose, things you've outgrown, unhelpful things that are taking up space. That space can be your home, your mind or your body. Today, let's talk about the emotional clutter that's getting in your way. Check out this related PLAYLIST that I've curated just for you, for after you listen to this episode: https://view....

ALL clutter is an accumulation of things that you don't use, things don't serve a purpose, things you've outgrown, unhelpful things that are taking up space. That space can be your home, your mind or your body. Today, let's talk about the mental clutter taking up precious real estate in your gorgeous brain - and WHAT to do with it. Visit https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf for the rest.

If you've ever looked around your house and felt instantly overwhelmed… this episode is for you. Because clutter isn't just about "stuff." It's not about being messy or lazy or not trying hard enough. Clutter is postponed decisions. In this episode, we're breaking down why clutter builds up in the first place, why trying to fix it all at once never works, and how your mindset—not your motivation—i...

WHY do we wait for a wake up call to feel ALIVE in our lives..to stop living a life in survival mode and start living our one life NOW. Today I'm going to share with you the BIGGEST lies we are believing that are keeping us from reclaiming our lives from survival mode hell. Applications are being accepted for April's RewiredAF retreat and 4 months of coaching. Apply now at https://kristenfinch.as....

The most important thing you can do as a person, a woman, a mom, a partner, a boss, a subordinate, is to step fully into the power you already have. To my people-pleasers, over-thinkers, perfectionists and overachievers: you take your power back, you take your life back. Today I'll give you 3 guidelines for how to do it now. Applications are being accepted for April's RewiredAF retreat and 4 month...

Feeling emotionally exhausted, mentally drained, and physically depleted even when you are doing "all the right things"? In this episode, the host explores the hidden burden of being the "energetic manager" in your relationships, family, and daily life. Through a personal story about burnout, stress, and soul-level exhaustion, this episode dives into why so many overthinkers, people pleasers, perf...

We all have an inner voice that chatters away in our heads. For most of us, that voice is not the nicest. It's not pointing out our successes or our potential or our strengths. It's pointing out our flaws, rehashing mistakes, generally being a Mean Girl. In this throwback episode, we talk all about the talk. Apply to work with me at kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf

Lighten up - that's the doctor's orders. Published research by Dr. Karyn Purvis shows that, typically, it takes about 400 repetitions to create a new synapse in the brain. Which means we have to practice a thought 400 times before it becomes a belief or second-nature. BUT. When play is involved, that same synapse will develop over on 10 to 20 repetitions. So, today we're talking about lightening t...

In my experience, one of the greatest obstacles to achieving goals, manifesting outcomes, living a life you WANT to live every day, is what I call all-or-nothing thinking. You *have* to stop that sh!t if you want to get anywhere. Today's episode is all about it. Check out kristenfinch.com for more good stuff.

What is my purpose? It's a question I hear ALL the time. And most people think it's a really deep question with a big answer. But I think it's super simple. Your purpose is to BE the realest, most authentic YOU, you can be. The problem? You've learned SO much about who you *should* be, and what you're *supposed* to look like. Today I'm diving in and sharing: ~ True Self vs Learned Self ~ Why becom...

If you don't feel worthy being who you REALLY are - your most authentic and aligned self - you will find yourself feeling exhausted, resentful, depressed, anxious. In this episode, we dive into why that is, and what to do about it.

  Are you stuck repeating the same patterns, even though you  know  they're not getting you where you want to go? In this episode, we break down the #1 mistake people make when trying to change their mindset and manifest a new reality—and how to fix it. Using powerful, relatable analogies (like choosing between a familiar road and a new one), you'll learn why your brain keeps pulling you back into...

What legacy will I leave?

What legacy do I WANT to leave?

 What do I hope people say about me when I'm gone? I really want people to say the same things about me that they are saying about Bob Saget. This is truly the weirdest episode ever and that is not something I ever thought would come out of my mouth. But grab a coffee and hear me out. And. Go to https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf to apply...

If the people you are surrounded by aren't lifting you up, cheering you on, dusting you off, laughing with you, celebrating with you, loving on you…FIND NEW PEOPLE. The people in your life will either elevate you or keep you where you are. It's time to surround yourself with the best. If you don't have this group, CREATE it. Go to https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf to find your people.

Some people greet the new year with goals, others with energy-charged words or phrases. There's no wrong way to strut into 2022 as long as you're choosing to strut in INTENTIONALLY. Me I love - and I mean LOVE - goals AND words. Lighting up my 2022 is the phrase, Quantum Leap. Because quantum leaps are the essence of easy manifesting. In this episode, I'm talking all about manifesting and turbocha...

The new year begins in a couple days and we all have GOALS on the brain. So, today I'm gonna share with you the top 3 things to leave in 2021. Do NOT take this sh*t with you into 2022. If you are listening and it is already 2022, let TODAY be the last day. Release these things today. They are weighing you down, slowing you down, bringing you down. It's time to lighten up, speed up, and level up. G...

Today, I talk about manifesting with EASE, aka the Calm AF manifestation method. Because here's what you need to understand. The more you focus on the struggle, the more you resist the feelings, the more you think about how HARD this is…the more struggle, resistance and HARD shit you're going to feel. How about instead, you lighten the fuck up about it? I say that with nothing but light….let's jus...