Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation

My client, Courtney, is a beaming example of the changes you can create when you align with - and consistently show up for - your calm AF self. She joins me to talk about her relentless journey, showing up for herself on the daily, and laying claim to a miracle pond in Iowa. Get comfy, gorgeous soul. It's time for a Calm AF Coaching Sesh!  Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – launches in January....

So here's the thing about rewiring thoughts: It is possible for almost EVERY human. Not only is it possible, but it's exactly what the brain does IF AND WHEN we don't let other thoughts get in the way. There is a very specific, proven process to making this happen and today, I am going to teach you the rewire process: the proven steps of actually rewiring your thoughts. For good, for real, for lif...

Feeling your feelings is the next pillar of calm AF life, and to learn more about this, we are going to spend time in our bodies. Because that's where our feelings live – not in our minds, not in our thoughts, but in our physical bodies. If you want anything to change in your life for good, you've GOT to become skilled in the art of feeling your feelings. Lemme say it again: The ONLY way to create...

Whether you realize it or not, you curate your entire life around the state of your nervous system. Your nervous system is always the first point of contact with anything and everything. Your nervous system creates stories that feel VITALLY important to believe, rules that feel CRUCIAL to hyper vigilantly follow, and beliefs that feel necessary for survival. The first step in creating sustainable...

Being permanently calm AF is about creating the life that you love - making your life your favorite story. Getting there takes an integrated approach comprising three essential components of wellness: physical, mental, and energetic. I'm going to break them down today, and then for the next 9 weeks I'll go deeper into each of them. My lifetime program, Calm AF Life, launches in January! Tap here t...

If you want to make big changes that last, you have to do the deeper self work – the stuff below the surface. Nothing in your life will change until you go deeper and uproot your old limiting beliefs about self-worth and plant new seeds that serve you.  Here are three questions to ask yourself at the beginning of this important work: WHY do I believe this thought about myself? Where did it come fr...

So. What the F is Calm AF? And how is it different from regular old calmness? Calm is a feeling. Calm AF is a way of being. It's an energy. When I talk about becoming calm AF I am not talking about walking around in some Zen blissed out state where nothing bothers you, man, and everything's fine. Nope, that's not it. I am calm AF, but I'm not always calm. You can ask my family, I can be calm AF an...

Investing in your Future Self means saying YES to effort, energy, discomfort, and sometimes even costs. And investing in your Future Self is ALWAYS worth it. Best of all, it doesn't always have to mean saying yes to big things, like concerts or camping trips or college courses. You can fill your tank by saying yes to a walk, a phone call with a friend, a nap.  What matters the most? At the end of...

Every single week, all week long, I talk to the MOST powerful women, women who could absolutely dominate, take over the freaking world, but who spend all their time and energy trying to silence their self-doubt. These women avoid taking steps to dominate, to step into their power, to apply for the executive role, for ONE reason: because they don't BELIEVE in themselves.  F THAT. When you feel your...

If we think of the brain like an organic computer, then the quality of your life is only as good as the thought-ware you install.  When you were born, your mind was a clean slate, running a simple emotional and physiological operating system. Its job was to keep you alive and get your needs met. As you got older, the adults in your life installed and started running their own mental "software" – o...

Rewired AF starts in October! Get on the list: https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf If you want to create a life that feels better, that feels lighter, that feels less heavy, you've GOT to increase your baseline energy. For all the chatter about manifesting this and that, what truly matters is the energy we bring to the work of creating and living – the energy that we choose as our baseline. Higher...

Let's address some myths and misconceptions about your Future Self – who she is, who she isn't, and what it means to become her. Your future self is not a far-fetched version of you that you have to TURN into. It's you now, just without the limiting beliefs and bullshit stories you're carrying around. And you don't become her AFTER your journey, you realize you ARE her DURING it. Grab a coffee, an...

You can STAY relentlessly committed to creating the life you want, manifesting your intentions, achieving your dreams WITHOUT exhausting yourself. Here's how, in 5 proven steps. EARLY BIRD registrations for Rewired AF are available now! Get on the list: https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube to get even more good stuff: https://www.youtube.com/ calmafpodcast Opposite AF...

If you want to become your true Future Self, you MUST be relentlessly committed to the things that matter. Because it won't happen overnight, it won't happen without failures, and it won't happen the way you think it will. Personally speaking, when it comes to MY one precious life, when it comes to being ALIVE in my life instead of surviving my life…absolutely relentless. Once I realized this abou...

Anger, when it disguises fear, is an unsafe feeling. But clean anger, calm AF anger, feels safe and in control. It is empowering and guides us to rational action. AND. Rewired AF starts in October! Get on the list: https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, starts...this month! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF...

Dave, my husband and Calm AF podcast producer extraordinaire, has learned recently that, "When you are so bold as to be true to yourself, you step fully into your power." Gorgeous souls, check out where he learned this. I love it. AND. Rewired AF starts in October! Get on the list: https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, starts...this month...

The gap that exists between where you are now and where you're headed can feel excruciating and make you feel super antsy. THE WORST. Your brain, no matter how smart you are, cannot figure your way out of this gap. Because the human brain is designed to make sense of what it has experienced. If your future self is someone doing things you haven't tried before, then the best you can do is settled i...

This is Calm AF's 200th episode! I truly think that Calm AF was a universal energetic idea floating around looking for someone to grab it and manifest it. And I got to be the one who did. I am so, so, so grateful. ____________________________________ Screenshot your review on Apple Podcasts and send to support@kristenfinch.com for a chance to win a CALM AF SWAG BAG. Sign up for Opposite AF, my rel...

You're in a neurodiverse relationship. You are wired differently, a neurologically mixed couple. It's tricky. We get it because we have lived it. In this episode, hear Dave's side of my journey to recovery as an energy manager. And join Dave and me for our new couples' program! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Also, have you subscribed to Calm AF's YouTube channel yet? I'm uploading new coachin...

Taking radical ownership of your life empowers you to create the life you want, the relationships you want, the career you want, everything. It's not easy but it is crucial. Personally speaking, my life overall changed for the better when I committed to fully owning it. My health improved. Our house began feeling like our home. And my neurodiverse marriage, which had been rocky, course-corrected....

The #1 thing I am asked to talk about is my neurodiverse marriage (Dave is autistic, I'm not). And I'm SO happy to talk about it...I'm SO happy to share what worked for our marriage. Except...my advice sucks. I mean, it's SOLID gold, it is EXCELLENT advice, but it's HARD and it takes time, it requires you to change the way you've been living your life, and it can be painful. I told you. Sucks. On...

One of the most important milestones in the recovery journey of an energy manager is the moment they recognize just how much their behaviors — which truly are self-sabotaging — are making their life way harder. Because this is the moment they realize they must stop managing other people's energies. It's also the moment in which the brain jumps in and works to convince you that NOW is not the time...

Life is draining. Trying to generate more and more energy drains us more and leads to burn-out. My advice? Boost your personal energy efficiency. Here's how. Sign up to get weekly guidance and inspo directly to your inbox! https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62a90ba63e1f4ce38387ee34   And, go deeper on the Calm AF YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW3GBpWPPwcs36oYBgBVkow

Today, for my energy managers, people pleasers, perfectionists, and overachievers, I am handing out permission slips. Because YOU probably aren't giving yourself permission to take care of yourself, to let yourself rest, to let yourself play, to STOP striving for perfection. I'm not giving you permission to check out or ignore life, I am giving you permission to do it shitty. AND! Subscribe to Cal...

Validation is recognition or acceptance that something or someone is worthy, legitimate, and acceptable. That's why validation, feeling valid, is such a big deal for all of us. When I talk to clients about internal validation, we are talking about a deep, almost profound knowing that who you are, and the feelings, thoughts, and opinions you bring to the table, are valid and worthwhile — without ne...