Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation

🐅 It's time to show your stripes . 🐅 How many times have you said yes when you really wanted to say no? Stayed quiet when you had something to say? Or made yourself smaller because you were afraid of what someone else might think? If you're exhausted from people-pleasing, overthinking, and trying to be everything everyone needs you to be, there's a reason being yourself can feel so damn hard. Yo...

Our Calm AF Community is open September 23-25. Learn more and sign up here. If you've spent your whole life making sure everyone else is okay before you even THINK about yourself…this episode is for youuuuu. Because somewhere along the way, you probably learned there were only two choices in life: either you become the person who shows up for everyone all the time no matter what it costs you…or yo...

How do you stay fully present in the moments that matter most, especially when every instinct tells you to go into fix-it mode? In this bonus episode, my client Danielle shares what happened when she arrived home to be with her dad on the last day of his life. For years, Danielle took care of everything and everyone except herself. Her life had gotten so far away from her that she wasn't really li...

Calm AF Community Now Enrolling! September 23rd, 24th, and 25th only.   👉 Get allllll the details here 👉 Listen to How To Live A Calm AF Life private podcast to hear coaching clips, client celebrations, and community impact. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________ How do you stay present in your life every day, not just when something...

Are you spending so much time worrying about the future that you're missing the life you're actually living? In this episode of Calm AF, Kristen is sharing what happened when a packed weekend of travel, family, football, and a Brandi Carlile concert brought an old pattern back to the surface: mentally living two hours—or two days—ahead instead of being present. You'll hear how overthinking, hyperv...

What are you feeding yourself? Years ago, I was standing in my kitchen making jelly toast for toddler Parker while absolutely SEETHING with resentment about the general bullshit imbalance of motherhood. Then I watched his tiny little hand pick up a piece and thought: Oh my God. I just fed this baby a resentment sandwich. And yes, I know resentment is not an actual condiment. But that moment change...

Why do birthdays, Mother's Day, weekends, or other special occasions leave you feeling so disappointed or resentful? Even when you were really looking forward to them? In this episode, Kristen talks with Calm AF client Courtney who LOVES birthdays. Hers, yours, everyones.  But for years, Courtney's birthdays came with big expectations and, often, big disappointment. As she and Kristen talk, they r...

You're already good at being uncomfortable. You overthink. You walk on eggshells. You manage everyone else's moods. You put yourself last. You beat yourself up. You stay exhausted, resentful, anxious, and hypervigilant. That's discomfort. It's just familiar discomfort . In this episode, I'm breaking down the distinction between familiar discomfort and unfamiliar discomfort — and why the discomfort...

"Will I ever truly learn to love myself? Logically I believe it — but I get so frustrated because I don't fully feel it." A client sent me that specific question this week, and the answer came to me so fast I knew it had to be an episode. Because it is probably NOT the answer you're expecting. The belief that self-love is a skill you have to study, practice, and eventually graduate from is the exa...

It's 11:07pm. You're staring at a text you sent three hours ago that still hasn't been answered — and your brain has already decided the relationship is over, they hate you, you're going to lose your job, and you'll end up alone and broke forever. If that spiral sounds familiar, it's not because you're dramatic or bad at life. It's because your nervous system flipped into fight-or-flight, and a pr...

You're wiped by 2pm. You count down the hours until you can finally lie down. And then you get into bed — and your brain wakes up. Heart racing a little. Running tomorrow's list. Rewriting the text you sent. Replaying a meeting from three days ago. Exhausted and buzzing at the exact same time. If you're dead tired all day but wide awake at night — and from the outside you look completely, totally...

You've been doing the work.  Learning how to regulate your nervous system. Feeling your feelings instead of trying to fix them. You're basically Calm AF....so why does an email still send you into a full-blown panic attack in the middle of Costco? In this episode, I'm sharing the story of a client who found herself asking the same question. She was so upset that after years of doing this would sti...

"I just needed to get that out." "I feel better once I verbally process it." If that's the story you tell yourself, this episode is going to poke holes in it. That habit is venting and it makes you feel worse, not better. At least not in any way that lasts. And it might be the exact thing keeping you stuck. Here's the thing about "getting it out": when you sit down to vent, you're not releasing an...

You've been doing everything right. Setting your intentions. Regulating on purpose. You didn't just listen to the episode on thought spirals — you listened to every episode, on 1.5 speed, because that's who you are. The A+ student. The gold star collector. The one who does the extra credit. And then it's 5:00 on a Thursday, your husband walks in in a mood, and everything you've been practicing fli...

You Don't Need More Time to Prepare You tell yourself you just need to think about it a little more. Do one more pass. Get a little more clarity before you commit. It feels responsible. But what if it's not preparation?  What if it's actually a sneaky way your dysregulation shows upd In this episode, we're looking at one of the most socially acceptable forms of dysregulation — overpreparing — thro...

Your whole life you've been told that when something feels bad, you should do something about it. Think harder. Work harder. Make a plan. Research the solution. Figure it out. But what if all that effort is the thing keeping you stuck? In this episode, I share a coaching conversation with a client who found herself angry after realizing how much she'd been carrying in her relationships. Like most...

Have you ever felt lonely in a room full of people who genuinely care about you? In this episode, I'm sharing a realization that completely changed the way I think about belonging. For years, I believed I just hadn't found "my people" yet. But after finding myself in a room that should have felt like home—and realizing I still felt like an outsider—I uncovered something much deeper. If you're the...

In Part 2 of my conversation with Courtney, we explore a powerful concept that most people have never been taught: energetic integrity. Have you ever told someone, "I'm fine," while every part of you knew you weren't? Or sensed that someone else's words didn't match the energy they were giving off? That's energetic integrity. In this episode, we talk about what happens when your words and your ene...

A few years ago, Courtney joined me on the podcast during the early stages of her Calm AF transformation. You can listen to that episode here . At the time, she had just returned from one of my retreats where she experienced a powerful future-self visualization that eventually led her to a completely different home and life. What we didn't fully talk about back then was that she also knew she need...

If you've spent your whole life making sure everyone else is okay before you even THINK about yourself…this episode is for youuuuu. Because somewhere along the way, you probably learned there were only two choices in life: either you become the person who shows up for everyone all the time no matter what it costs you…or you become an asshole. So naturally? You chose exhausted. In this episode, we'...

Episode Description Are you stuck repeating the same patterns, even though you  know  they're not getting you where you want to go? In this episode, we break down the #1 mistake people make when trying to change their mindset and manifest a new reality—and how to fix it. Using powerful, relatable analogies (like choosing between a familiar road and a new one), you'll learn why your brain keeps pul...

If you've ever thought: "I know exactly what I need to do… so why am I not doing it?" This episode is for you. Because procrastination isn't about willpower. You procrastinate because your brain is trying to avoid emotional pain, not because you're lazy. In this episode, I break down the neuroscience of procrastination so you can finally understand what's actually happening when you avoid the thin...

If you've been feeling overwhelmed lately, it probably feels like there's too much to care about, too much to fix, and no real way to keep up. But what if that feeling isn't random? In this episode, we're breaking down why you feel overwhelmed —and why it's not actually a personal failure or a time-management problem. It's the result of constantly being pulled into everything at once, while quietl...

Get The Daily Recalibration You don't have a problem with not caring. You have a problem with caring about everything . In this episode, we're talking about the one identity that might feel the most threatening of all—being indifferent. Because for you, caring isn't performative. It's who you are. You care about your people. You care about how they feel. You care when something is off, unfair, or...

What if the thing you're calling "lazy"… is actually the thing you need most? In this episode, we're redefining one of the most loaded words in our culture—and unpacking why so many high achievers feel guilty the moment they slow down. Because this isn't about productivity. It's about conditioning. If you've ever tried to rest but felt uncomfortable, restless, or like you were doing something wron...