Shena Lashey

Black Girls Heal

Health EN ↓ 343 episodes

Black Girls Heal helps women break out of cycles of unhealthy relationships with unavailable partners and feeling not enough by combining coaching, therapeutic support, and practical tools. Every episode, we will talk about intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in our self worth.

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Shena Lashey

Episodes

#41: Is Shame Controlling You? 03.03.2020 24:54

In this episode, we talk about if your shame is controlling you and if you're reacting outwardly or inwardly. We also dig into whether or not you may be projecting your shame. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, fr...

#40: How to Connect Without Losing Yourself 25.02.2020 26:02

Sometimes, even when you want to connect and let your walls down, fear gets in the way. We talk about it here! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the up...

#39: Healing Intellectual Trauma (Student Highlight) 18.02.2020 49:09

Intellectual trauma can impact how we show up in the world, how we feel about ourselves, and truly block us. In this podcast episode, I help one of my students walk through it! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, fre...

#38: The Label DOES Matter 11.02.2020 36:36

When working to have clarity in your relationships, first thing we gotta start with is the label. In this episode, we talk about why labels DO matter and how going without them can be connected to retriggering your trauma. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love availabl...

#37: Maybe It's You 04.02.2020 40:55

If you've battled with consistent relationship issues, instead of look at how other people may be the issue, it might be important to look at yourself. Maybe YOU'RE the issue. We dig into it in this podcast episode. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love availab...

#36: Sex as an Attachment Issue 23.01.2020 44:00

If you've struggled with some issues with regards to your sexuality and sex life, it may be based on your attachment and unresolved trauma. I talk about the ways I've seen it show up in women here. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled...

#35: Avoiding Our Personal Potholes 14.01.2020 20:31

How do you learn from your mistakes? How do you avoid falling into your own personal potholes? We talk about it in this episode! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click he...

#34: You Can Change Your Mind 07.01.2020 16:04

Part of healing includes knowing you can change your mind! Let's talk about it today! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of pr...

#33: You Have the Power 31.12.2019 20:36

YOU have the power to change your life. You are your own superhero. Love you so much and Happy New Year! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded v...

#32: Top 5 Episodes of 2019 24.12.2019 19:45

Whether your a newbie or a Day 1, this episode is going to recap the most popular podcast episodes of 2019 and give you a place to start should you be looking to catch up. I go over YOUR top 5 episodes of 2019 and also my top 5 favorites. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanc...

#31: Creating Your Own Traditions 17.12.2019 17:26

If you're a love addict and are feeling the pain this holiday season waiting for when your time will come, this episode is for you! Take a listen as Shena talks about starting your own tradition now. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled...

#30: My Top 2 (Conflict) Communication Tips 12.12.2019 24:44

In time for the holiday season, I'm sharing my top two communication tips to help you share what you're feeling and avoid escalating conflict. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in...

#29: 3 Things to Keep in Mind When Making A Mistake 03.12.2019 30:25

Oof!! Have you ever messed up and battled with shame on how it made you look, what it meant about you, and if you could ever recover? If so, this episode is for you. Join us as Shena talks about 3 things for you to keep in mind whenever you make a mistake. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you...

#28: Boundary Hangovers 26.11.2019 29:00

Ever feel guilt, shame, or self-doubt after setting boundaries with someone? Don't worry! You're normal. We talk about it more in this episode! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned...

#27: Ask Shena #1: Staying Present in a Healthy Relationship, Managing Fears and Expectations of Motherhood 19.11.2019 38:49

We are starting a new segment of the podcast called "Ask Shena" where listeners get a chance to have a mini-call with Shena. This episode, being the first, talks about why we are adding this to the podcast, shares the call with listener "Allie", and follows with final thoughts from Shena afterwards. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our Th...

#26: False Intimacy 15.11.2019 28:15

Do you move quickly too soon in relationships? Ever wonder why? Take a listen to this episode to pause, regroup, and learn how to build intimacy in a healthy way. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event...

#25: Trauma Bonds 05.11.2019 26:30

Trauma bonds! Where do they come from? Why are they so hard to get rid up? What's the difference between a trauma bond and being in love. We did into all of that AND more in this weeks episode. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Ca...

#24: The Importance of Self Forgiveness 29.10.2019 26:58

Forgiveness isn't just something we do for and with other people. Forgiveness is a critical part of self healing and recovery. We did into different facets of it today. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie...

#23: 3 Traps We Fall Into When Forgiving Others 22.10.2019 31:37

In this episode, we do a quick breakdown of the importance of forgiveness for our healing process. We also dig into 3 traps we fall into when forgiving others. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event ment...

Check in! 16.10.2019 5:02

Just a check in while we get some great things ready for you! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs an...

#22: Building Self Compassion with Sarah Suzuki 09.10.2019 40:02

In this episode, Sarah Suzuki of Chicago Compass Counseling breaks down what it means to build self compassion. She gives us practical tips on working through our shame cycles and how to practice self love. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled...

#21: Manifestation & Mindset 24.09.2019 36:33

In this episode, we get into how manifestation is connected to your inner healing. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously...

#20: When It's Hard to Let Go - Q&A 16.09.2019 34:43

In this special episode, we take a listen to the Q&A about podcast episode #4 - When It's Hard to Let Go. In this episode, we cover boundaries and how to create healthy space in family, romantic, and friend relationships. Sign up for the Black Girls Heal Retreat! BlackGirlsHeal.org/Retreat Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery Schoo...

#19: Are You Changing Or Just Thinking About Changing? 10.09.2019 43:15

Where are you in the stages of change? Are you actually changing or just thinking about it? We dig into it this episode and also how to help you get to the next level. Article referenced: The 6 Stages of Behavior Change Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love availab...

#18: 4 Things That Are Blocking You From Change 02.09.2019 32:11

Are you ready for change? In this two-part series, we get into 4 mindsets that may be blocking you from change. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the...