Black Girls Heal

Ever wonder what that deep, painful feeling is that happens after you break up as a love addict? Ever feel that it hits you differently than others and you wonder why? Well, you're not imagining it. It's called withdrawal, and you can get through it. Take a listen and learn more about what it is, why it happens, and next steps you can take to recover.  Ready to heal your Love Addiction &am...

In this episode, we dig into what is codependency, where does it come from, and what you can do to unlearn it. We also spend time talking about what it looks like when we encourage people to be codependent on us and next steps we can take with them as well.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help y...

So you've been to therapy before and you're wondering if maybe you need to go back? This episode will help you determine if so and give some advice to surpass the mindset blocks keeping you away.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled...

In this episode, we go over what is love avoidance, how it looks in relationships, and 3 things you can do to unlearn it and improve your connection to others and yourself today. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Lisa Palac's Website Sign up for the Spending and Debting Money Rehab waitlist   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signatu...

Determining how we feel is vital to showing up for ourselves with self-love, showing up as our own person in relationships, and getting what we need. But it can be hard to get in touch with our feelings if we have spent years suppressing them or self-medicating.  In this episode, I talk about how it may look like to shut down your feelings with an intimacy disorder and how to start the process of...

Unresolved trauma gets stuck in your body and not only will affect you individually (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically), but also in your relationships as well. In this episode, we dig into how it may look.  Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available,...

Fantasy and living in our heads are fancy coping mechanisms that keep us emotionally safe but also keeps us stuck.  In this episode, we break down what fantasy may look like in your everyday life, how it keeps you from the life you want, and a practical step you can take to start to undo it. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my sign...

Let's get the second half of your year (or whenever you are listening to this podcast) in gear by knowing if it's time for your relationship to come to a pause or keep it going.  Listen for 3 key signs to know whether to keep going or possibly end it.   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help...

In this episode, we talk about what is a victim mentality, how might it show up in relationships, and what to do about it!   23 Signs You’re Suffering From a Victim Mentality Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie...

Letting others in is hard. We can be afraid of being hurt, let down, or made to look foolish. It's also hard to determine who are the right people to let in, if any at all. In this episode, we dig into what gets in the way of letting others in, how we may be the main ones who stop it, and next steps we can take to get better.  Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here...

Sometimes, even when you know it's time to end a relationship, it's hard to let go. In this episode, Shena digs into 3 reasons it's hard to let go, how this sets you back, and some next steps you can take to move forward.   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced,...

In this episode, I give you three ways to ensure you are not choosing people who may end up hurting you down the road. We talk about learning from previous lessons, paying attention to your inner voice, and not being bogged down by guilt!  Take a listen and share with a friend who needs it!  Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my sign...

We talk about two of the ways that our unhealthy attachment can play out in relationships - love addiction and love avoidance. These intimacy disorders play out in predictable patterns that are possible to break by doing our own internal work.   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love...

This week, we did into how old anger can negatively affect our self-image, relationships with others, and impact unhealthy coping mechanisms.   We talk about the different "faces" of anger, some of the underlying emotions, and the best first steps you can take to resolve it.   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature c...

This week, we're digging all into inner healing! In this episode, Shena discusses 3 blocks that get in the way and gives you one tool to use when you're feeling frustrated and overwhelmed to bring you back to a place of calm.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced,...

Often times, we're stuck in unhealthy relationship cycles because we think we can control others. This episode, we'll talk about why this may happen and some examples that commonly occur.    Have a question for the podcast? Ask it here:  http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/questions   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature...

If you have a problem getting close to others or letting others in, this is the episode for you. We discuss 5 reasons why intimacy can be so hard, even when it's what we truly want.    Have a question for the podcast? Ask it here:  http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/questions   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching...

Welcome to Black Girls Heal where we help women break the cycle of unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships and feeling not enough to get the love they want, need, and most importantly deserve. We do this by helping you heal on both the inside AND the outside.    Have a question for the podcast? Ask it here:  http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/questions     Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love...