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Is He SERIOUS About You? 3 SOLID Signs | Don’t Miss THESE When was the last time you really thought about your long-term dating goal? Knowing whether you want a life partner or just want to have fun with no commitment will help you determine what kinds of questions to ask a potential partner. Also, those looking for a serious relationship will approach dating from a very different energy lev...

7 EARLY Signs A Guy Wants To Be COMMITTED To You Women can often overlook crucial early signs of a partner’s readiness for commitment due to being blinded by affection. Instead of being blinded, let’s take back your power and talk about the seven telltale signs of a man’s sincere interest in a lasting bond. If you have followed me for any length of time, you’ll know that I...

If A Man Does THIS, He’s Loyal To YOU! Establishing trust and building a strong foundation of loyalty from the early stages of dating is the basis for a long lasting relationship. There are certain character traits that contribute to loyalty and without them, each partner may feel insecure and start worrying about the longevity of the relationship. We’ll also chat about the significanc...

Dating: A Failed Technology? What does commitment mean? In our younger years, it means finding someone to build a life with and (usually) to start a family with. Younger people often have a naive outlook on commitment, especially when it comes to marriage, when in reality, the divorce rate in the US is still hovering at the 50% mark. In midlife years, our childrearing is (usually) complete, many h...

Do THIS When He Pulls Away… Chemistry is a huge reason why we connect with certain people. We’ve got various feel-good chemicals and hormones being released that push us into lust and limerence early in a relationship. But this chemical attraction is often misunderstood. Men will often think about how you make him feel instead of how he feels about you . Can you see the distinction? Me...

Do High-Quality Men (Men Over 40) Exist? with @raydoktor What does “high-quality” mean when we’re talking about men (and women)? Basically it means that men are doing inner work and acknowledging that they’re growing as a person daily. High-quality men don’t run away from conversations about feelings and what they want in a relationship. On the contrary, they welcome...

 Why A Man CHOOSES You Over ANOTHER Woman Did you realize that how we related to our parents during our early childhood years deeply affects how we choose our partners later in life? The lessons we learn from the primary adults in our lives from birth through age 8 or 9 shape our personalities and belief system and we carry these lessons with us forever…unless we’re open to doing inner...

Attachment Styles: Why We Choose Who We Choose w/Dr. Stan Tatkin You’ve heard me talk about attachment styles before but today we’re diving deep with Dr. Stan Tatkin to really understand what each style means and how each style manifests during the early stages of a relationship. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, author, and developer of A Psychobiological Ap...

Men Have a Hard Time Not THINKING ABOUT YOU When You Tell Them This Relationships are built on connections and in the early stages of dating someone new, a strong connection can begin to propel the relationship forward. This is often where lust and limerence come into play and everything about this person is new and exciting. Think back to when you were in your teens or young adulthood. Do you rem...

Men (Over 40) Need THIS From a Woman To Fully Commit Commitment for some men is a dirty word. Sometimes men are left reeling after a divorce, so the last thing they want is a serious relationship. When a man is widowed, they can feel guilt when they want to start dating. But none of these scenarios means they won’t ever commit; they just might take longer to figure out what they want in a pa...

Try THIS To Meet High-Quality Men Over 40 with Guest Sabrina Rising I’m thrilled to have fellow coach Sabrina Rising as my guest because there are always different perspectives when it comes to giving advice and seeing the same situations from a male vs female vantage point. One quote from this episode that really stuck out was, “You’re not making mistakes; you’re choosing...

3 Early Signs He’s Ready For Commitment With You I do NOT believe that being in your midlife years condemns you to being single for the rest of your days. In fact, since we humans are living longer – many into their 90s – that should be even more incentive to enjoy the company of others and to embrace the dating process. Yes, there are duds out there, but in general men want stro...

Use THESE Techniques To Attract A High Quality Man Do you remember the movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murray? In the movie, his character wakes up to the EXACT same song on the radio and same conversations with coworkers and friends. It takes the whole movie and a lesson that he had to learn before he moved into a new day. Sometimes the dating world feels like this movie. You attract the same type...

Men (Over 40) Who Exhibit THIS Make Good Life Partners Believe it or not, not all men over 40 are players and there are many who want to find a life partner. Yes, the over 40 age group often comes with trauma from divorce or other bad relationships but by no means does that mean finding a life partner after this age is out of the question. Set your high standards, don’t be afraid to be picky...

Can He Love Me If Our Attachment Style Is Off? Technology is wonderful but too much can obviously cause problems in our lives. One example is texting. The ability to send short notes to people is certainly convenient but in the dating world, depending on texting as a primary way to communicate can give a false sense of bonding or attachment. When you’re looking for a relationship, real commu...

Do THIS To Meet A Quality Man Who Will Adore You How many frogs have you kissed trying to find your prince charming? Many women complain that there are no good guys left in the world because they seem to always attract the guys who just want casual sex, who don’t value women, or who still have a lot of inner work to complete. But I invite you to set your standards HIGH! What is YOUR definiti...

Men Are Strongly Attracted to Women Who Have These Qualities It stands to reason that we are physically attracted to someone first before we get to know them. Afterall, outward appearance is eye catching; think about that ‘look across a crowded room’. But physical attraction does NOT equal long term compatibility. You can have a great time in bed with someone but not connect outside of...

Why Men (Over 40) Act Interested, But They Can’t Seem To Commit We can answer a lot of questions about midlife men and their trouble with commitment if we look back in time. In their 20s, men were dating with a mission: To find a wife, settle down, and have the obligatory 2.5 kids. Now skip ahead 20 years and the vast majority of men who are dating in their 40s or 50s have been divorced. Whe...

Does His Silence Mean It’s Over & He’s Lost Interest?? My coaching clients tell me all the time that when a guy goes silent – even when the chemistry is awesome – they have a difficult time not jumping to conclusions, such as, “He doesn’t like me; I hit a nerve; I did something wrong”. You know the routine. But those thoughts are really made up stories...

He’s Pulled Away | AVOID THIS MISTAKE! Doesn’t it seem odd that two people can have two very different definitions of a relationship? The dating world is confusing these days, mostly because it’s so easy (and acceptable) to hook up instead of committing to someone. In the olden days people were expected to get married before having sex; nowadays it’s acceptable to have mult...

When A Man Sends You MIXED SIGNALS, Here’s What He’s Thinking Mixed signals are tough to break down because there can be any number of reasons why your guy is acting this way. But it boils down to lack of communication and lack of awareness of what he REALLY wants in his life. It’s all too easy to hook up these days and some actually give their hearts away too quickly and get hur...

3 KEYS To Identifying If He’s Your Soulmate or Your True Love Some midlifers will argue that ‘true love’ and ‘soulmates’ are figments from Hollywood movies. Nobody falls head over heels in love and devotes every waking moment to their beloved…or do they? Finding true love is certainly possible but it takes going DEEP with conversations. The more you learn about...

Men Need THIS To Fully Commit To A Woman w/@manisfriedman I am honored to have Rabbi Manis Friedman as my guest today. He is a world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher who uses the ancient wisdom of Torah/Kabbalah plus modern wit to captivate audiences around the world. In this special conversation, we’re chatting about marriage. As you might guess, this is a complex subjec...

He Wants To Move On and You Feel Crushed, How Do You Heal? Think back to the break ups in your life. How did you handle your emotions? What lessons did you learn from that relationship? In the movies, the women are often on the receiving end of a break up and they gravitate toward eating too much ice cream. While that might be funny in the movies, a break up in real life is not so light-hearted. O...

Letting Go: How To Know It’s Time To Move On From A Relationship… Breaking up is never easy, no matter what level of relationship you’re in. Everyone’s emotions are raw and it can be a very confusing time figuring out if you really want to break up or if there’s still a way to stay together. Ultimately, each person needs to address if their needs are being met and the...