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Send us a Message If you're new here, I was in an abusive relationship and I had no idea that it was abuse until the day I left. Therefore I have made it my mission to help women understand the toxic traits and techniques of an abuser because if I didn't know, there are hundreds if not thousands, or maybe even more women out there that are in a toxic, abusive relationship and they have n...

Send us a Message When you have been in a certain place for a long enough time to make it feel comfortable when you're not really comfortable because it is familiar and we tend to get familiarized with things and then just succumb to whatever it is and that is when this comes out. How did I know that my relationship was abusive? One of the reasons why I recognized that my relationship was abu...

Send us a Message During this year I have learned a very important lesson as well. The more I talk about toxic and abusive relationships to help you understand that you were in an abusive relationship and help you with the tools to get moving away from this relationship. I have also learned a few lessons myself. Going from a toxic abusive relationship into a healthy relationship is not going to be...

Send us a Message In this episode I bring along Brie Robertson, she talks about her story of physical & emotional abuse while also telling us about the 7 recovery stages of abuse. I was looking at my TikTok one day and I found her, immediately fell in love with her content. I reached out to her because there was one TikTok that actually hit me and I wanted her to share this with you. There are...

Send us a Message You're starting to see past this and you're starting to see them for who they are. Now you're stuck because now you see what you haven't been wanting to see and you're freaking out because now you don't know what to do. You're trying to figure it out. How to move all these different pieces, but you don't want him to know. They know, somehow...

Send us a Message We believe that relationships are just hard and that we have to keep struggling through them and that is not the case. Abusive relationships are very different from hard relationships and if you don't recognize that your relationship is an abusive relationship and you work towards either moving out or understanding where you are to take the correct action, it can actually be...

Send us a Message If you've been in a toxic, abusive relationship for any amount of time you've had this mentality for a while now, and you probably already even tried to change this person. Now, let me ask you this: How many times have you tried to change him? What are the things that you have done to change him? Next question. Have you been able to change anything at all in their habit...

Send us a Message I felt I needed to become somebody different because of how badly I had been hurt and how broken my mind and my heart were from everything that I had been through.  There were a lot of things that I did not have clear, and I know that there are a lot of you out there going through this right now as well or have been through it and can relate. I thought that me being in my forties...

Send us a Message I didn't realize while I was in it, that I was in an abusive relationship and I had learned to lie my way through the relationship.  Through the lies, I had found where I was safe.  But I was lying. I was lying to him and I was lying to myself all the time. It became so common and so much a part of my life that I didn't realize every time I came up with a lie. I even li...

Send us a Message The day we had officially moved out and we were sitting up in our new home, I told my son that I was sorry that Daddy was no longer going to be living with us. His answer truly surprised me. He said that it was all better now because it was going to be no more screaming in the house and he knew his daddy was mean. While I was struggling to leave him without his father figure by l...

Send us a Message As women, we tend to be our own worst enemy. I know that this goes a very long way. It goes far and it goes wide, and it happens to the best of us. It doesn't matter if you have a weight issue, it doesn't matter if it's what you see in the mirror. It doesn't matter if it's about your career, or it said about being a mom. We tend to be our own worst critic...

Send us a Message When you're in a toxic, abusive relationship, the most important thing that you have to know and learn is that you are in one. Because when you don't know that you're in a toxic, abusive relationship, you think that there's just a problem with your relationship and what you're trying to do over and over and over again is trying to fix your relationship ju...

Send us a Message In this podcast episode, we talk about leaving a toxic relationship, emphasizing the importance of recognizing toxic patterns and prioritizing self-love. Toxic relationships often follow a deceptive pattern, starting with minor issues that escalate over time. The illusion of perfection leads us to believe we can fix the problems, but the truth is, the issue lies with the toxic pa...

Send us a Message In this episode, we look into the challenging dynamics of being in a relationship with a narcissist or someone with narcissistic tendencies. If you've ever experienced this, you'll immediately relate to what we discuss. Narcissists always crave attention and feel entitled to it, making the holiday season a particularly difficult time. Picture this: while you cherish see...

Send us a Message In this episode, we uncover the cunning motives behind why narcissists shower their new supply with everything they once promised but never fulfilled with you. It's not a mere coincidence; it's a deliberate tactic to evoke jealousy and make you question your desirability. This pattern is all too common in narcissistic behavior, aimed at devaluing and undermining your se...

Send us a Message In this compelling episode, we're discussing the power of sharing your message. No matter what kind of abusive or toxic relationship you've experienced, it's crucial to break free and speak out. Abuse, whether subtle or severe, is never an expression of love. Trauma bonding and confusion often trap us in a cycle of hope and disappointment, waiting for someone who w...

Send us a Message Discover the shocking impact of abusive relationships in this episode! Narcissistic abuse can leave lasting traumatic stress, even leading to PTSD. Join us as we explore how emotional abuse affects the brain, causing hypervigilance and persistent negative thoughts. Learn how the brain is affected by abusive behaviors.  Find out the surprising effects of cortisol, the stress hormo...

Send us a Message In this gripping episode, we explore the emotional aftermath of leaving a toxic, abusive relationship and why we  play the guilt and shame card by thinking: "Why am I so stupid?" Unraveling the layers of pain and self-doubt, they recount the hurtful realization of feeling deceived and falling victim to someone's manipulation. But there's an important revelatio...

Send us a Message In this intriguing episode, we explore the complexities of abusive and toxic relationships, where intimacy becomes a major point of contention. We dive into a common pattern where men express dissatisfaction with the lack of intimacy, while women struggle to understand why they lose interest in being sexually intimate. The show sheds light on how abusive dynamics affect the way w...

Send us a Message In this episode, we challenge the notion that imperfections are a natural part of any relationship. Join me to shed light on the hidden dangers of toxic relationships and the crucial importance of recognizing their toxicity.  Toxic people can have a devastating impact on our lives, akin to a poison that slowly seeps into our well-being. We delve deep into the true meaning of toxi...

Send us a Message When you start in a toxic relationship, when you start to meet this person that will lead you down the road of a toxic, abusive, or narcissistic relationship, they start creating a person for you to fall in love with.  They create a persona for your imagination purposes only and when they have you, they'll drop it. The problem is that we tend to not leave our toxic relations...

Send us a Message Financial abuse involves controlling a victim's ability to acquire, use, and maintain their financial freedom. Abusers think their money is theirs, but so is yours. Not only do they want to control your lives, your emotions, and your thoughts, but they also want to control your money.  Why is this something that is not recognized or even talked about? This is a form of silen...

Send us a Message In this episode, we look into the dynamics of narcissistic partners, their tactics like gaslighting and love bombing, and the concept of trauma bonding. Understanding these patterns can give you the strength to take necessary actions and seek support.  Remember, you are not alone, and there is hope for a better future. To learn more about my coaching sessions and how to break fre...

Send us a Message In this podcast episode, I'll share a powerful technique called "The Gray Rock Method," designed to help those dealing with toxic or abusive relationships. I personally struggle with implementing this method due to my passionate nature, but I recognize its importance.  The Gray Rock Method involves becoming unresponsive and uninteresting to the abuser to avoid thei...

Send us a Message Trauma bonding is a psychological response to abuse. This happens when an abused person forms an unhealthy bond with their abuser. The person that is experiencing or exposed to this abuse may even develop sympathy for the abuser, this becomes reinforced by cycles of abuse and then remorse.  Trying to leave a toxic or abusive relationship comes with a lot to manage. Not only will...