Class with Kate

This concludes our series on BAD COUPLES THERAPY… for now. Here Kate meets with Martha and Megan, who have both experienced bad therapy, to very different degrees. Learn when it’s time to report vs when it’s time to find someone else. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Renee comes to Class with Kate after her husband of 20 years had an affair. She wonders what to do and if her husband is really capable of repair. She then adds her experiences with couples therapy, which reflect Sarah and Renee’s experiences (in the previous episode). Listen to what Kate has to say about how to move forward. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codepe...

Both Sarah and Renee have been unhappily married to their partners for quite some time. When they have sought out couples therapy, they have gotten no meaningful support. Listen to their stories and how Kate helps them advocate for themselves. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok   www.codependencykate.com

Are all relationships 50/50? For every action, there is an equal reaction, right? That’s how therapists have been trained to treat couples. But what about in cases of abuse? Let’s talk about when couples therapy harms women and how to advocate for yourself. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok   www.codependencykate.com

Content Warning: Discussion of childhood abuse, neglect, physical punishment, and trauma. John came into Office Hours worried about his attitude, his relationships, and the growing distance between himself and his children. But as he shares stories from his childhood, a much bigger picture emerges. Growing up with neglectful, emotionally abandoning parents, living in a hoarded home, and experienci...

This class started with an unexpected problem: Kate couldn't think. What looked like simple brain fog became a live demonstration of what it means to listen to yourself instead of pushing harder. Rather than forcing her way through it, Kate used the BEND framework in real time to understand what her mind and body were trying to communicate. The result was an unplanned but powerful lesson about emo...

In Part 2 of My DIL Stopped Talking to Me, Kate sits down one-on-one with Tiffany to go deeper into her estrangement from her son and daughter-in-law. As the conversation unfolds, Tiffany identifies some influence related to what Kate calls the adultosphere—the internet space that believes younger generations are cutting people off for no reason and don't value family. Together, they unpack what m...

What happens when an estranged mother-in-law sits down with women who have lived through estrangement from the other side? In this episode of Office Hours, Tiffany shares her pain as an estranged MIL. Christina reflects on reconnecting with her father after 20 years of estrangement, while Amber offers insight from her healthy relationship with her own mother-in-law. With Kate facilitating the conv...

Everyone talks about the manosphere. But what if there's an adultosphere too? In this episode, Kate explores how childism—the belief that adults deserve more power and respect than children—shapes families and relationships. She also unpacks the surprising similarities between toxic mothers-in-law and entitled men: both expect authority based on status rather than earned trust. From "because I'm y...

Trigger warning: sexual abuse, religious trauma, coercion, emotional abuse. Allison married young inside a high-control religious culture and spent years believing her husband’s behavior was normal. But after realizing her wedding night was assault and uncovering the deep misogyny driving their marriage, she asks the question so many women are terrified to face: can a toxic incel husband actually...

Taylor and Iris come into Office Hours with two different marriage struggles that uncover the same deeper pain: feeling unseen. Iris is navigating difficult in-law dynamics, unwanted gifts from grandparents, and uncertainty about her place in the family. Taylor opens up about grief and the loneliness of feeling misunderstood by her husband. Together, they explore boundaries, emotional disconnectio...

Ever gone numb during conflict? Forgotten entire conversations? Felt disconnected from yourself, your partner, or your life? You may be dissociating — and most people don’t even realize they’re doing it. In this episode, Kate breaks down what dissociation actually is, why the nervous system uses it for protection, and how it quietly impacts relationships, communication, intimacy, parenting, and co...

Chuck is estranged from his mom and brother and keeps asking the same painful question: How do I have a relationship with people who won’t change? But Kate challenges something deeper underneath it all: what if his constant need to help, rescue, explain, and fix them is actually protecting him from grief? This episode unpacks the exhausting cycle of trying to manage emotionally unavailable family...

Fay and Amelia are two mothers facing the same devastating realization: the pain their parents caused didn’t end in childhood. It followed them into marriage, parenting, and the way they see themselves. In this Office Hours episode, they unpack what happens when your parents can’t take accountability, can’t emotionally repair, and may never become the people you needed. But the harder question is...

What happens when you finally realize the emotional neglect and abuse you survived as a child didn’t end… it just became your marriage dynamic? In this episode, Kate breaks down why emotionally neglected children often unconsciously recreate familiar relationships in adulthood and the first steps to stopping abandoning yourself inside your marriage. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTub...

What happens when you stop avoiding your feelings and actually process them in real time? In this episode, Kate gets vulnerable in real time by making a “hate list” — uncovering annoyance, fear, and emotions that are usually buried beneath unwanted behaviors.  Then in Office Hours, Laura shares her fears about parenting her daughter while navigating difficult family dynamics and trying not to repe...

Linda and Emily are in different stages of marriage, but they’re asking the same question: how do you stop losing yourself while trying to make a relationship work? This episode explores emotional labor, overfunctioning, resentment, and the pressure women feel to organize their entire lives around men. Kate breaks down what it actually means to “decenter men” without becoming cold, detached, or an...

In this episode Kate talks about what a dismissive avoidant is, why it’s a problem for you, and how to deal with it once and for all. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok   www.codependencykate.com  

Mia never expected one confrontation to cost her everything. After forcing her father to come clean about an affair with her sister-in-law’s mother, her entire family turned on her — including her sister. In this Office Hours episode, Kate breaks down what happens when families protect secrets over accountability, why truth-tellers often become the scapegoat, and how estrangement can become the pr...

Two women. Two marriages. One frustrating question: What do you do when he’s trying… but it’s still not enough? In this Office Hours episode with Diana and Mary, Kate breaks down the gray area—where there’s effort, but no real repair. You’ll learn: Why change ≠ trust How to set boundaries without over-accommodating What to do when you feel stuck between hope and reality Because “better” doesn’t al...

Estrangement is painful—and for many adult children, it feels completely unfair. Because it is. In fact, IT’S BULLSHIT.   In this episode, we talk about whether reconciliation is actually possible, what real change would require, and that you don’t NEED your parents to heal.     You’ll learn how to process what happened, regulate your emotions, and move forward on your own terms—whether that inclu...

Amelia is overwhelmed. The trauma work, the awareness, the emotions—it’s all too much, and it’s starting to impact her ability to function. So what do you do when healing itself becomes the problem? Kate helps her sort through what’s actually happening—and offers a next step most people don’t expect. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “doing the work” but getting worse, this episode will challenge wh...

Two women. Two marriages. Different stages—and completely different next steps. In week two of the group format, Kate listens to both Jackie and Tina’s stories and compares what’s actually happening in each relationship—showing why the same advice doesn’t work for everyone. She helps each woman get clear on what to do next based on where they are, not where they wish they were. Then she breaks dow...

Ever found yourself crying and laughing at the same time—and then feeling confused or even ashamed? In this episode, we walk through a real-life example of what looks like “losing control” emotionally… and break down what’s actually happening underneath. Using my BEND method, you’ll learn how to: Identify what you’re actually feeling beneath the reaction Understand the unmet need driving those emo...

Chris’s daughter is finally leaving an abusive relationship—but Chris is terrified of saying the wrong thing. When your child is hurting and vulnerable, your response can either build safety… or push them back. We break down the common mistakes parents make—and how to actually show up in a way that helps. In the second half, you’ll see what real support looks like in practice—what to say, how to s...