Brown Girl Self-Care

This epside is for the eldest daughter who had to put her life and joy on hold to carry the weight of adult responsibilities on her shoulders. Ok, so I stand corrected. The writings shared weren't about "sensuality" per se, but Erotic as Power. I still suggest you read it when you have time to linger this month. Here it is: The Uses of the Erotic by Audre Lorde Also, join me on substac...

I have a confession to make. A few days ago, my old survival brain started panicking about business metrics, and I frantically sat down to plan a massive, exhausting 90-day challenge. My plan was to force myself to show up on camera at 5:00 AM every single morning until the end of the year to feed the algorithm. That wasn't how I looked at it initially, but that's what it was. Let's ta...

I'm writing more about rebuilding my life in my mid-life. Join me on Substack Putting on my auntie/much older sister hat on for this episode. Got a listener question recently from a young mother. She is working, about to go to school, and raising a young daugher on her own. On top of that the father of her child is "not the nicest." In her question she asks if things will ever get easi...

Join me on substack rightt here! Want to watch this episode instead? Click here to watch it on Youtube! if the link isn't clickable, copy and paste this into your browser: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HrLwESe5Y3U Hey, hey!! The Fall Back Fall Challenge starts today and it's a call for Black women to intentionally do less during the last quarter of the year. Black women are socialized to...

I've been on a bit of a summer break but I'll be back next Monday with a fresh episode!! In this replay episode I'm giving you a four question exercise you can begin using IMMEDIATELY in times of feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities and challenges straight from the book How To Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.co...

Happy Monday. In today's episode I'm sharing a little revelation I had while shopping at Costco recently. I have done some major healing in the last few years, but I still get disregulated. It's ok to not be perfect and it's ok to take a breath, raise your hand and ask for/receive help. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www...

Hey Beautiful Brown Girl! Have you experienced moments of feeling...off, but don't understand why or how you got to that place? I definitely have which is why I do my best to check-in with myself everyday. Today I'm sharing six questions to start asking yourself daily or as needed. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Su...

How can you begin to embody what it means to take up space? As a Black woman who worked in corporate America I can tell you that there were many, many times that I bit my tongue or hid my brilliance and based on conversations I've had, I am not the only one. How do we embrace our value and begin to take up the space we rightfully deserve? Today I'm sharing three specific ways: 1. Honor you...

Did you know that you can deepen your self-care practice by implementing the 4 S's? Silence, solitude, surrender and stillness can be used separately or collectively and don't have to be "perfected" in order to be of benefit. When your spirit feels dry and in need of moisturizing, it's likely in need of one of the 4 S's. Join Me On Youtube! Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime a...

Have you ever woken up completely drained, barely could manage work so blamed yourself for not being "productive enough"? In this episode, we’re unpacking the dangerous lie that rest has to be earned and why so many of us confuse emotional and physical exhaustion with laziness. If you’ve been forcing yourself to function through burnout, overstimulation, or stress just to keep up with a ro...

Become a private podcast subscriber to unlock new episodes here -> Click Here To Subscribe Hey sis, welcome back to the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast — the space where we honor our humanity and choose ourselves, unapologetically.  This week, we're talking about these jobs, okay? I saw a post on social media from a young woman who started a new job, and just a week or two in, a better opportu...

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What does your mental health and well-being capacity actually look like right now? In this episode, Bre introduces the concept of the Self-Care Cup : a powerful framework for measuring your capacity for healing, joy, and resilience. Tune in as Bre breaks down the 4 distinct stages of the Self-Care Cup, helps you identify exactly where you currently stand, and shares the practical steps needed to m...

Our safety matters. Period. This episode is a reminder to protect yourself, know your squad, and stay aware of your surroundings. Inspired by the untimely passing of Nolan, this conversation wasn't something I could hold back.  Then I'm switching gears into something deeply personal - the in-between place of healing. If you've been doing the work and wondering why it's still taking...

Are you waiting for a radical sign to finally step into the version of yourself you’ve always imagined? I'm breaking down why that "permission" you’re looking for isn’t coming. Spoiler alert - it's because you are already her. Key Moments: The Radical Sign Trap: Why waiting for the stars to align is actually a form of procrastination. Activation vs. Achievement: You don't becom...

When plans fall apart or life throws a curveball, what is the very first thing that starts spinning in your head? For most of us, the shock is immediately followed by a wave of self-attack: “I should have known better. I should have tried harder. I should have done things differently.” In this episode, lets talk about the "should" spiral and how we abandon our internal authority when thing...

Now, more than ever, is the right time for you to be thinking about yourself. If you are a Black woman in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond, chances are you have spent decades as a caregiver. Whether you are managing children, siblings, grandchildren, or aging parents, you might be at a point where something simply has to give. If you notice that you are constantly exhausted and your health is feeling...

Have you ever looked at your life and realized things are not going the way you initially designed or imagined? You’re making the changes, you’re being intentional, you’re doing the work—but that "one great thing" you had your heart set on just didn't pan out. In this intimate solo episode I am reminding you that there is something amazing (many somethings in fact) out there for you ev...

Today I am in conversation with Tara Pringle Jefferson, Author of Bloom How You Must: A Black Woman’s Guide to Self-Care and Generational Healing. Tara is the founder of The Self Care Suite, a digital wellness community for Black women. Over the last decade, she has brought her wellness expertise to corporate audiences including WW, SiriusXM, Wayfair, and Priceline. During our time together we tal...

Have you ever caught yourself fighting for a situation you already know you don't want because it shrinks you? In this episode, I’m sharing a moment of clarity I had after spending half an hour chasing down someone in a store to inquire about a job. It will make sense when you hit "play" and have a listen. We try so hard to make an uncomfortable situation comfortable just because it fe...

I'm back behind the mic and dropping some real talk about what happens when life forces you to wake up from autopilot. This week, I’m sharing the raw reality of working a labor-intensive retail job at 50, dealing with the daily grind of pushing carts, and how a repetitive question from an older gentleman in the store literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to look at how I'm n...

After an extended hiatus, I'm back behind the mic!! I’m sharing the raw reality of navigating a major life transition at 50, dealing with the structural games of the "outside world," and wrestling with the deeply colonized fear that unless you are young, trendy, and constantly producing, your voice doesn't matter. Spoiler alert: It does matter. True, decolonized self-care isn't...

Let's talk a little about when you are in a season that requires you to un-labor a bit and stop grinding. I believe that Black women deserve more ease and to receive income and abundance with ease, myself included, so there will be times that we are required to un-labor and allow God to step in and provide miracles. This is counterintuitive to the lessons we learned that told us that in order...

Valentine's Day was just a few days ago, but today we’re talking about the side of love we rarely discuss: the grace of letting go. Inspired by a surprising lesson from Mr. Rogers, this episode explores why we often keep pouring our "salt"—our energy, labor, and essence—into relationships that are no longer viable. Let's talk about the "Fixer" trap, the difference between a...

Late in 2025 one of my distractions, one that I wasn't aware of for a while, was fear. I was afraid that If I didn't earn income or receive it in a certain way, I wasn't doing things "right." This ended up putting me into a bit of freeze mode and if you've ever experienced freeze mode you know how much that feels like being stuck in time. In todays episode, let's talk a...