Brown Girl Self-Care

Are you waiting for a radical sign to finally step into the version of yourself you’ve always imagined? I'm breaking down why that "permission" you’re looking for isn’t coming. Spoiler alert - it's because you are already her. Key Moments: The Radical Sign Trap: Why waiting for the stars to align is actually a form of procrastination. Activation vs. Achievement: You don't becom...

When plans fall apart or life throws a curveball, what is the very first thing that starts spinning in your head? For most of us, the shock is immediately followed by a wave of self-attack: “I should have known better. I should have tried harder. I should have done things differently.” In this episode, lets talk about the "should" spiral and how we abandon our internal authority when thing...

Now, more than ever, is the right time for you to be thinking about yourself. If you are a Black woman in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond, chances are you have spent decades as a caregiver. Whether you are managing children, siblings, grandchildren, or aging parents, you might be at a point where something simply has to give. If you notice that you are constantly exhausted and your health is feeling...

Have you ever looked at your life and realized things are not going the way you initially designed or imagined? You’re making the changes, you’re being intentional, you’re doing the work—but that "one great thing" you had your heart set on just didn't pan out. In this intimate solo episode I am reminding you that there is something amazing (many somethings in fact) out there for you ev...

Today I am in conversation with Tara Pringle Jefferson, Author of Bloom How You Must: A Black Woman’s Guide to Self-Care and Generational Healing. Tara is the founder of The Self Care Suite, a digital wellness community for Black women. Over the last decade, she has brought her wellness expertise to corporate audiences including WW, SiriusXM, Wayfair, and Priceline. During our time together we tal...

Have you ever caught yourself fighting for a situation you already know you don't want because it shrinks you? In this episode, I’m sharing a moment of clarity I had after spending half an hour chasing down someone in a store to inquire about a job. It will make sense when you hit "play" and have a listen. We try so hard to make an uncomfortable situation comfortable just because it fe...

I'm back behind the mic and dropping some real talk about what happens when life forces you to wake up from autopilot. This week, I’m sharing the raw reality of working a labor-intensive retail job at 50, dealing with the daily grind of pushing carts, and how a repetitive question from an older gentleman in the store literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to look at how I'm n...

After an extended hiatus, I'm back behind the mic!! I’m sharing the raw reality of navigating a major life transition at 50, dealing with the structural games of the "outside world," and wrestling with the deeply colonized fear that unless you are young, trendy, and constantly producing, your voice doesn't matter. Spoiler alert: It does matter. True, decolonized self-care isn't...

Let's talk a little about when you are in a season that requires you to un-labor a bit and stop grinding. I believe that Black women deserve more ease and to receive income and abundance with ease, myself included, so there will be times that we are required to un-labor and allow God to step in and provide miracles. This is counterintuitive to the lessons we learned that told us that in order...

Valentine's Day was just a few days ago, but today we’re talking about the side of love we rarely discuss: the grace of letting go. Inspired by a surprising lesson from Mr. Rogers, this episode explores why we often keep pouring our "salt"—our energy, labor, and essence—into relationships that are no longer viable. Let's talk about the "Fixer" trap, the difference between a...

Late in 2025 one of my distractions, one that I wasn't aware of for a while, was fear. I was afraid that If I didn't earn income or receive it in a certain way, I wasn't doing things "right." This ended up putting me into a bit of freeze mode and if you've ever experienced freeze mode you know how much that feels like being stuck in time. In todays episode, let's talk a...

Hey, hey! Got a great question for you today straight from the community. How can we practice self-care during this time of civil unrest, ICE and fascism. This episode is not all inclusive. My hope is that it allows room for you to reflect on what is important to you. As mentioned in the episode, know your rights. ICE AGENTS ARE NOT POLICE OFFICERS though Police Officers may or may not accompany t...

In this episode I’m talking about something that’s deeply personal yet universally human: the courage to share your truth. Sometimes the weight we carry, like shame, fear, embarrassment, or unspoken experiences, can hold us back from living fully. Sharing your truth doesn’t have to be dramatic or performative, it is about creating space to release, reflect, and heal. We’re talking about: Why holdi...

In this first episode of the year, I’m sharing something that may not matter to anyone else on the planet and how it reminded me that self-care isn’t always loud, aesthetic, or dramatic. Sometimes self-care looks like claiming space. Sometimes it looks like taking one small step toward a vision you don’t need to explain to anyone else. We’re talking about: Why small beginnings matter (especially i...

The B.E.I.N.G. Space reopens January 3rd, 2026 Welcome to the final episode of our end-of-year series! I am wrapping up our conversation on self-recovery and boundaries by offering a framework for leaving 2025 behind and crafting a intentional, liberated blueprint for 2026. The steps are: Honor the release that needs to happen Your goals don't need to be about fixing your perceived flaws or be...

Following last week’s episode on being your authentic self, today we are diving into the challenging but essential work of communicating new, radical boundaries. This is all about preparing yourself for a truly authentic 2026 where you are free to be yourself. In this episode i'll be sharing: how boundaries are liberation the importance of staying as cool as a cucumber when expressing your bou...

The work discussed in this episode, as we enter the final days of 2025, is not just about ending the year on a high. What I feel it is, is an opportunity to see 2026 as the year your authentic self is non-negotiable. In this episode we are talking about self-care through the lens of transition, a fresh start, into the new year. In this episode let's explore: Winter as the Shedding Season: Usin...

In this episode, I'm getting honest about the moments when your spirit is no longer whispering, but instead she’s tapping you on the shoulder, side-eyeing you, and begging you to just sit down somewhere . As Black women, we’re praised for pushing through, carrying everything, and keeping it all together. But this season is about something different: honoring your humanity, choosing ease, and l...

Hello Beautiful Black Woman! In this (rewind) episode I'm sharing five ways that show me the healing work we are doing is actually making a difference. This includes: Understanding that there will still be hard things to process emotionally Understanding my toxic patterns and behaviors Not trying to change people but instead focusing on me Realizing that I can choose what I do for healing List...

Overconsumerism this holiday season will not save us. Many of us want to "keep up with the Jones'" when they likely are living check to check themselves. Buying with intention versus buying to people please and prove your worth are different energies. Let's have a quick chat about this. Our Sponsors: * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://w...

Hey, hey! In this episode I'm sharing part of a recent video I created. In It I talked about the idea of the American dream. By those standards, this vision of success we've been told to strive for, I am failing because my life doesn't align, and that's ok! Listen in for more Our Sponsors: * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.biltrewa...

If you are in need of a reminder to slow down, be present and not feel pressured to buy/have "all the things", this episode is definitely for you! Recently, i watched a movie on Hulu called "Perfect Days" about a toilet cleaner in Japan. I thought it would be about his job (and how could that even be exciting??) but it was about much, much more. I'm sharing six takeaways that w...

This episode, what I'm doing for the next 30 days is going to sound crazy. I get it. It needs to be done though because I'm locking in on how I'm blooming versus worrying about laboring to earn money. In our culture 9-5'ing/grinding is where our energy primarily goes and if there is anything left we do a little tending to ourselves. I'm flipping the narrative for the next 30 da...

Dear Black women, especially those of us over 40 years old, now is your time (and mine) to get "unstuck." Let's stop waiting around for something magical to happen in order for us to do WHATEVER it is we want to do in this season. This episode is straight from my Youtube Live. Be sure to subscribe there so you can see my beautiful face :). Here is the link Let me know what you thought...

There is a bit of cussery in this episode, heads up. I’m in my 50s and haven’t worked a traditional job in six years. In this episode, I’m sharing how I walked away from my job, the ways I’ve sustained myself, and what rebuilding my dream life actually looks like. I talk about: Why I quit my job and what led up to it How I kept myself afloat through moving, using my 401k, podcasting, freelancing,...